A Blog about Love, Sex, and Queerness

23yo, She/her or they/them. 18+. TERF/SWERF/MAPs do not interact. Like what you see/want to show appreciation? Cashapp is $worthyAF.

[blackgirlsreverything]

IG: @marrissax

[queerlovebyte]

something I’ve been learning over the course of these past few years that I think is really important is that it is so, so hard to communicate your real thoughts and feelings when you know it’s inconvenient for other people.

 It is really scary. It feels like you’re being selfish, narcissistic, unfair, and abusive just for having thoughts/feelings that aren’t what others want you to have. 

And so you accept unhappiness and shame and self-doubt. In some cases, you even end up accepting abuse/violence/oppression. 

Because you think that’s how it is supposed to be. Because it feels safer than the panic and embarrassment that comes from saying something you know the other person doesn’t want to hear, or feeling the the thing that you don’t want to admit you feel. 

But when you’re with someone--friend, family member, coworker, partner--who cares about you and wants to build healthy trust and respect between the both of you, and hear your truth...

the calm after the emotional storm inside you is so incredibly healing.  

[unthrifty--loveliness-deactivat]

Seriously, some of you dom bloggers are just such a jumble of clichés and bullshit

[dontgetwisewithme]

“Think you can handle the unconfined restraints of my mind? I will only post things I find hot ie naked women only cause dicks are gross and I ain’t gay. Enter at your own risk, a collar awaits those who dare enter. On your knees, sluts, that is forever your place. Serve the patriarchy. Looking for a female live in slave (I’m a MALE! Females only!) to move in immediately, hit me up if you wanna serve.”

[i-am-mx-monster]

DUDE you promised you wouldn’t copy my new bio text.

Although I’ll probably add “Don’t contact me if you’re not ready for the eternal darkness of my depraved and twisted mind, kitten.”

[thechronicmasochist-deactivated]

submissions from FEMALES welcome

[i-am-mx-monster]

OH you made it perfect.

[oursadisticfairytale]

Oh wait what about the suit with a red tie in front of a mirror with. No face profile picture

[i-am-mx-monster]

Seriously will you all stop ruining the fuckin surprises.

[an-angry-wolf]

Don’t forget you have to upload at least six gifs of you playing with a belt.

[unthrifty--loveliness-deactivat]

And the classic: picture from chin down, arms crossed, wearing a poorly-fitted suit.

[unthrifty--loveliness-deactivat]

Oh, and something about being an “alpha” 🙄

[trans-human-ist]

This is art 😂😂😂

[merrrpppp]

Dont forget wagging their index finger at the camera☝️

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Or holding their hand out to it.

[accarahara-deactivated20191231]

Something about being an alpha wolf and his entire page being a vault of secrets when it’s just white and black porn gifs with skinny white women and white guys with big dicks and his me section has poorly taken close up dick pics with the caption “on your knees slut” or “suck on this princess”

[littlemisfit]

Hi. I’m a Tumblr Dom. Welcome to my Deep Twisted Mind. I wear a suit…cuz it’s scareh. I wear a tie….cuz it’s scareh. Think you can handle the heat? I take all my pictures in black & white…. cuz it’s SCAREH

[kittysmashh]

I love the female form. All females. But my blog shows no diversity whatsoever. Check out my cool signature I leave on every photo, and if I deleted your caption who cares-it’s not my fault my followers don’t want to read. Male | NOT GAY

[elleabdl]

If your blog contains any of these above attributes you need to take a hard look at yourself because clearly we’re all laughing at you

[yungkiitten]

Let’s not forget that “I’m going to breed you” bullshit lmfao

[queerlovebyte]

this is so accurate holy shit 

[ri-toast]

It really freaks me out that people think body hair is unsanitary. Like y'all are just so brainwashed if you believe that body hair is perfectly normal and fine on men, but on women its suddenly dirty? Use your critical thinking skills for a few damn seconds, I’m begging you.

[queerlovebyte]

I’m having a rough time and I’m embarrassed to be having a rough time. 

but I know it will pass soon.

the feelings i am having are temporary. 

the lowest part of this down-swing is temporary. 

i just need to remember that. 

[kisunis]

[nonbinarypastels]

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[ratbasher]

[nonbinarypastels]

[Image Description: A pink color block with text that reads “protect black trans women”]

[leahberman]

dainty

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[msladyjay]

Normal mistakes to make in your 20s: forgetting to pay a bill, deleting your term paper by accident, confusing a customer’s order, getting on the wrong train to work, leaving your keys at home, dating the wrong person, arguing with your parents.

Things that are neither normal or mistakes in your 20s: domestic violence, rape, physical assault, blatant homophobia, racism, sexism, abuse.

[sylveonwishes]

[hellyeahscarleteen]

July 17th is HIV Prevention Day

If you’re wondering how HIV is transmitted, how you can avoid transmitting or contracting  it, and what you can do if you’ve been exposed to it or are HIV Positive, check out these resources:

Positively Informed: An HIV/AIDS Roundup

The Real Deal On HIV, PrEP, and PEP

The STI Files: Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV)

[accarahara-deactivated20191231]

I own a strap on but have never used it and tbh am scared to try. Any tips on how to use a dick as a person who doesn’t have one?

Tbh I’ve only used one once and I didn’t do it particularly well… but with everything I think it’s important to practice! I would sandwich pillows together and try inserting and going inbetween to try techniques you can do long term or things that are comfortable for your hips. Try it standing up, laying down, on your knees, etc etc

[queerlovebyte]

I find lying on my back with the person being penetrated on top is usually more comfortable for me. That's how my first time with a strap on was and so I could hold their hips and bounce them more easily than thrusting would be. I would also suggest wearing it for a half hour or so before sex to see how you feel; it can build the confidence a bit.

[queerlovebyte]

Review: Zoro DP Silicone Strap-On

Color: Black

Price: $69.95 

Store: Adam and Eve 

Width/Length: 1.5 in x 6.5

Okay, so my partner and I have used this a couple of times in a few different positions and we’re both really happy with it. 

The cost is pretty cheap compared to other harnesses and dildos, many of which you have to buy separately. While it’s not customizable in the same way, and I don’t believe the dildo is detachable, it’s a good toy for us because my partner really likes penetration. 

I really like the fact that the Zoro’s band is elastic, so I can slip it on pretty quickly and don’t have to fuss with buckles to make sure it fits. It was comfortable to wear, although you cannot pack with it if you wanted to. Silicone is also free of phthalates and is easier to clean than porous or plastic toys. 

The silicone had an almost silky feel to it, and my partner really liked the extra bulge at the tip of the dildo. My partner responds very well to A spot stimulation, so having that on the tip rather than towards the end closer to the wearer was great. Width/length wise, the Zoro was bigger than the internal vibrator we typically use, but not so big that it felt daunting or painful. The first time we used it I warmed my partner up with fingers, but the second time we were able to get it in pretty easily with no penetrative foreplay at all. 

This was my first time wearing a strap on, and I enjoyed having my hands free to stimulate my partner in other ways, as well as 

Having my partner sit in my lap while I wore the dildo was much easier for me than having them lying on their back while I thrust in. The dildo does not move much within the harness, so it was probably more due to my height and the angle at which I was thrusting that kept putting me up on my tiptoes. 

There is also a gap below the dildo part of the Zoro so that a person with a penis could still wear it--may be useful for people who have trouble getting erections/staying erect, are interested in double penetration, or experience dysphoria with their physical penis but not with penetrative toys. It says on the website that a person with a vagina could also enjoy stimulation due to this gap, but my partner and I have not experimented with that since I don’t like to be distracted while I’m trying to make my partner come. ;) 

Both the elastic straps and the silicone toy are easy to clean--during one of our sessions, we used it while my partner was on their period and it didn’t create an issue. The lack of texture or leather pieces definitely helps. 

A few cons--there is a relatively narrow hollow area inside the strap on that neither of my two bullet vibes could fit into (unsure about exact widths). The dildo does not appear to be detachable so it cannot be worn with another harness. The elastic stretches to fit those with 30"-52" waists, and there is not another version for bigger or smaller waists available. Language on the website describing use is very binarist and cissexist.

[queerlovebyte]

:)

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:^)