I’m Trying...

That is all.

[queerscarcrow]

My neighbors are awesome.

[lesbiangender-deactivated201908]

I’m gonna say something….. controversial

[lesbiangender-deactivated201908]

if you’re writing a story and your villain has (or is) dissociative identity disorder then your art is bad and you should feel bad.

[lesbiangender-deactivated201908]

you know how straight people are really terrible at telling gay jokes because they don’t understand what the actual funny parts of being gay are?

Yeah people without DID who try to use the disorder for horror/thriller purposes fail at it because they don’t understand how DID actually effects people and their lives and behavior and relationships

In fact every piece of dramatic media I can think of that depicts DID kinda relies on the audience not understanding how DID actually works

And if the audience being educated ruins their suspension of disbelief, you’ve fucked up

And if you have to demonize highly vulnerable abuse survivors to create drama, you might not have any business writing fiction to begin with

[lesbiangender-deactivated201908]

Fictional DID is always depicted as dangerous to everyone but the person with the disorder and it makes me wonder what amount of research is acceptable in Hollywood and TV these days

like in Split they’re all “different alters have different biological realities” as some kind of edgy “what if the hulk but real” thing, and as far as I know, the idea that different alters have different physiologies is not accepted by modern psychology, and was likely falsified by an extremely abusive, immoral, and sadistic psychologist who gave his patients dangerous experimental drugs just to see how they would react, and then when the patients complained of trouble breathing or heart problems, this doctor told the nurses that it was all part of ~multiple personality disorder~ so that they wouldn’t like. I don’t know. Tell someone that this doctor was poisoning his patients in a wholly unscientific manner for apparent shits and giggles.

So yeah, that such a good sign for that movie huh?? //sarc

Look I don’t have DID, but I did live with someone who did for a year. It barely affected me. The person told me because they assumed I would notice something odd if we were living together, but tbh if he hadn’t I probably wouldn’t have thought anything except maybe that he was forgetful and disorganized.

I only ever knowingly interacted with one alter, who a psychologist might describe as an “angry part”, as sometimes alters experience limited emotions and are classified as “emotional parts”. This is the kind of alter that movies like Split want you to think is a rage-crazy murder monster with no impulse control.

The real-life “angry alter” my roommate had? I mean he was kind of a dick. He always seemed generally pissed off but he wasn’t a threat to me. I think he maybe wasn’t very nice to my roommate but since that happened internally I never saw, I could only guess. Hardly a hulk-like sex murderer.

And actually the majority times I talked to this alter I didn’t even know it. Because usually he made a point of acting like my roommate so that no one would give the system any trouble. Because DID is a highly specialized, involuntary coping mechanism created to protect a victim of trauma or abuse. Alters form so that the victim can continue with their life and grow and develop. If all alters were dangerous volatile monsters that you could easily tell the difference between at a glance, they wouldn’t be a very effective defense mechanism.

So I would talk to my roommate as usual, and then like an hour later he would be like “whoa how long have I been gone, what was my body doing all day” and I would be like uhhh I literally don’t know dude if you hadn’t said that I wouldn’t have realized you weren’t the one fronting all day.

In Split it’s like “if I lose control of my alters they kidnap and murder people!!!” and meanwhile in reality it’s more like….. System needed to go to class today but Alter B was fronting when it was time to leave for class and they didn’t feel like going, so the whole system missed out on class and that sucks.

And when alters do hurt people its…. pretty much always the body of the system. There are suicidal and self-harming alters for sure. But I’ve never found a medically or scientifically valid article or study about homicidal alters. And certainly not alters who carry out complex kidnapping plots of multiple people.

And obviously fiction that demonizes any mental illness makes the world a more dangerous place for people with that mental illness, and I’ve even met mental health workers who believed the horror movie depiction of DID and thought my roommate was going to kill me. That is a serious problem. It’s one thing for Average Joe to think Split is a legit portrayal of DID, but when the people whose job it is to help mentally ill people believe this?? At best it’s going to be harder for systems to find the help they need. At worst, the mental health system becomes hostile and dangerous to those with DID.

[leosuncancervenus]

Oh, let’s all get into this post

[full-moon-phoenix]

Holy shit yes thank you!!! Things like media portrayal are one of the reasons I’m interested in studying psychology along with art. If I’m working in animation AND I’m educated, I could help fight against the horrible portrayal of mental illnesses in media.

[queerscarcrow]

YES.

[decorkiki]

Mens Fashion  - www.GoGetGlam.com

[bando--grand-scamyon]

…. *scribbles furiously on notepad*

[thedeanzlist]

Tips

[sunlit-music]

For the guys, butch women and non binary people all there. I’m a woman, but I’m reblogging this for anyone who finds this useful. ❤️

[queerscarcrow]

How much force could a force field feel if a force field could feel force?

-why?

[queerscarcrow]

No matter what happens; we’re all going to end up as dirt in the ground.

-noone

[queerscarcrow]

[queerscarcrow]

[dadjokeshq]

[queerscarcrow]

YISSSSSSSSSSS

[homo-sex-shoe-whale]

Me: I wish I knew more queer people in my area

Also me: *never leaves the house*

[queerscarcrow]

It’s funny because it’s true.

[otp-bumbleby]

This gives me such great hope and warm fuzzies 🐝 we should never be criticised for who we are and who we love. You do you, bbs, Imma do me.

[queerscarcrow]

I did this using this super awesome editing app.

(Pictures are mine, affects belong to Photofox)

[queerscarcrow]

[queerscarcrow]

Milk. Shaken not stirred...

[fuwaprince]

US Helplines:

Depression Hotline: [phone]

Suicide Hotline: [phone]

LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255

Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386

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Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000

Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253

Child Abuse: 1-800-422-4453

UK Helplines:

Samaritans (for any problem): 08457909090 e-mail [email protected]

Childline (for anyone under 18 with any problem): 08001111

Mind infoline (mental health information): 0300 123 3393 e-mail: [email protected]

Mind legal advice (for people who need mental-health related legal advice): 0300 466 6463 [email protected]

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Cruse Bereavement Care: 08444779400 e-mail: [email protected]

Frank (information and advice on drugs): 0800776600

Drinkline: 0800 9178282

Rape Crisis England & Wales: 0808 802 9999 1(open 2 - 2.30pm 7 - 9.30pm) e-mail [email protected]

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[uie-deactivated20230402]

ALWAYS REBLOG WHEN YOU SEE SOMETHING LIKE THIS PLEASE; ITS SO MUCH MORE THAN IMPORTANT TO PEOPLE. IT MEANS EVERYTHING TO SOMEBODY AND EVEN THOUGH YOU MIGHT NOT SEE THIS IN THE SAME LIGHT, SOMEONE MIGHT. INFACT YOU REBLOGGING THIS COULD STOP SOMEONE TAKING THEIR LIFE TONIGHT.

[kitten--aesthetics-blog]

I noticed there isn’t one here for Ireland, so

Irish free suicide helpline: 01-116 123

[justselfloathingthings-blog]

reblog this every time it’s on my dash

[queerscarcrow]

OTP Prompt

Person A is in the shower doing their normal routine when person B comes up with the brilliant plan to make everyone’s worst fear come true. Person B grabs an odd Halloween costume and sneaks into the bathroom. They know that person A likes to sing in the shower, and often sings about their routine (example: shampoo shampoo~I’m the only one for you~) so they wait for the perfect opportunity, the few precious seconds of horror that person A’s eyes will be closed. They eagerly listen as person A sings about rinsing their hair and slowly but carfully slids into the shower behind them; decked out in a werewolf costume and waiting for their beloved to open their eyes. As the last of the bubbles flow out of person A’s hair they open their eyes. They see nothing at first and take a sigh of relief. But then they turn around.

The day ends with person B smiling like and idiot while holding their throbbing cheek where person A sucker punched them and person A having emotional scaring and being certain they will never shower again.

[freeselfdefense]

Rape Escape

Easy and very effective

Requires nothing but your body

Includes attack

[kny111]

Very useful to know, pass and share please.

[blog-archive-111189]

Worth watching

[heylookitseli-archives]

I don’t mean to impose a personal favour on you guys, but I really would like to ask that everyone who follows me reblog this. 

I don’t think I made it very clear but last month I was sexually assaulted by someone who I thought was my friend (I don’t want to talk about it don’t ask), and it’s… really fucked with my head. 

Had I known this a month ago I would have been able to get away. 

So, essentially, I’m really pleading with you to reblog this so everyone who follows you doesn’t get stuck in the same position I was with no way out. 

I mean again I don’t want the point of this to be my sob story or whatever but if you could reblog this it would seriously mean a lot 

[leo-bish]

and im asking to all of my followers who see this post in your dashboard to please press play to this video, you never know when this is gonna be

useful, PLEASE DON’T IGNORE IT.

[appropriately-inappropriate]

This is one of the first moves I was taught in Krav Maga, and it is one of the most effective.

It took me about a half hour to get down with practice, but once you get it, it’s an intuitive movement.

Please pass this along, it will save lives.

[sprouting-colours-deactivated20]

Important

[hayei]

Please reblog this.

[madiithepand0rk-blog]

Please, if you see this, Reblog it. 

[nailtipflips]

If you see this, reblog please.

[sigilcrafter]

not witchy but definitely worth watching, stay safe

[darkbookworm13-deactivated20240]

Always signal boost. Stay safe everyone.

[witchymarvelspacecase]

WATCH THIS SHIT!! It’s easy, and it’s important. Please, please stay safe

[lgbtcyrus]

I don’t care if it doesn’t match your “theme” or whatever, this could save someone from a lifetime of psychological trauma, PLEASE reblog it!!!

[queerscarcrow]

This is so important I don’t even know how to say it.

[emilleaah]

Christmas Mistletoe.

Reblog and see who leaves you a kiss in your ask box. ;)

[moved-to-korrigantsionnach-deac]

this was an absolute fucking disaster last year let’s do this

[dustyandcluttereddesk]

I’ll do you all one better: you can leave me a kiss, slap, punch, handshake, or a fist bump. That way, if you have any beef with me, you can get it off your chest. 

[queerscarcrow]

Why not