Sometimes all you need is to hear the right words.

[saywhat-politics]

[immersedinsadness]

“This pain has leaked into my chest cavity and filled me to the brim. You may be absent but the pain of missing you is ever present.”

— -M.C.E I am both empty and full to the brim.

[immersedinsadness]

“I dream about running away to a place where nobody knows my face or my name. But your demons can move with you. I could run 3,000 miles and still have an anchor around my soul.”

— -M.C.E Running solves nothing

[immersedinsadness]

“Could we try again? If we met in a different time and a different place. Do you think maybe, it would be different?“ I was aching at his words. He was still full of such hope. The world hadn’t taken it away yet, squashing it with broken promises and turning him cynical. “I would still be me.”

— M.C.E, I break everything I touch// So we fell apart too.

[collectively-lost]

“I keep running back to places we’ve been to, I’m trying so hard to feel closer to you.”

— Nicole Torres // excerpt

[collectively-lost]

“I don’t want to fix your heart. I want to fix your bones- the ones that wore down and cracked after years of misuse. I want to build up your frame so you can stand on your own, instead of leaning on others. I want to make you feel like you can live.”

— Nicole Torres // in your broken bones

[collectively-lost]

Your lips were a loaded gun.

[serafinacastaway]

Friendly reminder that mental illness is not an excuse for abuse or to be a terrible person. Ever.

If your partner has depression and uses it to force you to carry their weight, it is not okay. There is a difference between depression and abject refusal to care for themselves. I know we watch movies and TV shows and see posts all over that glorify taking care of your chronically depressed partner, unfaltering and ever understanding, there to make sure they shower and cleaning up after them and feeding them as they lay helpless. Regardless of your mental health, you’re supposed to care for them without a second thought and NO.

NO.

You are allowed to be tired. You are allowed to be upset. You are allowed to be angry. You are allowed to say no. You are allowed to call your partner out for hurting you, and you are NOT responsible for regulating their emotions and yours. You are not responsible for handling their responsibilities 100% of the time. You are not responsible for forcing a person with actual access to resources (I fully understand that some folks cannot seek treatment) to access those resources. Your partner is not allowed to belittle or shame you for you showing symptoms of mental illness when they expect no commentary or criticism when they exhibit the same symptoms. Your partner is not allowed to use mental illness as an excuse for bad behavior while criticizing you for even showing a symptom, god forbid it leads to bad behavior. 

You are not an emotional punching bag put on this earth to absorb every sadistic blow your partner throws.

If your partner doesn’t allow you to vent without making it about them, that is not okay. If your partner brings in a third party to try to force you to accept their bad behavior on the grounds that your partner has a mental illness, that is not okay.If your partner shuts you out for perceived slights, that is not okay. If your partner refuses to take responsibility for themselves and instead blames mental illness or you, that is not okay, and it is not solely the mental illness causing them to behave that way. Even if your partner has a mental illness that can cause negative reactions to rejection or negative responses, it is not your job to make sure you never feel a WHOLE PORTION OF THE EMOTIONAL SPECTRUM because it may bug your partner. Your partner is absolutely responsible for learning self regulation. 

If you try to talk to your partner about an issue and they fly high and to the right to make you the aggressor, the bully, the attacker, that is not fucking okay.

If you find yourself tucking away any of your negative feelings, regardless of their source, to avoid hurting your partner, then that is not okay.

If your partner is using mental illness as an excuse to violate your boundaries, to try and make you behave in ways that make you uncomfortable, OR  TO OUTRIGHT DISREGARD CONSENT, THAT. IS. NOT. OKAY.

No is no, even if your partner has a mental illness.

If your partner threatens suicide if you upset them or try to leave, that is not okay

Your partner forcing you to accept bad behavior because of their mental illness rather than working to make the relationship better for both of you is abuse.

I am not saying dating with a mental illness is abuse. I am saying that using a diagnosis to control another person is abusive. Another person is not obligated to do what you want them to do and tolerate what you want them to because you have a mental illness. People are allowed to have boundaries, and no one is allowed to cross them. Mental illness is not an excuse to 

You are allowed to take a break from or even leave partners who are detrimental to your mental health. You are allowed to take care of yourself. You are not wrong for taking a step back for your own sake. 

No one is allowed to make you stay because the other person needs a punching bag.

No one.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“It takes a strong person to remain single in a world that is accustomed to settling just to say they have something.”

— Unknown

[approvers]

[timbllr]

[ultra-lovely]

“He is not the sun. You are.”

— Christina Yang (via maybe-you-need-this)

[wordsnquotes]

When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.

Paulo Coelho (via wordsnquotes)

[thepersonalquotes]

[bled]

[battibatt]

nobody talks about how ugly taking care of yourself can be

yes, sometimes it’s taking a warm bath and texting memes to friends and keeping an aesthetically pretty journal.

sometimes it’s crying silently on your couch at 3am, hugging yourself and reminding yourself that you’re a good person.

self care is not always ‘aesthetic’ and cute…and that’s ok. don’t be embarrassed, just do what you need to do.

[c-isnenegro]

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