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gnc/butch lesbian | gen z | asks are open

[radfemnotfemme]

in another talking stage with a she/they/he female and atp IDGAFFFFF

[radfemnotfemme]

i have a crush on a they/them dyed hair and piercings lesbian with BPD that i’ve been hooking up with please help me snap out of it radblr IM GOING CRAZY

[radfemnotfemme]

watched my favorite butch/masc influencer that turned trans get her breasts cut off today RIP😩 it’s actually quite a bitter sight because i’ve been following this influencer since they were a scrawny drug addict who struggled with their mental health, to a blossoming fitness influencer with a very impressive natural physique. she was literally who i wanted to be & encouraged me to get in the gym. she was literally my dream physique until she started hormones and pushed the boundaries of what i thought was possible for natural female bodybuilding. i thought her developing this healthy habit (the gym) meant she got her mental health in order too but clearly this wasn’t the case. i think someone with a history of addiction might have a heightened risk of replacing one extreme behavior with another if they’re not addressing the root cause of dissatisfaction, if u get what i’m saying…

[local-demon-in-your-area]

Women can't speak to each other in Afghanistan

Women can't speak to each other in Afghanistan

Women can't speak to each other Afghanistan

Women. Can't. Speak. To. Each. Other. In. Afghanistan.

No conversations

No hearing another woman's voice, no hearing her speak or pray

No way to share experiences no way to ask questions no way to organize

And if you ban education then they can't communicate by writing either

Women can't speak to each other in Afghanistan

Women can't communicate with other women in Afghanistan

People can't communicate with other people

That's how low we've gotten

Please don't forget about them.

[radfemnotfemme]

god america is so fucked wtf is wrong with this country. AMERICANS WILL NEVER BEAT THE MORON ALLEGATIONS

[aalexan]

I believe all religion is made up by men to oppress women. if that offends you dni 💗

[gendiebrainrotreceipts]

That’s not even touching on the comments telling this guy he owes trans women for his rights and that he should be more grateful

[radfemnotfemme]

thanks for 500 followers

[radfemnotfemme]

the r/MTFButch subreddit makes me so fucking mad. a bunch of ugly males pretending to be dykes jesus christ. you will never be us!!

[littlemeowth]

just a reminder:

as an adult woman, you have a cultural impact. When you decide not to wear makeup, you help show little girls who see you that wearing makeup is not an inevitable task in their future. When you spend time with your girlfriend or wife publicly, you let little girls know that that is normal, too. All this is to say that your choices in society can let young women know that they also have those choices. I haven’t worn makeup in quite some time, and when I babysat little girls, many of them just thought that makeup was just something that “old girls” have to do, and were somewhat relieved to discover that they don’t have to in order to grow up and be a real girl.

[coochiesque-deactivated20211231]

“Feeling validated through men being misogynistic is what we call Ew-phoria”

[womenarehuman]

This behaviour is what peaked me, men feeling “validated” by the disgusting, violent misogyny women face in our lives every day.

I hate men.

[lesbian-lizards]

Weird that he felt validated by a man talking about how women are only good for making babies. Seems like that kind of thing is supposed to trigger a TW’s dysphoria but maybe that’s only when women mention their pregnancies in a positive light.

[ma1efique]

This is so fucking similar to the feeling of validation you have as an ED sufferer when someone shows concern for your weight. At my worst someone could’ve looked me square in the eye and said “you are repulsively thin” and I would been over the moon. The similarities between ED behaviours and gender dysphoria behaviours is uncanny. And proves this is a sick sick sick mental illness. Espeically considering the fact these mother fuckers don’t even care that REAL women get abused like this. They fucking put on their little girly voice -which is painfully obvious to women - get screamed misogynistic abuse and think its a fuckinf prize. Truly, these mother fuckers deserve no pity. This is revolting. The bigotry that women have to endure is not your fucking validation. FUCK YOU.

[womenarehuman]

Reminds me of my peak trans moment of a TIM gushing that he got groped roughly and viciously catcalled while on a night out in Spain. (These men threatened rape.)

Like, you’re gushing about being threatened and sexually assaulted?!? A moment of terror for women is not your validation tool sir. Fucking sicko misogynists.

[honeyblankets]

the single most exhausting thing about being a radfem is the constant misinformation of what radical feminists believe. “RADFEMS THINK WOMEN ARE JUST VAGINAS!!” have you literally ever seen a single post by one radfem that says anything remotely close to that or are you literally just lying.

[radfemnotfemme]

guys wtf is an evil boop help i don’t use this app enough 😭

[latinaradfem]

TIMs aka trans identified males love to threaten lesbians with rape and violence because what does he mean by this

[radfemnotfemme]

i’m trying to register to vote but they love to make this shit difficult for college students 😐

[radfemnotfemme]

been learning about radical feminism in the past year and i have completely reevaluated my beliefs about gender ideology. now im just so stuck on the idea of, how can identifying as another gender not be fundamentally regressive, sexist, and upholding gender norms? how can men just identify out of oppression? but now idk what to do holding these beliefs because truly all my friends would have serious issues with me if i were ever to voice this. in fact, i have close friends who are trans, and there are many trans people in my wider social circle (one of whom specifically made me so uncomfortable in a "female" space that it contributed to me unlearning my previous beliefs abt gender ideology). i attend a super liberal university where in a recent english class my professor even made a comment about jk rowling being an evil terf now.

i feel like i'm walking around with a dirty secret. i feel like i can't discuss these ideas with anyone irl, not even my girlfriend. it would fundamentally change her view of me as she as an incredibly vocal trans ally. i could see her breaking up with me for these beliefs; i could see many friends distancing themselves from me. i'm just wondering how you navigate a social world like this with radfem beliefs ahhhh

i feel you on the “dirty secret” aspect! i can try to give some advice since i’m in a very similar situation (minus the fact i live in a conservative area.)

due to my appearance (i’m visibly gay) i usually only attract TRA & ‘queer’ types to me. my friends are all TRA or some variant of “genderqueer.” i only have one friend ive been able to confide my beliefs to, and she’s more a closet conservative type so we really only agree on trans issues. I will say, if you can find even one person that you can speak freely with it’ll be a huge weight off your chest. Whenever I see this one friend we both just ramble because we can finally talk about shit that we can’t comfortably talk about with anyone else.

the way i’ve gone about managing my friendships with TRAs is to simply never bring up trans (or controversial radfem) topics. i avoid it like the plague, will change topic, and if directly questioned on something i will play the dumb and innocent role, aka just pretending to not understand but intend as coming from a good place. you should evaluate which of your friendships putting up this facade will be worth it, because it gets exhausting fast. i have some trans friends, but they’re all the “genderfluid/nonbinary AFAB who goes by any pronouns” type who present extremely feminine at all times, never even push the boundaries of gender expression honestly which is funny. (literally theyfabs lol) They dont care that i always use she/her and they honestly never bring up gender stuff with me. these type of girls aren’t too bad to be around as i feel they’re not as far gone as some TIPs are who actually take the steps to transition, etc. Being around a hardcore TIF or TIM might be a more difficult friendship to maintain.

Regarding your significant other, you should consider if this is a breaking point in your relationship. For me it’s not since my gf was generally uninformed about trans issues like the dangers of males in womens prisons, unfairness in sports, why oppressed is sex based and not gender based, etc. We’ve had discussions about this, where i explained my reasoning for being against these issues & she actually ended up agreeing after I showed her the facts. She’s still ‘pro-trans’ but is much more reasonable about it & thinks majority trans people just wanna live their life (which who can argue with that!) If this type of open conversation isn’t something you think could be achievable with your gf, you guys might just not be compatible.

It sounds like you live in a very liberal area & so my advice to you would be to see if there’s any radical feminist organizations near you. I think finding other people who think the same as you will help you feel less guilty. It’ll probably be hard since most radfems are secretive about their beliefs (for obvious reasons lol) but i’m sure you’ll find someone eventually.

[dapperprincess]

I’d also like to add that i didnt think anyone would agree w me when I first started talking about it and all my friends are libfem omg slay men with makeup types but one time of bringing it up lightly and my friends both sighed with relief and rambled on about what they actually thought and how they were scared to share their actual feelings until I said something.

There’s more women who recognize there’s something wrong than there are radical feminists, you just have to figure out who is who.

[bilboyagathechickenfootedhobbit]

^^^^^ so true for me as well! I hesitated for over a year to even bring this up to my closest friend because I was worried it would cause a rift. This is someone who I’ve known for 35 years and we practically share a brain yet I was so terrified of losing her that I let it eat me up for over a year. I remember when I finally broached it with her, we were on a walk with my toddler and dog and I was physically shaking as I brought it up. I laid out my thoughts and reasoning as well as I could and she listened and asked questions and mulled it over and was like “well hot damn…..that DOES make a lot more sense, doesn’t it?” And then it was like a domino effect. She started discussing it with coworkers and acquaintances and found more and more that other people felt the same way but were scared to speak up. After that, I broached the topic with my sister in law, my next closest friend, which was more difficult because she has a close friend who identifies as trans, but she was on board and even gave me a deeper insight into her trans friend and his reasons for transitioning and just opened up an excellent dialogue (that almost made us miss our flight because we got so caught up!) After that, I brought it up to my brother who seemed to only have been going along with the gender stuff because everyone around him was; he seemed relieved to drop the charade.

The thing is, I used to think that if someone didn’t speak out vocally on trans issues and gender ideology, that it meant they were in support of it.

Now? Now I think that if someone isn’t vocal about gender ideology, they probably don’t support it but either don’t feel strongly enough about it to speak out or they are afraid of backlash. Silence is not agreement. You would be surprised by how many people are in agreement with you. It’s just the gender cultists are so ridiculously loud that they seem to be in the majority. They aren’t, and the sooner we all start making connections with other people who find this all to be a bunch of nonsense, the sooner we can start effectively pushing back against it.

[radfemnotfemme]

been learning about radical feminism in the past year and i have completely reevaluated my beliefs about gender ideology. now im just so stuck on the idea of, how can identifying as another gender not be fundamentally regressive, sexist, and upholding gender norms? how can men just identify out of oppression? but now idk what to do holding these beliefs because truly all my friends would have serious issues with me if i were ever to voice this. in fact, i have close friends who are trans, and there are many trans people in my wider social circle (one of whom specifically made me so uncomfortable in a "female" space that it contributed to me unlearning my previous beliefs abt gender ideology). i attend a super liberal university where in a recent english class my professor even made a comment about jk rowling being an evil terf now.

i feel like i'm walking around with a dirty secret. i feel like i can't discuss these ideas with anyone irl, not even my girlfriend. it would fundamentally change her view of me as she as an incredibly vocal trans ally. i could see her breaking up with me for these beliefs; i could see many friends distancing themselves from me. i'm just wondering how you navigate a social world like this with radfem beliefs ahhhh

i feel you on the “dirty secret” aspect! i can try to give some advice since i’m in a very similar situation (minus the fact i live in a conservative area.)

due to my appearance (i’m visibly gay) i usually only attract TRA & ‘queer’ types to me. my friends are all TRA or some variant of “genderqueer.” i only have one friend ive been able to confide my beliefs to, and she’s more a closet conservative type so we really only agree on trans issues. I will say, if you can find even one person that you can speak freely with it’ll be a huge weight off your chest. Whenever I see this one friend we both just ramble because we can finally talk about shit that we can’t comfortably talk about with anyone else.

the way i’ve gone about managing my friendships with TRAs is to simply never bring up trans (or controversial radfem) topics. i avoid it like the plague, will change topic, and if directly questioned on something i will play the dumb and innocent role, aka just pretending to not understand but intend as coming from a good place. you should evaluate which of your friendships putting up this facade will be worth it, because it gets exhausting fast. i have some trans friends, but they’re all the “genderfluid/nonbinary AFAB who goes by any pronouns” type who present extremely feminine at all times, never even push the boundaries of gender expression honestly which is funny. (literally theyfabs lol) They dont care that i always use she/her and they honestly never bring up gender stuff with me. these type of girls aren’t too bad to be around as i feel they’re not as far gone as some TIPs are who actually take the steps to transition, etc. Being around a hardcore TIF or TIM might be a more difficult friendship to maintain.

Regarding your significant other, you should consider if this is a breaking point in your relationship. For me it’s not since my gf was generally uninformed about trans issues like the dangers of males in womens prisons, unfairness in sports, why oppressed is sex based and not gender based, etc. We’ve had discussions about this, where i explained my reasoning for being against these issues & she actually ended up agreeing after I showed her the facts. She’s still ‘pro-trans’ but is much more reasonable about it & thinks majority trans people just wanna live their life (which who can argue with that!) If this type of open conversation isn’t something you think could be achievable with your gf, you guys might just not be compatible.

It sounds like you live in a very liberal area & so my advice to you would be to see if there’s any radical feminist organizations near you. I think finding other people who think the same as you will help you feel less guilty. It’ll probably be hard since most radfems are secretive about their beliefs (for obvious reasons lol) but i’m sure you’ll find someone eventually.

[dapperprincess]

I’d also like to add that i didnt think anyone would agree w me when I first started talking about it and all my friends are libfem omg slay men with makeup types but one time of bringing it up lightly and my friends both sighed with relief and rambled on about what they actually thought and how they were scared to share their actual feelings until I said something.

There’s more women who recognize there’s something wrong than there are radical feminists, you just have to figure out who is who.