I’m tired of having the same damn conversation.
Whenever I or any other aroallo person talks about our own identities, someone inevitably chimes in with “as long as everyone’s consenting!”
It’s the exact same argument every time.
“I support gay people, as long as they’re not harassing straight people in locker rooms.”
“I support trans people, as long as they’re not tricking cis people into sex.”
“I support aroallo people, as long as they’re not leading alloromantic people on.”
Why is it always the responsibility of the marginalized person to add a disclaimer that they’re “one of the good ones?” Why do you need to double-check that we know what consent is, every single time? Why is it exclusively the responsibility of the marginalized person to come out to potential sexual partners, instead of expecting the cis/straight/allo person to communicate what they want?
I need y’all to learn the patterns. Recognize this rhetoric. Quit treating the queer identity of the week like we’re predators by default.








