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i can't believe people are still sending asks to rfg about something that happened almost two years ago...
i literally never post anymore but a lot of my old stuff is still good
The Waitressing Chronicles: Wherein Dani does not refill your soda 20 times just because she thinks itâs SO MUCH FUN.
Tonight was one of the worst kinds of nights you can have in the restaurant industry. It was a pretty busy Saturday night, the kitchen was running smoothly, my coworkers and I were coexisting peacefully, and 99% of my tables were awesome, and I really had fun serving them. (Yes, I did say âworstâ. Iâm getting to that part, hold onâŚ.).
Some of them were a little needy, but after youâve served for a few years, you start developing a sort of spidy-sense about which guests are going to require 30 diet coke refills, 5 servings of chips and salsa and roughly 2 gallons of ranch before they even crack there menus open (seriouslyâŚI think some people have such an addiction to ranch, that if it isnât constantly on their table, regardless of the presence of any other actual food, they start to develop anxiety. Some people need to carry around EPI pens in case of emergencyâŚ.I carry around ranch dressing. Youâre welcome), so I was prepared. Even my needy tables didnât rattle me too much this evening.
Generally speaking, all of the components necessary for a pretty kick-ass shift were present and accounted for.
And then my tables started cashing out. 10%tip, 5% tip, no tip, no tip, 10%âŚ.20%, FINALLY! OhâŚwaitâŚthey didnât do their math correctly, thatâs actually only a $2 tip. Wonderful.
My enthusiasm for my job and my shift plummeted rapidly and I was ready to stuff my hot towel in my apron and go home faster than the cheapskate at table 7 could say âKeep the Change" as he handed me $40 for his $38.64 tab.
Some people just genuinely donât know any better, and I recognize that. Sometimes Iâm a little off my game, and I fully own up to that as well. But tonight was not one of those nights. I was on pointâŚand Iâm good at what I do.
So let me deviate a little bit from my normal Chronicling to give something of a PSA on behalf of waitstaff everywhere.
80% of servers make under minimum wage. This is a fact. A miserable, lamentable fact. The hourly wages that our employers provide are essentially just so that the government has something to take as far as immediate taxes on our tip money, and we donât get slammed with having to pay it all back at once in April. Our âpaychecks", therefore, are usually somewhere in the neighborhood of $30. If that. Itâs a pretty crummy system, and believe me when I say that weâd probably rather be making a steady and reliable hourly wage instead of depending on tips, but unfortunately thatâs not the society we live in.
So. Your tip. How much do you tip, and who gets it?
A lot of that depends on the restaurant youâre in. Look around you. Do you see hosts and hostesses? Is there a bartender? A busser? If any/all of these people are present, rest assured that your server does not get to keep all of their tips.
We âtip outâ to all of the other support staff (busser, host, QA expo, bartender, etc.) at the end of every shift. The amount of money we tip out to these staff is determined, not by how much money we make, but by how much weâve sold. For example, at Chilis, I tip out 3% of my total sales at the end of the night. (So if I sold $100 worth of food and drinks, my tip out would be $3. Last night, I had $1100 in sales, and had to leave behind $33).
What does this mean? This means, that if you donât leave a tip, or only leave $1 or $2 (assuming your total tab wasnât $10.) your server actually loses money on your table. We still have to pay taxes and tip out based on the amount of food YOU ordered, not to mention that you sat there, and took up one of my tables for 2 hours, which I could easily have flipped twice in that time had you not felt the need to camp out and then leave me $2 (IâM TALKING TO YOU, TABLE 36.)
It pretty much boils down to this: a 10% tip is the bare minimum. It means mediocre service, and relates a relatively neutral - bordering on negative message to your server about how they did their job. 15% indicates that youâre content and happy, and your server was proficient at taking care of you. 20% is excellent. Excellent food, excellent service, excellent everything. Thatâs how we read your tips.
Also, you can basically write whatever you want in the tip line. If your total bill was $45.67, and you write in a $5,000 tip, and then write â$45.67â on the total line, and sign itâŚ..guess how much Iâm authorized to charge your card for? Thatâs right. $45.67. So please (PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE) double check your math when youâre totaling out your bill. I lost no less than $27 in tips last night simply because people couldnât Math correctly. Perhaps ranch dressing in excess has an adverse affect on peopleâs ability to do basic arithmetic. Or perhaps itâs a complication of margarita-induced brain freezes. Either way. It sucks. Please donât suck.
Tipping is not optional, and it is not a privilege for the server. Back in the day, it probably was, but unfortunately, thatâs no longer the case. When you sit down at a restaurant there is an unspoken understanding between you and your server. Itâs their responsibility to make sure you have a stellar, enjoyable and relaxing meal, and itâs your responsibility to make sure they can afford to pay their rent. And before you start in on me (because I can hear the rumbling of offended restaurant goers from here, like distant thunderâŚcalm yourselves, beasts!) about how entitled you are to not-tip, let me tell you now, honey child, Iâve heard every retort in the book.
âYour restaurant should pay you better, thatâs not my faultâ - Well. Yes. I agree. But they donât. So it sucks for both of us. But until itâs announced that tipping is no longer needed in the service industry, the burden of determining my âpaycheck"falls on you Trust me, Iâm not happy about it either.
"You should just be happy that I left anything at all.â - If your tip was in addition to the $10/hr my restaurant was paying me, you bet your left shoe Iâd be happy for any little bit you wanted to throw my way. But they donât. And I know you know that, faithful restaurant eater. So when you walk out, leaving me $3 after having waited on your family of 6âs $130 meal, Iâm going to interpret that as a direct and intentional personal insult. You may have thought you were coming out on top by not leaving the appropriate $13-$26 that your bill merited, but really now youâre just a dick. And I can promise you that every server who was working that night will know about it. Good luck getting chipper service next time you try to come to our restaurant. We remember.
âTips are dependent upon how well you do. Thatâs what TIPS means. âTo Insure Proper Service.â - I almost donât even want to respond to this one, but unfortunately itâs a very popular notion. First off, lemme just lay it out there that if you believe this, youâre a dumbass. For multiple reasons. If that acronym was in fact true, they would be called âtepsâ (toâŚENSUREâŚ.proper service. English, for the win!) and you would give them to be at the beginning on the meal. Because thatâs what âto ensure proper serviceâ implies. How comfortable would you be if you had to tip your server at the beginning of the meal, knowing full well that you had to sit there for the next 45 - 60 minutes facing the person you just handed $2 as you ask for 3 more sides of Barbeque sauce, a 5th coke and some ranch.(Just because of reasons. Everyone needs ranch. ) Youâd probably be a little uncomfortable, wouldnât you? Youâd probably shell out a lot more were that the case, wouldnât you? How great is it for you that you get to demand special ordered food and request exactly 45 napkins one at a time from your server and then immediately slip away into the night after leaving your server $1.63. Youâre such a champ, a real stand-up type of person. I hope your kids leave legos in the hallway tonight, and you step on three of them as you stumble to the bathroom at 3am.
âWhy donât you just get a real job. Youâre choosing this lifestyleâ - Whoa buddy, whoa. Did you really just say that to me? Letâs rewind this a little bit. Iâm on my feet, running, squatting, lifting trays, clearing dishes, entertaining table after table, pretending to love being regaled by the intricacies of your oh-so-fascinating life and reassuring you that your baby IS the most adorable baby Iâve ever seen for 6-10 hours a day. Usually, unless I have time to take a bathroom break (please note that I didnât say âneedâ to take a bathroom break. If. I. Have. Time.) , the first time I get to sit down after walking through those doors and clocking in is when I get back in my car to go home at the end of the night. Someone please tell me how thatâs not a ârealâ job? Or how itâs any less ârealâ than your 9-5 office job? I bet that desk chair does a real number on your lower back. Your office manager should really look into providing you with the lumbar support you deserve. Please, tell me more about it as I stand at your table side balancing 30lbs of dishes on one hand that you seem to be oblivious to, as you continue to complain about your cushy job.
  You have a valid point though, in that I did choose this job. For me, personally, I know that waiting tables is only temporary. The tips I earn go towards food, gas, insurance, cell phone, car payments, my gym membership, student loans, text books and other basic life-needs (shampoo is expensive ommgggg). Iâm also trying to save up so I can afford to move to New York after I finish my Masterâs Degree. Iâve got a lot on my plate, but not nearly as much as some of the other wonderful people I work with. Take, for example, the 20 year old single mother of 2 who was in the section next to mine last night. Iâm not sure if she finished high school or not, but her kids are her life now. She started waiting tables at 16 so that she could afford to buy diapers and formula every night before she went home. Waiting tables isnât just her âget me through schoolâ job. Itâs her career. Itâs how she feeds her kids. So go ahead, leave her no tip on your $120 check, table 23. I hope that pasta you inhaled gives you heartburn. And sheâs not the only one. Every single server in any restaurant you eat in is at your mercy to provide for themselves and their family. That is the responsibility you sign up for when you walk into a dine-in restaurant. It is an unfortunate part of American culture.
Donât like it? Go to a drive-through. Thatâs what theyâre there for. Better yetâŚ.stay home. Cook for yourself.
If you canât afford to tip, you canât afford to eat out. I know that sounds harsh, but itâs completely true.
Thank you to those of you who are awesome. Awesome people and fun tables actually make this a pretty kickass job a lot of the time. Keep up the awesome. If you doubt your level of restaurant awesome, never fear! Itâs totally something you can build up over time, kind of like distance running or heavy lifting. Baby steps. Youâll get there.
Some guy just mansplained space to an actual fucking astronaut.
tfw correcting misinformation is written off as mansplaining
tfw when idiots on tumblr who know jack shit about thermo assume the dude is âcorrecting misinformationâ when actually heâs dead ass wrong. âSpontaneousâ is a scientific term - it means a reaction with a negative Gibbâs free energy, i.e. a reaction that will occur without an external energy input, i.e. water boiling because of low atmospheric pressure. Spontaneous is absolutely the correct term for what sheâs observing, and that is âsimple thermoâ, and this is âcorrecting misinformationâ.
Have a nice day.
iâd take the cash and spit in their drinks
I fucking hate customers like this
Also unless youâre just getting like a few drinks, five is a shitty tip.
Honestly if I knew beforehand that the max tip u were gonna give me would be five bucks youâd get the most minimal degree of service I could provide.
Donât do this. This is the most disrespectful thing on earth.
âWe have always talked about doing this. Boy honey wouldnât it be fun to taunt the person likely making below minimum wage who is already expending far more emotional labor on winning our approval than weâll ever show our own children. What if we just left money out on the table, just to watch them sing and dance for our sense of gratification and take a dollar away for every time they donât sit back and clap like a performing seal. Boy I sure do love being a shitstain on the underpants of humanity.â
fucking disgusting. classist fuckholes.Â
This is so gross. I despise customers who think theyâre above the people serving them and mock them/treat them like trained monkeys for their own sick entertainment.Â
Not-so-funny story - when I worked at a liquor store I had a man repeatedly hand me $200 in cash for his purchase and then snatch it back and laugh like a six year old when I tried to take it (he did this about four or five times, and kept cackling bc it was clearly making me uncomfortable), then told me âNo money for you until I get a smile and a âThank you, Sirââ. I begrudgingly half-smiled a few times and each time he was like âNo, a bigger smile! You want your big sale, donât you?â (tbh I didnât give a single fuck bc I didnât work on commission and we had customers coming in making purchases of $3000 or more on a regular basis, so⌠Still wouldnât make it ok, though obvs.)Â
Anyway, when I refused and told him he was holding up the line, he demanded to talk to my manager and then proceeded to tell my manager that I was giving him shitty service, and that if I didnât smile and repeat what heâd told me to say, heâd cancel his purchase. Luckily my manager was cool and told him he could either pay for his shit or gtfo, but it didnât stop him being a fuckwad. As he was leaving, he reached over the counter, patted me on the shoulder and condescendingly said âItâs ok love, the big ordealâs over, you can relax nowâ and walked out laughing to himself.Â
Retail and hospitality workers donât exist for you to play out your fucked up power fantasies. If you canât treat service staff like human beings and show them at least basic respect then stay under a rock like the slimy insect that you are.Â
unless your meal is only 10-15 bucks $5 is a shit tip and to attempt to literally taunt someone with?? and a dude considering $200 in a liquor store to be a âbig saleâ are you shitting me???? why is always the cheapest motherfuckers!!!!
if i was to get tipped $5 on $50 i'd only get $2.50 or $100 get $0 because of my mandatory 5% sales tip out. fuck this guy.
Mmmm what if we didnât
iâm watching âi am jazzâ and itâs so surreal... just let the kid be a gender non conforming boy for godâs sake.
people who actually celebrate month dating anniversaries (one month, two month, etc) creepy me the fuck out
i'm so sick of this hellsite's obsession with the word "valid"
âiâm a gender conforming male who only wants to date lesbians because theyâre the only ones who will âvalidateâ my gender identityâ
WTF? How does her being butch make her a guy? I mean I also donât like her biphobia but like shut the fuck up with that misgendering bullshit.
are you lost lol
this autogynephile i went to high school with just posted this topless photo of himself basically captioned "hey ladies how do i get boobies lol" and i'm so creeped out. women don't act like that!
Re: mixed race and pale skin: I'm chinese and portuguese with some Russian in there. Because my skin is so pale and my eyes are green despite my jet black hair, i feel silly identifying as anything other than white. People used to be shocked when my mom would show up to pick me up from school. I was once asked why I had a "mexican" last name (it's a portuguese name but ppl are stupid) when I'm "practically albino", so yeah, I get it.
yeah i understand how you feel. people used to ask me if i was adopted because my mom is a dark skin filipina woman and i'm lighter than her. i also have my dad's last name, which is iranian, and complicates things more. i've never met another person who is also filipinx and iranian.
and if anyone wanted more insight on how white haley is, she thinks pacific islanders are indigenous to asia.
youâre a goddamn idiot, because filipinx people can be considered both asian and pacific islanders. many identify as both, as i do when iâm asked my race on forms.Â
so once again, if youâre an east asian person, you may be light skinned, but south asian and south east asian people are not necessarily.Â
I thought we made up race tho soooo white passing and white are the same. theres no biological difference between an asian person and a whitey other than appearances.
first, any particular reason why you've singled out asian people? secondly, you're gonna have to specify which kind of asian people you're being blatantly racist about, cuz pacific islander asians and south asians aren't light skinned.
also with an argument like "race is made up, it doesn't matter," you've discounted racism every other race experiences too. congrats, in an attempt say me being lighter skinned means i'm 100% the same as a white person, you've shit on all non-white people.
this is where tumblr race theory has brought us: itâs okay to make fun of female incest victims as long as theyâre white.Â
unsure why she has yesallwomen as her title. interesting.
iâm amazed. i donât want to dismiss any of the racism in the radical feminist community, because i know itâs alive and well, but how did we get to a point where some people think this line of thinking is okay?
Tumblr race theory what the fuck are you talking about ? Also the joke about incest is of poor taste and not something I support but itâs joke about incest being more practiced/accepted in white community which is a historical fact. I can provide sources but Iâm on mobile. As a radical feminist I donât support it but donât use this as a moment to spew some shit youâve Been bottling up. Thereâs nothing about race theory in black twitter.. Thereâs nothing theoretical about it,
i donât give two fucks about how commonly itâs practiced among white people. why would it being common make it any funnier?
just because white people donât experience racism doesnât mean white incest victims donât deserve support, and to be honest iâm offended that you are arriving to the conclusion that iâm some secret racist because i donât agree with belittling incest victims, even white ones.
iâm allowed to critique people who have misused real race theory to justify their misogynist and victim blaming behavior.
What the fuck are you talking about youâre reaching really far.. Did you read what I wrote or are you just so mad that you canât see straight ?
âbut donât use this as a moment to spew some shit youâve Been bottling upâ
how am i not supposed to interpret this as âyouâre using this moment to prove what a racist you really areâ?
and yes, i am mad. i am furious that we have arrived at a place in time where itâs okay to post this:
making fun of incest victims, but itâs okay because theyâre white. itâs not just âin poor taste,â itâs fucking appalling.Â
Finally got one w the meme in it. Thanks.
I would like to see your sources stating that white people more commonly practice incest. And Iâm not saying that as some offended white girl (I mean, Iâm Syrian, so), but because I remember reading about a female black rights activist who wrote a book about how serious of an issue incest is within the black community. Iâve been presented with two differing opinions that both claim they have statistics to back up their opinions, so Iâd like to become more educated on the topic and see where the truth lies.
to me, the issue has never been whether or not it's more common among white people. the fact that it happens at all, to any children or women, is appalling enough for me.
not to be Problematic but it's very obvious which of you are trying to have normal, fulfilling lives and which of you have no social outlet outside of this damn website
Someone should post the receipts of radicalhaley saying she has to ID as white outside of the Internet because she's so white passing no one can tell she's a "woc" âď¸
go ahead and post them, at least i have the balls to attach my name to my posts âď¸also, i have never called myself a woc because i personally don't identify with the term, just non-white. tell me though, what's worse: someone hunting someone else down for being "racist," making blogs with their name over KKK pictures, and then actually turning out to be white; or, a non-white mixed race woman who has identified as "white" to gain some sort of cohesive social location?
again, if you'd like to attach your name to this, i'll be waiting.