jealous of shifters who share the same s/o as you?
there’s no reason to be. think about it this way.
let’s say you walk into a store. for years, you’ve had your eye on a specific purse. that purse represents your s/o.
another customer (a shifter) walks into the store at the same time. they’ve also had their mind set on that same purse. you both end up in the same aisle. on the shelf, there’s only ONE purse left.
your first instinct is to fight for it, of course. so you grab one side, they grab the other, and you both spend the next 30 minutes practically playing tug of war. arguing over “who deserves it more” and “who’s wanted it for longer”.
but suddenly, you both glance back at the shelf… and you see that the shelf has already been fully restocked with purses. isn’t that humbling?? there was no point in arguing.
but what if I told you that the shelf was actually full this whole time? it was your jealousy that made you think there was only one purse left. all that fighting happened because you believed the supply was limited.
now imagine a different example. this time, your s/o represents a freshly baked pie. everyone at the table starts arguing over who will get the biggest slice.
but would you still be arguing if i told you that everyone at the table could have their own entire pie instead of sharing slices?
that’s my point. jealousy, in this case, is the illusion of scarcity. in a shifting community of all places, there should be no reason to fight over s/o’s, because we acknowledge that everyone has a reality where they get their own.
when it comes to reality, everyone is looking through a different lens. the way you perceive your s/o will always be different from how someone else perceives them. therefore, your s/o and someone else’s s/o will never be the exact same person. it doesn’t matter how ‘similar’ they might be.
your s/o is YOURS. in YOUR reality. you’re never “sharing” them. and no one is ever “taking them away” from you.
if we as shifters can acknowledge that there are different versions of ourselves across different realities, then we also have to acknowledge that there are different versions of our s/o’s too. versions that shouldn’t matter to us because why should we care about a reality that doesn’t align with what we want??
like, if someone says they scripted that their s/o always gets immense diarrhea everytime they breathe, would you be saying “that’s still my s/o tho 😢”?? or would u say “MY s/o does NOT do that shit.” it’s silly but PLEASE just think about it !!
((ps. i’m not trying to dictate how people should feel about seeing someone shift for a person who is similar to their s/o. but i am trying to give people a peace of mind. yes, protect your peace if needed. block or ignore whoever you have to. but the conversation around s/o’s in this community should never be bigger than, “what’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is yours”. ))
happy shifting, your s/o loves you <3