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I don’t think you’re ready to have an adult conversation about politics until you’re able to admit that there are things you love and enjoy that would not and should not exist in a just world. $8 billion dollar budget movies every other month don’t exist in a just world. New 900 GB AAA video games every year don’t exist in a just world. Next day delivery doesn’t exist in a just world. 80 different soda brands don’t exist in a just world.
All of those things come from exploitation on some level, and if you wouldn’t trade those for a world where everyone can eat and have a home no matter who they are or what they do, I don’t know what to tell you.
Man, this post makes me feel conflicted, because on the one hand, of the things listed, next-day delivery is the only one that DOES actually exist in the world today. The others are exaggerations, and while I understand the point being made, they do detract from it.
I understand—and agree with—that sentiment of, “I want slower deliveries by drivers who are paid better,” as one recent tumblr post put it. I absolutely agree with the idea that we need to produce and consume less as a culture, and that an actual substantive conversation about politics should involve willingness to relinquish the many modern luxuries that are built on exploitation.
I don’t think these are good examples of those luxuries, though.
Large budget movies are possible because consumers (and investors) are willing to pay for them. A large budget is actually a necessary component in making sure workers are being adequately compensated; the fact that they currently are often exploited by studios is a result of deliberate misallocation of resources, not anything intrinsic to the size of the production. Same thing goes with high-quality video games. As for releasing a new film/game every month/year, that’s only unsustainable because there’s only a handful of monopolistic studios doing it. In a well-regulated industry that encourages growth and competition, we could see tens, if not hundreds of studios producing big-budget films and games. And, with a well-compensated and socially-supported citizenry, consumers would have enough disposable income to support it.
Similarly, the problem with soda isn’t that we have 80 brands; it’s that we have two. And those two brands each own 800 different labels. In a healthy economy, these monopolies would be dissolved, and we could support well over 80 moderately-sized independent beverage companies producing their own sodas.
Same-day delivery, again, could be easily supported with proper allocation of resources. Currently, we have huge centralized distributors like Amazon exploiting gig-workers with slave-wages to ferry cheap mass-produced crap to people, and that’s what makes it bad, not the speed at which they do it. If instead, we had something like a super-robust USPS, with well-compensated deliverypeople working reasonable hours within a decentralized network of independent-but-cooperative suppliers, there would be absolutely no reason why you couldn’t get something delivered to you from the distro ten miles down the road within a day.
When we critique capitalism, and they respond, “Yeah, well capitalism made the cell phone you’re using!” our response shouldn’t be, “Oh shit u right,” it should be, “No, capitalism made the cell phone I’m using break after a year so I’ll buy a new one, and they use slave labor to do it while they pocket the rest.”
There are luxuries, and there are artificially-valued, mass-produced, built-to-break trash that are marketed as luxuries. But we don’t solve the problems of fast-fashion by saying, “Welp I guess I shouldn’t wear clothes.”
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Hello all! To kind of coincide with the release of the new MtG set Crimson Vow, I went back and redid the Vampire Lord patron from Wolfram’s Chronicle of Blood, and the pact boons and eldritch invocations in it! Hope you enjoy and get to live out your dream of being a vampire!
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Alright, on a more serious note, I was inspired by a recent ask to redo my original building generator that I made a while back (and add a lot more tables and detail to it). It’s by no means an end-all-be-all set of rolling tables, just an outline to get things started and developed. Have fun looking for a home base for your adventurers!
The artwork used is stock by Fumar-Porros. They create all of it using SketchUp and Photoshop. It’s really impressive!
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Ooooookay, so I did some proofreading, formatted the thing, and made it a bit nicer to look at. This took me faaaar longer than I wanted it too, and I’m not even done. Since this is a playtest I only included the single fortification type (walls), and have kept the maneuver system simple to avoid any complications since there are so many systems working in unison here. I know this is definitely going to need tweaks, but for now it’s at least usable. I need to find some time to do some dry runs with it to work out the kinks but things are for too hectic right now to be able to set aside time for mechanical testing. If anyone gets a chance to go over this please let me know how it goes!
As always, questions and comments are welcome. I’d love to hear your thoughts!
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How to Enforce Your Boundaries
I see a lot of posts on Tumblr that talk about the importance of enforcing your boundaries - I’ve given that advice out myself, many times - but I haven’t seen a lot of discussion about what that actually looks like. I’ve been getting a lot of asks lately from people who want to enforce boundaries, but aren’t quite sure what they need to say or how firm they actually need to be. So without further ado, here’s a quick guide to doing just that:
Let’s say that you don’t want to talk about your ex - for the sake of example, that’s the boundary we’re going to set. Your reasons for not wanting to talk about your ex are deeply personal, and you don’t feel like explaining them; you just know that talking about the relationship or your ex is something that always sends you spiraling into very negative thoughts, and tends to ruin your entire day. So how do you go about enforcing that boundary?
Define your boundary as much as you can. Are there any people that you do feel comfortable talking about your ex with, or is this a blanket policy that applies to everyone? Are you okay with people mentioning them in passing, or no mentions at all? If someone in your life is dealing with an unhealthy or abusive relationship of their own, are you comfortable with them coming to you about it, or is that something you feel uncomfortable with? Finding the edges of your boundaries can be a complex task, and you won’t always know for sure what you’re okay with until you’ve actually encountered it. That’s okay. Do your best to be as specific as you can, and keep in mind that these things may change in the future.
Communicate your boundaries. Your loved ones will not be able to respect your boundaries properly if they are never told what those boundaries are. Even things that might seem like “common sense” to you (like not mentioning someone’s abusive ex to them) may not be common sense at all - your loved ones may have had very different experiences, such as having a friend or family member that found it helpful to vent about their ex. Be as clear and concise as you can. In this case, you might want to reach out to friends in advance to let them know that you just don’t want your ex mentioned around you, or you can deputize one of your closest friends to pass that message on to other people in your social circle.
Try to be as consistent in your boundaries as possible. I know that your moods and needs may change from day to day, but it can be very confusing for other people in your life if your boundaries seem to change rapidly, and it creates the idea that your boundaries are not “set in stone”. If you have a good mental health day and bring up your ex in conversation, your friends may get the impression that your old boundaries no longer apply, and that they can now bring this topic up in casual conversation. Presenting your boundaries as inconsistent and rapidly-shifting also leads to something called “boundary creep” - this is where people start pushing your boundaries in small ways, because they see your boundaries as flexible and subject to change if they just persist long enough. To avoid hurt feelings and uncomfortable situations, it’s best not to relax your boundaries until and unless you are ready for that boundary to permanently change.
For small violations of your boundaries, start with “soft enforcement”. In cases where the boundary violation is probably a one-time slip-up or mistake, the best way to deal with it may be just to firmly change the subject or re-direct the conversation without necessarily drawing attention to the boundary violation. For minor, thoughtless errors, actually calling out the mistake may be more emotionally taxing for you than the impact of the mistake itself. If you and a friend are discussing a particular TV show, and your friend slips and says “Oh, I remember that Taylor, Sam and [ex] were so obsessed with it”, this may be an instance where a soft boundary encforcement may be applicable - perhaps mention a new show that you are watching and firmly steer the conversation in that direction. If the violation was a mistake that was not meant with malice, this is often all it takes for someone to realize that they’ve screwed up and be more careful going forward.
For more serious boundary violations or repeated small violations, use more direct enforcement. Say you’re having coffee with a friend and they directly mention that they spoke to your ex lately and start filling you in on how your ex is doing. Or perhaps your friend who accidentally mentioned your ex in passing has now made several similar errors, and doesn’t seem to take the hint when you redirect the conversation. This is situation where you need to be firmer with enforcing your boundaries. This does not have to be a huge confrontation - simply re-state your boundary and firmly redirect the conversation. “I’m actually not comfortable talking about my ex and I want to talk about something else - did you go see that movie last weekend?” Don’t use soft language here, like saying that you’d “prefer” not to talk about your ex or that you’d “rather” discuss something else - state your needs clearly, and move straight into a new topic of conversation. This does not have to be a confrontational or emotional conversation, but it does need to be very firm so that there is no possibility of misunderstanding.
For serious or repeat boundary violations, a “hard enforcement” is necessary. If someone goes out of their way to tell you that they don’t think your boundary is reasonable, that they have a right to challenge your boundary, or if they simply continue to violate your boundaries over and over again despite direct and clear reminders, this is the time for a more serious confrontation. Sit your friend or family member down and let them know that what they are doing is not welcomed, not acceptable, and that you do not want it to continue. If applicable, point out past instances where they were directly warned about your boundaries, and explain how their violations make you feel. Make it clear that this is not up for debate or discussion; your boundaries are what they are, and if the other person is unwilling or unable to abide by them, the relationship cannot move forward. Explain that you value the relationship and want it to move forward, but that this cannot continue to happen. This does not have to be a long conversation - it should actually be a short one, so that there is minimal opportunity for the other person to try to debate you - but it does need to happen. This kind of conversation leaves absolutely no ambiguities; the person has been directly told that they are harming you and given instructions on how to avoid harming you.
If a person makes it clear that they are just not willing or able to abide by your boundaries, it is probably time to end the relationship. If you have clearly explained to something that their actions are harming you, and they do not change their actions, you can take that as a clear sign that they are okay with harming you and act accordingly. You do not benefit from having a continued relationship with someone who does not respect you enough to avoid hurting you. There is no need for an extended confrontation here - you have already given the person an opportunity to salvage the relationship and they chose not to take it. If you want to let the person know why you are stepping away from the relationship, that’s up to you, but if you’d prefer to just keep your distance from that person, that’s fine too. If this is a person in your life that you are unable to avoid, like a coworker, keep your distance as much as possible moving forward and avoid unnecessary personal interaction. Respecting boundaries is a minimal requirement in a relationship, and bending over backwards to accommodate someone who is not willing to do that doesn’t benefit anyone.
It’s important to remember that you are not being unreasonable or demanding for having boundaries. Most of the boundaries that people set in relationships - avoiding traumatic topics of conversation, asking people to respect your sleep schedule, not wanting to be pressured to drink, not loaning out money, etc, etc - are fair, reasonable, and take fairly minimal effort to respect. Even more complex boundaries and needs are easy to respect if they have been laid out in clear, unambigious terms. There is no excuse for a person to continue to trample over your boundaries when they have been made explicitly aware of their existence, and you are not the bad guy for wanting to be treated with basic courtesy and consideration.
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legit the best advice i can give you: feed your friends
any time someone is in any kind of crisis or upheaval, offer to feed them. tell them they don't have to choose what it is if they can't make decisions, just ask about allergies and preferences and tell them you're just gonna make food happen at their house.
friend having a baby? delivery gift certificate to order food to the hospital after the kid shows up.
someone's relative passes away? offer to make them dinner.
buddy gets laid off? ask if you can order them lunch.
pal stuck in a depressive episode? offer to drive them to fucking mcdonalds, if that's what they want.
people in crisis are tired and sad and angry and the last thing most of them are doing is thinking about feeding themselves. so if you have the ability or time or money, providing that is always, always a good move.
legit i do this all the time, and it is 100% always appreciated. i have taught all my friends that when something happens, we feed each other. it makes people feel extremely cared for, and I cannot recommend it enough.
easily one of the most animals of all time
It's a Vietnamese Hmong dog for those asking
It looks like a mix of a cat and a dog in the opposite way to how a fox looks like a mix of a cat and a dog.
I can't gather my thoughts except to say I'm stunned by this creature!
Can someone please tell me what it means when an owl LITERALLY fucking swims towards you and then stares you down??
Like look at it?? Literally flew past me and my my friend, it was so close that the wings touched our faces.
It’s reminding you to do your Duolingo practice
The real answer is that it really wants you to go away
That’s a fledgling great horned owl, they’re known for being generally ballsy and aggressive, and owls have been known to both climb trees and swim through still water in a pinch
Most likely full scenario: the bird was practicing flying, but it fell because it’s still a kid and they do that. It probably fell in/by the water. It then was like Oh Damn Oh Jesus and decided it was not in fact a duck and headed to shore, saw you, and was utterly offended but confused on what to do. So it decided to Square Up and face you like the hellbeast it is.
The pose it’s taking in the pic is one I affectionately call Full Orb. A fully orbed owl is 100% READY to FIGHT 1v1 no items final destination. You were probably its first up close encounter with a human, and since birds tend to associate larger animals with predators, it tried to make itself look as big as possible to make sure you know what’s up. It was staring you down because it was waiting to see you make the first move in the dual or flee in fear from its superior owl might.
This reply made this post 101x better
me: oh hello little owl
owl: i will fuck you up
Never forget that an owl is mostly feathers and air.
I thought @demonladytakkuri owned this post, but then @neil-gaiman sidled up and showed us a nekkid owl. Point is, this post is just plain fabulous.
let lgbtq authors write about tragedy with lgbtq characters. let them write about death, toxic relationships, abuse. let them write about what it is like to be human without having to worry about “good representation” and bury your gays when the stories they want to tell may include the ugly sides of living.
i’m exhausted of hearing about authors being forced to out themselves when accused of bad representation, queerbaiting, or bury your gays.
i don’t think authors (even lgbtq authors!) are infallible in the way they can portray lgbtq characters, and they should accept criticism but also i’m fucking tired of the concept that Every lgbtq Character needs to be the Pinnacle of Purity otherwise it’s ‘bad representation’
The LGBT+ community really has a problem with this, especially when it comes to real people. This idea that LGBT+ people/characters can do no wrong and they need to be portrayed that way or else it’s toxic and relying on stereotypes.