RatsandCandy666

Radical. Queer. Human Garbage.

[ratsandcandy666]

Porque no?

[onetwofeb]

The internal conversation known as dreaming is no more an event limited to the hours of sleep than the existence of stars is limited to the hours of darkness. Stars become visible at night when their luminosity is no longer concealed by the glare of the sun. Similarly, the conversation with ourselves that in sleep we experience as dreaming continues unabated and undiluted in our waking life.

Thomas H. Ogden, Conversations at the Frontier of Dreaming (via onetwofeb)

[ratsandcandy666]

Immersion

You know immersion is working when you're in the bathroom coaching yourself through diarrhea in Spanish 🤗

[ratsandcandy666]

San Pedro de La Laguna, Lago Atitlan, Guatemala.

I’ve been living here for a little over three weeks. Two weeks living with a family and going to language school. Before this- Mexico for a month. Tomorrow I go to Antigua and Thursday I fly to Peru. I ain’t even mad.

[ratsandcandy666]

Tehuantepec, Oaxaca, Mexico

[ratsandcandy666]

Living my dream Been wanting to travel around central/ South America for 5 years And I get here and I'm just like "Wow. Here I am. I did it. Look, a palm tree and some beautiful street art. Who cares." I've been here for two weeks totally flatlined emotionally Is this PMS or depression? Stay tuned to find out.

[lumaterian-deactivated20210529]

Regretting motherhood is a dark secret many women hide. But pretending it doesn’t happen, or passing judgment when it does, are insidious...

What a devastating thing for a child to hear, that her mother regrets having her, people say when they learn about these interviews. Indeed, many of the mothers who participated in my study said that there is a reasonable chance that their daughters and sons know and feel that they live in a home where motherhood is not fully embraced by the ones who brought them into this world, even if their needs—shelter, nutrition, clothing, care, and attentiveness to their well-being—are satisfied. These children might make the emotional conclusion that they are the ones who ruined their mothers’ lives, carrying a guilt that will always remind them that their existence was and is unwanted. But this is exactly one of the reasons why publicly talking about regretting motherhood is important. When mothers clarify that it is motherhood they regret and not the children themselves, then there is also an opportunity for children to relieve themselves of some of that burden. Six years ago, a conversation I had with a student illustrated this exactly. She approached me after a lecture I gave to say that she now understood that she is a daughter of a mother who regrets, and that only now can she see her mother as a flesh-and-blood woman in a society that makes it very hard for women to determine whether they want to become mothers or not. She said it was the first time she could see her mother not as a monster, but as a human being, one who maybe does love her, but who also suffered from being trapped in a life that she didn’t want to live. It made her want to create a different dialogue with her, one less furious and hurt; a dialogue between two women in society, not only under the designation of “mother and daughter.”

[super-nova-bitch-blog]

straight out of the womb we’re teaching girls to hate their bodies and teaching boys that they’re SUPER!

[castielsteenwolf]

wait no like literally what the fuck lol

[burn-0utt-deactivated20160311]

haha and then we have people that say we don’t need feminism hahahahahhahaaaaaaa

[beardycarrot]

…Whaaaat the hellllllll is thiiiiiis…..

[ratsandcandy666]

5 star cabaña in the jungle Palenque, Chiapas, Mexico

[brutereason]

I remember, when I was breaking up with one of my exes years ago, he listed all the ways I made his life better when trying to convince me not to go. And I asked him, “but how do you think you make my life better?” and he was taken aback. “I don’t know,” he said. He’d never thought about it. When I date people, I devote a lot of effort to making their lives better. When I’m with women, I read about health issues that effect lesbian demographics (higher rates of breast cancer, obesity, and depression.) When I’m with men, I read about health issues that effect straight men (coronary issues, blood pressure, and emotional issues esp. around anger.) When I date people of color, I research POC health/discrimination/etc. issues, especially issues around dating white people (mental/health effects of internalized racism, institutionalized racism, the types of micro-aggressions I may be likely to commit.) When I date people with less money, I pay for shit. When I date people who are messy, I organize their shit (even though I’m also really messy.) When I date people with physical limitations, I massage their shit (weird Emma past: I went to massage school.) But, especially with men, this energy feels so unidirectional. Women are frequently more reciprocative, but men often seem completely uninterested in helping me improve my life in any way. They often care about impressing me, by having nice shit, or looking good, or pulling in bank. But, they almost never take a look at my life and ask themselves “what is Emma missing, and how could I fill that role?”

Why Do Men Put So Little Effort Into Serious Dating? (via brutereason)

[anti-capitalistlesbianwitch]

At its most basic level, all of this emotional labour is saying to another human being “you matter. I will take my time to show you that you matter.” And maintaining that glue is something that devolves mainly onto women, 24 hours a day. It feels like most men are taught (ex- or implicitly) to do emotional work only when it gets them something they want now, whereas most women are taught to do emotional work as part of an ongoing exchange that benefits everyone.

Emotional Labor: The MetaFilter Thread Condensed (via anti-capitalistlesbianwitch)

[brutereason]

I’ve been having a lot of anxiety about dating men again in a way I don’t get about dating women. And, I’ve been trying to understand that and… it’s like, this feeling like my life will be a life of perpetual drudgery or somehow permanently grey. I associate dating men with being forced to do a lot more menial tasks than I do when I date women. And, I see flashes of this when I go on dates with men. They’ll start bitching about work, say, and I’ll be expected to reflect back their emotions and process this with them. Women do this less frequently, and if they do, they tend to be appreciative of the effort I’ve put into listening to them. Men often won’t even acknowledge that I’ve done anything. They’re probably unaware that I even did. I am terrified of becoming someone’s anger dump. I have had to work so hard to expunge all the negative shit that’s been dumped in me up to now, I can’t go and let someone just fill me up again. I can’t keep going to therapy, and yoga to allow whoever I’m dating the privilege of dumping in me. I won’t.

Men Dump Their Anger Into Women – Emma Lindsay – Medium (via brutereason)

[ithelpstodream]

[profeminist]

Source

[anti-capitalistlesbianwitch]

Tweet by Rachel W. Miller:

Behind every woke man is an exhausted feminist you need to thank.

[fourthkindillustration]

Still shot of the wolf skull for Cari thank you for popping by! #pcrumptattoos #thebutcher #1337tattoos #griffinsalve #gatattooers #handtattoo

[ohstarstuff]

“What you are basically deep deep down, far, far in, is simply the fabric and structure of existence itself” - Alan Watts Love this poetic take by the philosopher Alan Watts on our inseparable connection to the Universe.