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“You have to feel the zone.”
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You have to feel it. You can not just imagine it. It is not enough to just see others in the zone. You can not be in it alone. There’s duality in that zone. The other person may be invisible but very present.
She kneels for me
She kneels for me because I inspire her
She kneels for me because she desires to
She kneels for me because I protect her
She kneels for me because I lead her
She kneels for me because I respect her
She kneels for me because I love her
She kneels for me
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He wasn’t just touching Her face. He was calming Her mind. … and claiming Her soul.
Claimed.
where?
with Me.
how far will we be going?
as far as you wish.
will it be dark?
very.
will i lose my way?
not with Me.
if i place my hand in yours….
I promise you that I’ll never let it go.
~ beautflstranger
The Wrong Reasons
I was talking to a sub friend who was chatting with a new potential Dom. We talked about how it was going and if she thought he would work out. She said at first she did, he said all the right things, but since then all he talked about is sex and all he wanted to do was make her play for him.
He sent her this message, which basically ended it for her: “I’m pissed and horny, I really need a sub to play with”.
She didn’t like that message and I love her reasoning for not liking it. It’s something I’ve always said and she listened to it well.
I never want to play, use, flog, torture or slap a sub out of anger. No Dom ever should want to take their anger for things going on in their work or social life out on their sub. That’s a huge red flag to me. That tells your sub that yoy want to use her as a punching bag so to speak. You want to take your worldly anger out on her. That’s just not cool.
The second part of that “I’m horny so I need a sub to play with” is also a red flag to me. If your only goal for having a sub is to use her for sex you have completely missed the point on what a D/S relationship should be. If you think fucking should happen in every play session, and if you think she should be there to fuck you every time just because you’re horny, you’re missing the point. Sex will happen, orgasms will happen, but you want her to want those things from you, need those things from you based on how you treat her in all non sexual aspects. Own her in the right way, control her with trust and devotion and she will love that you need her for sex, she will crave you needing her for sex, but if your sole reason for wanting a sub is for sex, you’re just a shitty person. Period. You need to care about her life, help her in ways she needs you to, be there to support her in ways she needs, and then the sexual part will be there.
I’m very glad he didn’t get his hands on her and she saw it before it was too late. She explained to me that in his one statement she realized she was just a piece of meat to him and that she’d never get what she truly needed out of it.
Im proud of her for this one and wanted to share my thoughts on what his statement meant to me also. Beware, it’s a crazy world out there.
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“Believe. In Yourself.”
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Start Believing in Yourself. Your Needs. Desires. Aches. Wants. Believe that you deserve. Always. Not Over-think. Just Feel. Feel the Flow. It will liberate you.
“She was an open book.”
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An open book. Not everyone could read her.
I'm not at all sure how to phrase this. But briefly stated what is the difference in a want and a need. I understand them academically but I'm having a very hard time labeling them, or labeling them specifically in my life. Every time I have a conversation with the dominant I am vetting about wants and needs. I find myself negating everything I need or want because they are merely wants. I'm having a very hard time differentiating in my own mind what is the want and what is it a need
I'll try to answer this as easily as possible. If you're discussing wants and needs with a potential Dom I applaud you. That's a great thing to do. You say you're negating a lot of things and my question I guess is, "are you negating them because he tells you they aren't needs?". I, as a potential Dom, don't negate many things as wants instead of needs unless it's really obvious.
If you tell me you have a need to be held and have your hair played with after an impact session that's a need for you and I wouldn't change that. If you tell me you need lots of reassurance that you're good enough for this then that's a need and I'd never negate it. If you tell me basic needs to be held, praised, or even a need to be used daily in ways that make you blush or embarrassed, those are needs.
Wants are definitely easier to understand. You want orgasms, you don't need them. You want chocolate, you don't need it. You want to be allowed to touch yourself and play, that's not a need. Etc.
Needs are something so much a part of you that you need them to feel safe, to feel trust, to feel like the relationship is stable and good. Needs make you feel your best. Needs make you feel like you deserve to be a sub. Needs make you feel like yourself. Needs should never be negated because someone else tried to tell you you don't really need them. Needs are the basic things that make you who you are.
Good luck on getting and take your time, make sure your wants and needs match up to his, if they don't then it won't be a good fit because you shouldn't compromise those needs for the sake of making someone else want you. Just take your time and learn for yourself what you truly need. You got this.
I'm hoping my followers will chime in on what their needs are going into a relationship and help expand on the meaning of needs.
