RealWorldSubmissive

My thoughts and observations as a submissive man in a long-term, monogamous D/s-style relationship. Expect practicalities not fantasies; thoughts and opinions not dreams and speculations.

[realworldsubmissive]

Good Boy

They are two incredible words.

They make me feel safe when it hurts.

If I’m scared, the bonds too tight

They can comfort me, keep me safe at night.

Or when I think I’m at my limit,

I’ll hear those words and in a minute,

To push for you I’ll be inspired

To go further than first desired.

They reaffirm my gift to you,

That bond we have; I know it’s true.

Those special words, to hear I crave

As boy, submissive, bitch or slave.

They say I’m more than just a boy;

I am a good boy. Your good boy.

And what else should I want to be?

[realworldsubmissive]

It's nice to pop back on here from time to time and see this post still doing the rounds.

[yngkinkydom]

Practicing my knots on my day off! The website is theduchy.com, by the way. Fantastic resource for beginners and more experienced rope riggers! Any volunteers for me to practice on?

[realworldsubmissive]

-Waves arms in the air to volunteer-

Or... I would if they weren't already tied.

[realworlddominant]

Boy's Birthday

Check out @RwSubmissive’s Tweet: https://twitter.com/RwSubmissive/status/1091627695862173696?s=09

Should have thought about that before asking shouldn’t you, boy? 

[realworldsubmissive]

Birthday

Happy Birthday to me

Happy Birthday to me

Tumblr won't let me share the pic I want to

But it'd be me on my knees

[realworldsubmissive]

Progress

May have been dragged to the darkside of Twitter: @RWSubmissive

[realworlddominant]

Important Message

I don’t know how many people are still around to read this but I need to share either way. 

11 years ago on the night of the 16th/17th January 2008 I met a guy. Little did I know that the club barman I met by chance would later be the most important man in my life, the best boy I could ever hope to meet and the guy I would drive through the night to propose to while he was away at school. 

@realworldsubmissive I know I don’t need to tell you how much you mean to me but I’m going to say it anyway. Love you, my special boy. Always. 

[realworldsubmissive]

♥️♥️♥️

[tastefullyoffensive]

[boyneville-deactivated20210416]

Thank You

A year ago I was scared. A year ago I was a boy who saw this community thrive here on Tumblr and was too anxious to participate. A year ago I made a Recon account and repeatedly deleted it and shamed myself for even going that far. A year ago, I told myself I could never have this… until I did.

Eventually, I let myself keep the Recon account and nervously started chatting with others. The community seemed too far and spaced out to really dig deep, but I just wanted to know what it felt like to be submissive even if I was just chatting. The itch was there and it felt like I was in the closet all over again.

After a few weeks, funnily enough I was able to approach and strike up a conversation with Sir Erik. We talked for weeks and for once I was finally able to connect with someone who understood my disposition. I remember one of the first things he told me was that he would never judge my submissiveness or interests and that I should just be me. It felt like I was letting go of a breath I had been holding for a long time. I took the plunge and this led up to me quite literally shaking as I walked into a coffee shop to meet my soon-to-be Sir first time and the rest is history.

It’s funny because whereas before I had struggled in making a Tumblr account before, I had now been ordered to. I suppose that took some of the weight off of my shoulders. Immediately, I was quite surprised by how approachable people were on here. They weren’t the big bad monsters I had pictured them to be beforehand and I was able to make friends in @indecisiveboy, @realworldsubmissive, @realworlddominant, and more.

Really what Tumblr did was open my eyes to the community as a whole. It painted a picture that there are friends and relationships to have in this scene and that there was nothing to be afraid of. I saw others sharing advice. I saw others sharing experiences. I saw others keeping each other safe on a global scale. I think the community here has had a fundamental piece in shaping my idea of the scene and growing my confidence as the leather boy I am today.

I’m sad to see it go as its been starting to feel rather homey. It is extremely unfortunate that the platform we helped thrive through our community has decided to commit suicide rather than host us. May our internet traffic be taken elsewhere. As of now Sir Erik and I do not know if and where we will be moving. Updates to come.

So instead of thanking Tumblr for wronging us, I would like to thank the community for accepting me this year and making me feel at home, I would like to thank the new friends I have made for being here, and I would like to thank Sir for expertly mentoring and guiding me to this point.

To conclude and mark my progress to this date, I have received Sir Erik’s consideration collar as of 7/28/2018. It has been my biggest accomplishment in this scene and a mark for our relationship. I am proud.

Boy Neville

[realworldsubmissive]

Can't even begin to say how pleased I am that I've had the opportunity to get to know you and be a part of your adventure. I won't step on your Sir's toes by saying I'm proud of you but... I'm really proud of you.

Tumblr has been a great medium for connecting like-minded people even if, sometimes, they might not have known just how like-minded they were and what you've said is a prime example of the kind of interactions and potential which will inevitably be lost.

Thank you so much for letting me be part of your journey and I promise I'll try harder to be a big scary monster. Or not.

[realworlddominant]

Where can we find you after the 17th of December?

I haven’t entirely decided whether you will yet. @realworldsubmissive said in a recent reblog that assuming his blog isn’t deleted he’ll continue to share what he can within the new guidelines and I’ll do the same. We never set out to make porn blogs but to share aspects of our life, the lessons we’ve learnt and the experiences we’ve shared. Unless and until Tumblr has a problem with that I’ll carry on too. 

[realworldsubmissive]

Seems about right if (and that's a big if) Tumblr follow their own guidelines. Watch this space.

[amazonpixie]

Thank you!

I just want to say thank you to all the people I have followed over the years. Your willingness to share yourselves through pictures, gifs, and captions has been an amazing revelation for me. I have found nothing but positivity and support for and from everyone here. It has been because of you that I have been brave enough to explore who I am, too. I am a submissive, and this community has been the best place for me and my sir to find the best combination of facts and fun to help us learn and grow. I’m a better sub, a better parent, a better writer, a better person because of all of you. I guess tumblr’s announcement has made me braver, too-brave enough to post how much I’ve appreciated you all. Thank you! Just a few:  @boymercuryx @clinicallymoi @grahamgroans @love-protect-provide-discipline @midnite-wet-dreamz @norah2121 @opposite-of-a-problem @pontiacdaddy @realpowerexchange @realworldsubmissive @thefilthfactory @flashdoggy

[realworldsubmissive]

Going to try not to go anywhere. The point of the blog was always this kind of response and to share our experiences and lessons. If I have to carry on doing that just in text then I will.

[realworlddominant]

In the interests of creating a better, safer and more positive environment for Tumblr users while also maintaining the kink element of this blog, I have decided that all future images I share will be from the POV of a blindfolded sub. 

Warning: these may be explicit in their implication. 

Warning: These may become a tad repetitive. 

[realworldsubmissive]

I knew you were my favourite person for a reason.

[kinkyboyfrance]

Strike the pose.

[sir-erik]

Pop quiz boys and pup. What does red, yellow, and dark blue mean?

[realworldsubmissive]

I'd say it means pups should never be allowed out on the road by themselves if they're gonna be waiting on a blue light...

[realworldsubmissive]

Do you have a rainbow fetish 😜?

Not at all. But just an observation:

[realworldsubmissive]

No, Sir @realworlddominant, that is not made any better by being bathed in rainbow light!

[realworldsubmissive]

How do you call @realworlddominant in your daily life? Do you have a strict protocol to follow? Thank you!

Hey, thanks for the question.In most situations we just use each other's names so he's "Sam" 85-90% of the time. We can generally tell from each other without needing to be explicit about it when we're shifting the dynamic at which point he becomes "Sir" ".We certainly don't follow what I'd call any kind of strict protocol. There are general expectations but we completely respect each other's right to not be in the mood and there's no obligation for me to do anything particular at any given time.As regular readers and followers will know we have an agreed principle in our relationship that the D/s element is secondary to everything else. It's always there in the background but it doesn't interfere with us treating each other as absolute equals outside a scene.

[realworlddominant]

I call this one “Pride in Submission" 

[realworldsubmissive]

Such a good night. Thank you @realworlddominant as always.

[realworldsubmissive]

A Serious Message

We interrupt the regularly scheduled sexiness and kink advice to bring a serious message for a change.

I have had a few friends (mostly American but more worryingly some Brits) asking me recently about the significance of this:

The poppy has been a symbol of remembrance commemorating military personnel since shortly after the end of World War One. Common poppies grow naturally in disturbed soil across most of Europe and after the devastation of WW1 they were one of the first plants to regrow on the battlefields.The opening lines of Canadian physician Lt-Col John McCrae’s ‘In Flanders Fields’ reference the poppies growing between the war graves in France and Belgium. 

Since the 1920s, the Royal British Legion, one of the UK’s leading military and veteran charities, have made and sold poppies in an annual appeal in the build up to Remembrance Day which coincides with Armistice Day (11th November) across the Commonwealth. They are traditionally worn pinned to the lapel. 

The day is commonly marked across the Commonwealth with a notable exception in New Zealand where it coincides with Anzac (Australian and New Zealand Army Corps) Day in April which is also increasingly observed in Australia. In the US, the day is recognised as Veterans Day but for many other countries in Europe and the Commonwealth it serves a function closer to what Americans would recognise as Memorial Day.

The poppy is well recognised as a Commonwealth symbol of remembrance but is less popular outside of these nations. In France and Belgium, the bleuet de France (cornflower) is more commonly associated with the military and WWI for much the same reason. The French also wore blue uniforms.

So there’s the story and maybe a little education about why you might see particularly friends from the UK, Canada, Australia and New Zealand wearing a poppy or featuring it in their display pictures over the next few days.

I won’t go into the politics of different types of poppies, colours or controversies because that’s really, really not the point.