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Guide

Adulting

Apartment Hunting

Budgeting

Cleaning [Tutorials]

Healthy Habits

Meal Prep Schedule

Overnight Trips [Cosmetic Packing List]

Livable and Affordable Pittsburgh Neighborhoods

Personal Safety

Productivity

Recipes [Dinner, Drinks, Recipe Blogs, Sauces]

Traveling [Camping, Locations]

Pittsburgh Restaurants

Work/$$ [Personal Finance, Programs & Opportunities]

Workouts [Fitness Youtubers, Routines, Stretching]

Tips and Tricks

Beauty

Fashion [Brands, Staple Items, Tips]

Hair [Product Recommendations, Tutorials, Tools]

Makeup [Product Recommendations, Tips, Tutorials]

Perfume

Skincare [Product Recommendations]

Maintenance

Jewelry

Beauty in Pittsburgh

Content

Articles to Read [Tech, Interesting, Literature, Journal Articles]

Books [Nonfiction, Fiction]

Music [Artists Who Talk About Race, Artists by Genre, Small Artists]

Movies [Action, Drama, Documentaries, Horror]

TV [Comedy, Drama, Mini Series]

Videos [Creators, Video Essays]

Podcasts

Video Games

Topics to Research

Mental Health/Wellbeing

Relationships [Activities, Crafts, Habits, Healthy Attachment, Meeting the Parents, Tips]

Cultivating Mental Health [ADHD, Anxiety/OCD, Depression, Perfectionism, Strategies]

Social Skills [General, Sapphic Flirting, Talking to Kids]

Self Love [Body Image, Strategies, Things to Work On]

Life Advice [Emotional Availability, Narcissism, Resources, Success & Adversity]

Personal/Lifestyle

Activities/Hobbies [Events, Hobbies, Places]

Alcohol [Cocktails]

Art/Decor [Apartment, Bar Cart, Brands, Plants, Styles]

Gift Ideas [General, Mens]

Luxurious Locations [Gyms, Restaurants, Social Clubs]

Sorority [Bid Day, Custom Greek Letters/Merch, Recruitment Icebreakers]

Tote Bag Essentials

Wishlist [Accessories, Clothing, Decor, Makeup, Misc, Perfume, Social Media]

Pittsburgh Landlords to Avoid

Pitt Student Resources

Coaching a group skating class

Halloween Costumes

Wedding

Prep Lifestyle

Affordable Luxuries

Etiquette

Pharmacy

Pharmacy Workflow [Medicare Billing]

Clinical Research Opportunities [Emails, Finding Research, Resources]

Setting Goals

PhD Program Considerations

Trauma-Informed Care

Healthcare aesthetic

Professional

College Resources

Compensation and Negotiations

Email [Signature, Formats, Resources]

Interviews [Questions to Ask, Answering Interview Questions]

On the Job [Tips]

Job Search [Location-Based Strategy]

Resume (ATS, Resources, Tips]

Summer Internships [Career Fairs, LinkedIn Strategies]

Excel Hacks

Word Doc Tips

Social Media

Dressing for Photos [Dos and Don’ts]

Photography Tutorials [Tourist Photos, Apps, Beach Pics]

Posing for Photos [Poses, Tips]

Places to Take Photos

Instagram Story Tutorials

Lightroom Presets

Academic Success

Create an Assignment Tracker

Studying [Tutorials, Tips, Essay Phrases]

Academic Resources [Clinical/Pathology, Youtube Channels]

Academic Time Management

Maintaining Motivation

Task Completion

Daily routine examples

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Healthcare Aesthetic

Lulu Swiftly

Patagonia

Figs

On clouds

Apple Watch

Pink hydro flask

Pink lunchbox

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Unsafe People

They get angry when you bring up concerns

They may apologize, but they don’t really change

They lie to deal with their problems

They don’t grow and they love to blame others

They never admit their weaknesses

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Word Document Tips

Add header and footer

Design -> watermark -> confidential OR -> custom watermark (make sure background image is transparent)

Save as PDF

Lock the document for editing after

Add your name in info

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Early Red Flags

1. Love-Bombing

Overwhelming you with affection as a way to “win” you

During the first 2 to 3 months, saying things like:

“You’re my soulmate, I’ve never met anyone like you”

“You’re so different”

“I can’t live without you”

“I want to marry you and have kids together”

2. Negging

Disguising insults as compliments to wear down your self-esteem

“Are you really going to wear that?”

“You look so much prettier with your hair down”

“You know I didn’t mean it like that. You’re too sensitive”

“You look nice, but I can see why people think you’re easy”

“You’re actually pretty smart!”

3. No Respect for Your Boundaries

Makes you feel guilty for wanting to slow down

Pressures you into things you aren’t ready for

“Don’t you want to spend time with me”

Everything is always on their terms

4. Comparison

“I’m so glad you don’t dress like ____”

“You’re so much better than my ex” -> “my ex would never act like this”

“You’re different” -> “you’re just like the rest”

“I’m so glad you’re not like the other girls”

5. Hypocrisy

Has extremely high expectations of loyalty, respect, adoration, etc but doesn’t hold themself to the same standards

… then cheats, lies, insults, and degrades you

6. Gaslighting

Denying it happened or how you remember it

Minimizing: acting as if you’re overreacting or overly emotional and invalidating your feelings when you have a normal emotional response to something

Countering: they’ll bring up a perceived wrong in your behavior in a different situation to counter the inappropriateness of theirs in the situation at hand, shifting the focus of the conversation to defending your actions

Withholding: they refuse to have a conversation about what just happened and often pretend they don’t understand or like you’re confusing them intentionally

Blaming: no matter their responsibility in the situation, they’ll blame it on you regardless

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Pittsburgh Restaurants

Lucca’s (Italian)

The Porch

Spirits and Tales

Zarra’s

Masala House

Pino’s

Butterjoint

Casbah

Acorn

Soba

Flowers in the Attic (breakfast and lunch)

DiAnoia’s Eatery

Soju

Siempre Algo

Bae Bae’s Kitchen (Korean)

Casa Brasil

MOLA (sushi)

Apericena Wine Bar

Chicken Latino (Peruvian chicken)

Alihan’s Mediterranean Cuisine

Casbah

Pusadee’s Garden (Thai)

Mi Empanada (Argentinian)

Waffalonia

The Abbey on Butler St

Square Café

Morcilla (Spanish)

Girasole

Tupelo Honey (Southern)

Kimpton Hotel Monaco

Taiwanese Bistro Cafe 33

Mercurio’s

Nicky’s Thai

Con Alma

Coffee

Adda’s (tea)

Big Dog

Klvn

Coffee Tree Roasters

Delanies

Commonplace Coffee

De Fer

Jitters Cafe

Round Table Coffee

Rock n Joe Coffee Bar

Black Cat Market

Hilltop Coffee

61C cafe

Cafeteno

Bakeries

Butterwood bake consortium

Sumi’s cakery

Bartram House Bakery

Prantl Burnt Almond Torte Cake

Paddy Cake Bakery

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Nails

Pearl Salon

Paint Nail Bar

Brush in Shadyside

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Etiquette

Dinner Parties

Dress in a way that was fashionable when the host was young (@kaytuc)

Make sure your clothing is freshly washed and well ironed

Go understated and formal

Always bring a gift even if they say you don’t need to (if they say NOT to then don’t)

Send gift later if it’s at a venue and not someone’s birthday

Make sure the gift is well-wrapped Jon a bag with no price tag

Include a small handwritten thank you note

When you arrive, give the host the gift holding it in your right hand then follow it up with a hug or kiss on the cheek

Introduce yourself to anyone you don’t know

Always help out with clearing the table and refilling glasses

Ask questions about the person you’re talking to

Compliment the house and the food

Listen to what the person chooses to discuss and return to that topic later

Arrive on time, not early and not fashionably late like a normal party; within 20 minutes of time listed

Have engaging and non controversial conversation topics prepared to discuss with people you don’t know (funny stories, current events)

Seating at Dinner Parties

Separate couples

Sit guests next to one person they know and one new person

Introduce your guests and establish common interests

Very Fancy Dinner Survival Guide (TT kaytuc)

Wear something comfortable and be prepared to be there for a long time

Bold makeup, bright jewelry because lighting will be low

Smaller cutlery usually gets used earlier on

Put napkin on lap

Water cup is smallest and closest, big round glass is for red wine, narrower glass for white wine

Bread plate on left but don’t point it out if someone takes yours

Pay attention to outfits of restaurant workers bc that helps you figure out their responsibilities

When you’re given the wine sample to try, check inside the glass for cork pieces then swirl it to let the smell out, then sip. If musty or cardboard smell or taste, it went bad. Only focused on whether wine went bad not whether you like the bottle

If you’re confused, ask the waiter “what’s this? It looks amazing!”

Make your utensils look like you’re still eating so you can grab them easily

When finished eating, push utensils together and slide to the side then push plate forward a little, grab wine and relax

Hostess Gifts

A nice bottle of olive oil

Flowers

Something from a local shop like jam or a candle

Local honey or maple syrup from the farmer’s market

Two cold bottles of Perrier

Good chocolate

A book

Introducing Yourself

Have at least one hand free

Make sure they’re free to chat, don’t interrupt someone reading or on the phone

Pay attention to body language: is their bellybutton facing you or away? Tense face, crossed arms are signs they don’t want to talk

Approach from the left if possible

Start with open-ended questions: how do you know the host? How has your night been? What’s your favorite thing you’ve tried tonight?

LA Burdick chocolate mice

Networking

Bring a business card and a pen

Know the layout of the space you’re in

Be in the right place at the right time: before or after people are going to work, near a transit station or offices

Go to places where you trust the staff

Sit somewhere oriented to conversation like a communal table, conference room, or a bar; near a TV

Bring a book as a conversation starter

Never look at your phone while eating

Don’t approach anyone using their phone

Make a small comment about what you’re watching or something similar to get the conversation going, ask a minor question

Ask what they do first so you know what to focus on

Mourning

Funeral (formal ceremony), wake (gathering of friends and family, remains usually present), memorial (remains not present), burial, reception

Wear black and low heels to the funeral

Hands must be free

Understated yet polished outfit

Greet everyone in the receiving line, express sympathy, keep hands free to shake or gently hold theirs

Bring hankerchiefs, wash and then return if someone else offers you one

Send a small note to those who are grieving on simple yet personal stationery

One sentence expressing you’re sorry for their loss, another acknowledging your continued support and love for them

Don’t bring anything to a formal funeral event

Providing meals or coordinating meal delivery is a good way to show support

Include contact info if you send something

When to Send Cards

Get well soon

Birthdays

Moving into a new home

Mother’s Day

Graduation

Sympathy cards for grief

Thank you cards for gifts

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NYC

Restaurants

Malibu Farm

Estiatorio Milos (fancy Greek)

Yefsi Estiatoro (Greek, less pricey)

Pylos

Avra

Raouls

La Esquina downstairs

Raku

Cloud 9 Crepes

Avoid: Charlie Bird, Balthazar, Lure

SkirtSteak (late lunch)

Coffee Shops

Remy’s Café

Blue Bottle

Maman

Ralph’s Coffee

Levain Bakery

Beauty

Rescue Spa

Nightlife

Greenwich St. Tavern

Happiest Hour

Due West

Wolfie & Nell

White Horse Tavern

Village Tavern

WXOU Radio Bar

Blue Haven

Galway Hooker

Fiddlesticks

Upper West Side

79th Green St Market

Westsider Brooks, 80th and Broadway

Zabar’s, 80th and Broadway

Riverside Park, esp 91st St Garden

Black Press Coffee, 73rd and Columbus

The Grand Bazaar, 77th and Columbus

Levain Bakery, 74th and Amsterdam

Sala Thai, 74th and Amsterdam

Tiki Chick, 85th and Amsterdam

View from Oak Bridge

Lower Manhattan

Coming Soon, 53 Canal St

Hwa Yuan, 42 E Broadway

Cheese cones from the Cannoli King, 148 Mulberry

Employees Only, 510 Hudson

Goods for the Study, 234 Mulberry

Veselka, 9th and 2nd

Three Lives and Co, 238 W 10th

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Clean Girl Makeup

1. Apply makeup to these exact spots and blend up using a damp beauty blender (NARS Radiant Creamy Concealer)

2. Brush brows upward and diagonal with brow gel, make sure to lift the tail (Cossas clear brow gel)

3. Gently press translucent powder into the places where your concealer usually creases, like your upper eyelids, under eyes, mouth, and nose

4. Coat your lashes with aquaphor, then curl them and use mascara (Hermes clean mascara)

5. Apply cream blush or lip shine (Hermes lip shine in Bloom), press into skin with damp beauty blender

6. Tap a cream highlighter onto the tops of your cheeks and nose (Hermes Living Luminizer)

7. Gently outline your lips with a rose-colored lip liner

8. Smudge the liner into your lips like you’ve just been kissed

9. Lip gloss

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Affordable Luxuries

Tea set

Sugar cubes

Trader Joe’s flowers

Silk pillowcases

Lemon water

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Wedding

Splurge on videographer/photographer

Skip traditions you don’t like

Hire a wedding planner/day-of coordinator

Don’t spend a ton on decorative flowers

Have a separate wedding email

Make sure your first dance song isn’t too long

Do your spray tan last, after nails, eyebrows, etc

Designers

Inés de Santo

Prep

1 facial monthly for 6 months (RescueSpa)

Pilates 4x/week (Soulcycle and Barry’s are good if you don’t get too hungry)

Botox at least six weeks in advance, massater to slim jaw (Heather the Injector)

Keratin bonded hair extensions before hair trial day (LRN Beauty NYC)

Mani pedi 1-2 days before

Spray tan 2 days before and do it last after mani-pedi, brows, etc; shower morning before

Eyelash extensions 3 days before

Venues

Rosewood

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Interview Prep

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Letters

The Letters of Frida Kahlo