Terms like "BBC" and "blacked" are just re-packaged racist tropes based on the stereotype of the "big black guy" and the idea that somehow sleeping with a black man taints or changes a white woman ("she has been blacked" sounds a lot like "her white purity is compromised"). Even if you try to use these terms in a positive way, they portray a worldview that sees race as the primary category for humans and creates an "us and them" dynamic (the "positive" version is white girls wanting to cross the lines to the "them" camp, but that's still the same ideological worldview).
You seem like someone who wants to learn and enjoys reading so I recommend:
Marlon James' article in the UK newspaper, The Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/may/25/to-survive-in-america-as-a-black-man-marlon-james
This article about the problem of "interracial" porn and why the category was removed from the AVN awards: https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/could-this-be-the-end-of-interracial-porn
I have a lot of sympathy for where this "IR as racism" approach is coming from, but ultimately I think it's misguided. Let me explain why.
I'm a white woman who is attracted to Black men. Many of the features I'm attracted to are physical characteristics of that particular ethnicity - dark skin, soft lips, etc. For lack of a better word, I'm attracted (in part) to their race. Does that mean that I treat race as a "primary category for humans", as you put it?
I don't think so, any more than guys who prefer blondes over non-blondes treat hair color as a primary category for humans. I can be more attracted to people from one category without thinking that people from that category should be treated worse or better than others.
Now, I also happen to be attracted to a lot of the "taboo" issues surrounding interracial relationships; their historically illicit nature and the notions of "our" and "their" camp.
I recognize that some of these concepts tap into some stereotypes that are not only hurtful, but which also get real people in the real world killed. The "Black thug" stereotype can have fatal consequences for young Black men in police confrontations.
I can't control having the feelings I do or being attracted to what I am. But I can control how I act on them and how I talk about them in public.
But at the end of the day fantasies are fantasies, and adult material is fiction. We need to get better at telling those apart, and while I'm all for the adult industry distancing themselves from racist stereotypes (seriously, read that Mel Magazine article for some horrible examples), I think that cancelling IR material entirely is a bridge too far.
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