hii fawn I hope your doing good, ok so i got a question as a little but also as a flip too. Sometimes stress or similar negative feelings make me regress, and I feel fussy/cranky/moody? not like angry or meanie but yk irritable. Maybe you have some tips for that moments? weather it's for me or for when I care for other littles. Ok tysm, love your content <3
this is a bit of a late reply, i was going to reply with a video but i haven't had the time to make it recently so im making it a text post instead!
For the littles with big feelings 🫂🩵
~~~ written for big kids who want to help and littles who need advice to support themself ~~~
- Remember your feelings are valid. You deserve care ( whether self care or from a trusted individual ). When you are having a hard moment, try to be patient with yourself and assure yourself that you are never truly alone. Big and small we all go through hard things and everyone ( yes including you ) deserve understanding and love through that.
- If there is a trusted individual or community of yours who can help you, lean on them a little! It is okay to need support, it is valid to want care, you are not a bad kid for any of your wants or needs.
- When you don't have anyone to help, ( because sometimes we have to do things ourselves, and thats okay ) that's when you really have to be loving to yourself and know you can get yourself through anything, because you always have. Everything you've ever been through, you got through because you are brave and strong.
- Be proud of yourself for doing your best. It may be hard but you are capable of getting through these difficult moments!
💐. ) Feeling negative emotions while little does not define your regression!
- Your regression is so much more than your moments of fussiness / or crankiness / moodiness. Remember that there is more to you than what happens to / around you or how you feel! Your regression is defined by what you want it to be.
- While we cannot always control our regression or the situations that make us feel negatively, we can always work towards a healthier future for ourselves and others involved in our regression ( caregivers, friends / siblings, etc ) !
🫐. ) So, what can we do for ourselves and others?
- When you ( / or your little one ) are out of these moments, try not to ( / affirm your little so they dont ) shame yourself or feel guilty for either needing space, care, or anything else that makes these tough times more manageable! Being kind to yourself out of these moments is just as important as kindness to yourself during the difficulty. The more you ( / your little one ) practice patience within, the easier it will become to understand what is needed and help you work through anything <3
- When you can, try balancing out any negative/ sad/ unhappy little time with little time that is of higher enjoyment quality! You deserve happiness and healing, you deserve little time that makes you feel safe, loved, and healthy.
- If you ( / your regressor ) is little & feeling negatively get the feelings off your chest, if it's a safe and applicable time. Try having a snack / juice / + you like, put a comfort media / music / + on, play with your stuffies / preferred toys, have a playdate with another little if those make you happy! Give yourself ( / your little one ) healthy structure, self care, and love.
Might also help to consider that voluntary & / or involuntary regression with negative emotions can also be healing! There are times when our brain needs/ wants to experience support & understanding from a childlike perspective, to be comforted either by yourself or another person during this moment through engagement with your regression is extremely valid. When our brain does not get that, of course sometimes it can make a hard time even more difficult.
When we learn to be kind to ourselves and know what we need, & when to ask for help, we can become stronger + healthier + and happier!
I am not saying that healing and happiness are easy, HOWEVER, I am saying you are capable of them. This is the best advice I have, I hope it is at least encouraging and hopefully helpful
someone out here is rooting for you and believing in you! its me!!