âbut iâm not meanâ ok, cool! do you:
point out peopleâs mistakes and failures to them? in front of others?
belittle their accomplishments and successes? in front of others?
make fun of people and laugh at them? in front of others?
do all this secretly to your âfriendsâ because friendship means being able to âjoke around withâ each other, or âbe brutally honestâ with each other?
bring up past grievances with people over and over until theyâve apologized âenoughâ, or just to shut down arguments with them, or get out of conversations you donât want to have?
refuse to do favors for people? like when you feel they havenât âearnedâ your time or effort? or at all because you donât want to be âtaken advantageâ of?
try to get out of paying your share of bills, doing your share of chores? spend time figuring out exactly how little you can contribute to groups in terms of time, effort, and money, without anyone noticing or getting too mad at you?
get angry and jealous when people are happy about things that donât concern you? get angry and jealous when people pay attention to each other and not you?
spend any amount of time âgetting evenâ with people?
you might feel like youâre a perfectly nice person who cares a lot about people but also speak your mind and take no shit! but if you do any of this stuff, people wonât like you anymore, because it fucking sucks to be around you. you suck to interact with. no one fucking likes being mocked, criticized, picked on, upstaged, pushed around, mooched off, or revenged upon. they will, if they have any self-respect at all, avoid you.
the worst case scenario actually isnât that you end up alone. itâs that you end up with other people who are just as mean as you are, and you all mutually tear each other to pieces on your way to drug addictions, losing all your money and property and kids, and jail time. this happens a lot, i have seen it go down, and itâs not fun even for bystanders. please consider putting the time and effort in to be nice, instead.