I realized that I’ve never posted my limits, or what I’m actually looking for and into, in my own words here.
If I’m going to start putting myself more out there, I need to stop just reblogging things I like/am looking for, and take a more active roll, I think.
Im going to start with my limits, and, work on the other stuff over the next few weeks.
Reds - Do not push, do not touch or even come close:
-Scat
-Extended bondage (like… being tied up and left for hours)
- Shaving my head/cutting my hair badly mid-scene
-Extended Denial (longer than a couple weeks can be negotiated once I know you understand me very well)
-Kneeling longer than 30mins
-anything to do with cucking.
- Polyamory
-Master is a reserved honorific for after I know I’m with my forever partner.
-Permanent Marks are reserved for my forever partner.
- Body modification is reserved for my forever partner.
Orange - Do not push or come close unless I initiate/ask/it has been discussed with no pressure:
-Facial marks
-Financial anything (reserved for forever partner, if it ever develops into a thing.)
-Gaslighting (used to be a kink I enjoyed, I’m not healed enough for it currently. May never be again.)
-Objectification (again, I used to enjoy it, but I am not healed enough to engage with it. And likely won’t be until someone proves to me that they can keep this one purely in the bedroom/scene, and not let it creep/bleed into real life and how they feel about me.)
-Snuff fantasies
-Extreme punishments
-Knife play that breaks the skin/blood
-Privacy play (going through phone/social media/messages/pictures/etc. cameras in my living area, tracking, etc. some can be negotiated after being in relationship a while.)
- CNC (this used to be a favorite, but, I have to be in a place where I want it with you. I will bring it up if I feel safe enough to engage with it.)
- Coercion (again, used to be something I enjoyed within parameters. But I need to feel safe enough with you and trust your judgment enough to be ok with it. I’ll bring it up if I’m ready. Do not use this to shoot for something on my hard/red limits list.)
- A hand covering my nose and mouth will cause a panic attack.
Yellow (why is there no yellow text option?) - it is ok to push a little after a warm up/we get more acquainted:
-Humiliation
-Fear play
-Kneeling for longer than 15 minutes
- If something feels not right in a scene, I’ll say so.
I need to know what implements are going to/potentially going to be used during a scene, and I may say no to some, depending what they are.
I’d like checkins before a scene to see where I’m at emotionally first. (This should be a given, but in my experience, it hasn’t been.)
I absolutely adore exploring new kinks and new scenarios. But I need a chance to educate myself on a kink if it’s new to me before I agree to try it. (Again, it should be a given. It hasn’t been.)
I do need aftercare. I’m really big on cuddles and loving after care. I will 100% need some help coming back down and realizing that a scene was just play and that I’m safe and you don’t think badly of me for real, if insults/humiliation are used. I need a ton of reassurance, because I buy-in hard. If after a scene, you cannot make aftercare the number 1 priority, I will not scene with you.
