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bakwaaas

You gotta understand that some people never really grow. They never learn their lesson. They never recognise their mistakes, they never acknowledge their faults, they never admit they were in the wrong. You will never receive an apology from them, and you will never see their behaviour change.

lilybee

if you’re in the notes saying “this is wrong and cruel because everyone is capable of growth” you’re not understanding the post.

yes, everyone is CAPABLE of growth and change. everyone has the RIGHT to growth and change. but no, not everyone will CHOOSE growth and change. some people are not interested in and cannot be made interested in self-improvement or self-reflection. some people will go their entire lives refusing to admit they might be wrong or examine their own behaviors. some people will never, ever accept responsibility for the effects they have on people and the world around them. humans are varied; some are just always gonna be like this.

it is VITAL to understand this if you’re the kind of person who tends to pour energy into helping others, especially if there are already people knowingly hurting you who consistently show absolutely no interest in changing that behavior. you can’t forcibly make them want to change who they are. you aren’t going to find a way to convince them to suddenly care that their behavior is hurting someone.

the motivation to change and grow comes from within. others may inspire us, but WE have to decide we want to be better and work towards that. until they decide that for themselves, nobody else can do it for them. and they might never. people are mortal. we are a finite series of choices. it is entirely possible to make mostly selfish ones.

everyone CAN grow, but not everyone will. not everyone wants to, and nobody can force the desire to grow as a person on someone else.

valentineuhovski

Sculpture by Will Cotton.

dollyribbons

thatdiabolicalfeminist

I don't understand the "nobody helped me so nobody deserves help" attitude. I'm sorry but every time I suffer an injustice my first thought is, "something should be organized to prevent this!"

Why wouldn't you want that?? It might be you again sometime. Don't you want to help build a world where we take care of each other?

coquette-club

equius

sometimes you just fuck up too much for redemption to be a viable option for the people you hurt. you can change your life, change your views, and change the way you treat others, and still have those people hate you and refuse to believe that you’re a better person.

it’s not your job to convince them that you’re different now. if they want to look for a change, they will. but if they don’t, then don’t worry about it. they aren’t worth your time, because you aren’t worth theirs.

move on. don’t waste your time wishing you could have done things differently. don’t make long apologies that they aren’t going to read. just be better. focus on making yourself into the person that you should have been then. but don’t do it for them. do it for yourself, and do it for the people that you’re going to meet. do it so that they’ll get to meet the better you, instead of the person you used to be.

don’t look back. only look forward.

ariaiscursed

sedmikrsky

agent provocateur

phalaenopfish

Please don’t take your pets for granted. Even if you’re frustrated that your dog has been barking all day or your bird has been screaming for attention, remember you are all they have in this world. Give your fish that extra water change. Give your dog or cat that tummy rub they’ve been begging for. Chop up some fresh fruit as a treat for your rodents or reptiles. Just spend some time with them. Be compassionate to your animals. They are living creatures that are alive simply because you wish them to be. They may only be a small part in your life, but to them, you are their everything.