Letters From The Heart

☀️♌️🌙♑️ ⬆️♏️35, F, Little/Service Submissive/Slave/Doll. Demi and Bi. Under 18 DNI. Friends are welcome. Please don’t be gross/disrespectful, I’m a sub, but not _your_ sub. Aggressively uninterested 90% of the time

[rhpsodyinrepose]

I realized that I’ve never posted my limits, or what I’m actually looking for and into, in my own words here.

If I’m going to start putting myself more out there, I need to stop just reblogging things I like/am looking for, and take a more active roll, I think.

Im going to start with my limits, and, work on the other stuff over the next few weeks.

Reds - Do not push, do not touch or even come close:

-Scat

-Extended bondage (like… being tied up and left for hours)

- Shaving my head/cutting my hair badly mid-scene

-Extended Denial (longer than a couple weeks can be negotiated once I know you understand me very well)

-Kneeling longer than 30mins

-anything to do with cucking.

- Polyamory

-Master is a reserved honorific for after I know I’m with my forever partner.

-Permanent Marks are reserved for my forever partner.

- Body modification is reserved for my forever partner.

Orange - Do not push or come close unless I initiate/ask/it has been discussed with no pressure:

-Facial marks

-Financial anything (reserved for forever partner, if it ever develops into a thing.)

-Gaslighting (used to be a kink I enjoyed, I’m not healed enough for it currently. May never be again.)

-Objectification (again, I used to enjoy it, but I am not healed enough to engage with it. And likely won’t be until someone proves to me that they can keep this one purely in the bedroom/scene, and not let it creep/bleed into real life and how they feel about me.)

-Snuff fantasies

-Extreme punishments

-Knife play that breaks the skin/blood

-Privacy play (going through phone/social media/messages/pictures/etc. cameras in my living area, tracking, etc. some can be negotiated after being in relationship a while.)

- CNC (this used to be a favorite, but, I have to be in a place where I want it with you. I will bring it up if I feel safe enough to engage with it.)

- Coercion (again, used to be something I enjoyed within parameters. But I need to feel safe enough with you and trust your judgment enough to be ok with it. I’ll bring it up if I’m ready. Do not use this to shoot for something on my hard/red limits list.)

- A hand covering my nose and mouth will cause a panic attack.

Yellow (why is there no yellow text option?) - it is ok to push a little after a warm up/we get more acquainted:

-Humiliation

-Fear play

-Kneeling for longer than 15 minutes

- If something feels not right in a scene, I’ll say so.

I need to know what implements are going to/potentially going to be used during a scene, and I may say no to some, depending what they are.

I’d like checkins before a scene to see where I’m at emotionally first. (This should be a given, but in my experience, it hasn’t been.)

I absolutely adore exploring new kinks and new scenarios. But I need a chance to educate myself on a kink if it’s new to me before I agree to try it. (Again, it should be a given. It hasn’t been.)

I do need aftercare. I’m really big on cuddles and loving after care. I will 100% need some help coming back down and realizing that a scene was just play and that I’m safe and you don’t think badly of me for real, if insults/humiliation are used. I need a ton of reassurance, because I buy-in hard. If after a scene, you cannot make aftercare the number 1 priority, I will not scene with you.

[rhpsodyinrepose]

Lowkey might want a straight jacket. For kink reasons.

Some of them are really fucking pretty.

And imagine how much fun my future d-type could have with it?

[rhpsodyinrepose]

Minerva says that Princess Donut is her favorite character. 🫶

[quoteastic]

Fool me once and I can't trust you. Fool me twice, now I can't trust me.

[rhpsodyinrepose]

If your desires matter more to you than I do, then it was never safe for me to be your woman, or your submissive.

That’s not a manipulation or control tactic. If your wants, matter more to you than my safety and my needs as a person, it was never safe for me to be with you.

If you refuse to show restraint, when restraint is what is best for your partner, it’s not safe for them to be with you. And that includes those of you with emotional/mental kinks.

The second that the thing you want is more important to you than your partners safety and well being, is the moment you become and unsafe partner. Because it’s the moment you’re willing to sacrifice them, and the relationship, for something you want.

There is a hierarchy of needs/wants in a D/s or M/s relationship, that helps to keep it healthy and safe.

Both partner’s needs should be equal. If it’s at a place where needs are incompatible, the relationship should end, as sad as that is. You cannot ask someone to sacrifice a need long term. Short-term, it may be possible. But long term… time will run out.

A D-type’s _wants_ come before the s-types, typically. But this is only safe for the s-type to give when they can trust that their needs are taken seriously by their D-type. When they can trust that they will be taken care of.

Anyone who asks you to give up a hard limit, does not care enough about you to be a safe d-type.

[danishfreeuse]

when he asks “does it hurt?” and you say “yes” with tears in your eyes and he groans and keeps going. Maybe he even picks up the pace to really make sure those tears spill over >>>>

[daggerdoggy]

settings > wound > my wound > reopen

[daggerdoggy]

do not forget this

[macrolit]

[rabbiddyke]

i love predator/prey dynamics, especially on dates. i'm taking you out. i'm watching you intensely. you're nervous and stuttering and my eyes are piercing into you. i'm getting you intoxicated and you're letting it happen because you're too stupid to realize i'm making you weak and vulnerable. i could strike at any moment and pull you into a dim alley or a grimey bar bathroom. i'm dangerous to you and you can't help but be turned on by it. you know im just playing with you, for fun. before i devour you.

date=hunt ♥️

[not-sal]

Holding a knife to your favourite stuffy while you suck my dick, as I threaten to gut it if you don't take me all in. Just because I think the desperate crying is cute.

[aphhhrodite]

I need to fuck

[kuesseaufderseele]

with my soulmate

[goodgirlcoded]

i know this is tumblr and we’re all playing perverts but i just think some of you would be excellent company for a late night walk and a four hour conversation about absolutely nothing

[freudianbimbo]

One thing that upsets me lately is how overlooked how hard it is to be a submissive. We see great and detailed call out posts, where dominants beating their chest demanding more from their submissive or submissives in general, especially that they shouldn't be the only ones making plans, etc, etc. Of course to an extent I agree. All party needs to participate actively.

Being submissive however is not as easy as it looks. It is not just about not being a dominant. It is about being extremely vulnerable. It is opening up our mind and let you see every single doubt, fear, emotion, desire, need. It is about trusting you with our mind and body. It is letting someone hurt us to bring them the same amount of joy as it bring to those who gain pleasure from causing pain. If you do not think it requires active participation to open ourselves up like this every single time, you do not understand what submission is.

Please don't mistake submission for passivity. Choosing to surrender is an action. Choosing to trust is an action. Opening yourself up is an action. Letting someone see you completely is an action. Sometimes the submissive is doing something incredibly difficult that just happens to look like they're doing nothing. We are trusting you, opening ourselves up and give you all the power over us. That is not passive and stop treating it as such. Submission is not passive and if you want more from your partner, articulate what you need more of nstead of assuming there is no work from the submissive partner.

[rhpsodyinrepose]

I just finished Carl’s Doomsday Scenario. I’m 45mins late to bed 🙈

But there was no way I could put it down once it hit a certain point.

Tomorrow I get to start The Dungeon Anarchist’s Cookbook.

I’ve been told that I’ll likely really enjoy it. Because the floor of the dungeon is more complex.

But honestly, I’ve enjoyed both of the first ones. The second definitely sucked me in more.

Also… Amazon was having a sale on the hardcovers… all of them were $12-20. Cheaper than the paperbacks (and weirdly cheaper if you bought them individually instead of in the sets!)

So. I now have a matching set of hard covers. I’m sure I’ll want to reread at some point.

I need a bigger bookshelf

[radical-revolution]

[nxv]

Being loved is the bare minimum.

Make sure you are also being respected, supported, prioritized, desired, and understood

[mademoiseellllee]

i can only connect deeply or not at all