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September 3, 2025 J: Kss ok pa ba ako? Sa lahat na nangyayari ngayon parang wala akong maramdaman. Hindi na maganda lagay ni daddy ngayon and anytime pwede na sya mawala pero parang hindi ako nalulungkot parang normal lang. hindi ko alam kung manhid na ba ko. Or at peace ako dahil alam ko after non hindi na sya mahihirapan. Di ko alam kung normal yung ganito. Mawawalan ako ng isang magulang pero parang wala ako maramdaman ngayon. Or magsisink in nalang lahat ng ito kapag nawala na talaga si daddy? R: Hi KSS, una sa lahat, hugs! The fact na naiisip mo kung normal ba ito or hindi ay aware ka. Normal na response yan sa kalagayan niyo ngayon, valid yan. Marahil rin sa ngayon, kailangan mo maging manhid emotionally o matatag para kila tita Girlie, Jash, Kuya Emil at Mara. Yung at peace naman na hindi na makakaranas ng pain si tito ay way of coping natin. and we find it to be true dahil sa faith na meron tayo. Alam kong hindi makaka-comfort yung thought na yan ngayon pero we try, diba. Sa ngayon, gawin mo lang kung ano pa yung makakayanan mong gawin, pag pagod na pagod ka na, ilabas mo lang. Iyak ka lang pag na-feel mo na. Pwede naman yon. mapa-feeling mo delayed man o hindi. J: Sinurrender ko na lahat kay Lord nung tinatakbo namin sya papuntang ER. Alam ko si Lord lang makakaalam kung ano mas makakabuti sa kanya. Kung pagagalingin sya ni Lord alam ko fully healed ang gagawin sa kanya if hindi alam ko yun mas makakabuti sa kanya and i know if kukunin man sya nai-imagine ko na nakaabang si Lord sa kanya na open arms. Yayakapin sya aa lahat ng pain na naranasan niya at sasabihin tapos na lahat. Ang hiling ko lang sa mga nalalabi pa niyang araw sana wala syang pain na maramdaman at makatulog nalang sya and hindi na sya magising kung kukunin man sya ni Lord. Yun lang gusto ko, hindi sya mahirapan. Ang pinaka kailangan ng comfort talaga ngayon si mama. Ang hirap mawalan ng anak ngayon asawa naman. R: Huhu salamat sa pag-share nito, so I think resolved ka na rin talaga no matter what happens and I will be praying for this, too. Grabe hindi ko lubos na maiintindihan at mauunawaan yung mga pinagdaanan at pinagdadaanan mo pa KSS, pero yung strength and faith na meron ka, huhu J: Kss napapatanong nalang din ako minsan kung naging masamang tao ba kami or may naagrabyado ba kami para mangyari to samin pero hindi mo rin talaga malaman talaga kung ano yung plano sayo ni Lord or kung minsan ano yung gusto niyang iparating sayo. R: napapa-"Lord, tama na" nalang ako talaga para sa inyo :( J: Si Lord, pamilya ko at kayo nalang talaga pinaghuhugutan ko ng lakas. Hindi ko na din alam kung pano ko to nakakaya lahat buti hindi pa ko nasisiraan ng bait. -Conversation with KSS Johanne kasagsagan ng hospitalization ni tito Ariel. *Kinabukasan, dumalaw ako sa hospital with Beej Shenah. Nag-biglaang overnight ako sa Heart Center, at doon na rin ako nag-review for boards. Hanggang gabi kami ng kinabukasan andun. *September 10, 2025, tito Ariel passed away. *He died peacefully in his sleep at walang nakakaalam. Tulog si Jashleigh and Hannah habang nagbabantay, ginising lang sila ng nurse para sabihin sa kanilang wala na si tito. *He is now with Gesh and Arielle.

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October 15, 2024 Hi, sub BGs! 💙💙💙 Hindi na kasi tayo nakapag-synthesis sa usapan natin kahapon dahil late na. Sa susunod umaga pa lang talaga mag-meet na tayo para sulit ang oras. Haha. Anyway, ito ang take ko mula sa lahat ng nagpagkwentuhan natin. Grabe lang 'yong iba't ibang sitwasyon na naranasan natin over the years. May it be magkakasama tayo, but mostly sa individual lives natin. Also, on how God allowed us to experience the same situation over and over again just so makita natin ang halaga natin - bilang tao at bilang anak na mahal Niya. Walang madali sa mga naranasan natin. Heartbreaking siya sa fact na kailangan natin masaktan o may masaktang ibang tao dahil sa life decisions na pinili natin. Lahat naman ng ito ay lesson learned sa atin para sa mga susunod na taon ng buhay natin. Ika nga, "Charge to experience" ang lahat ng ito at wala naman tayong choice kun'di mag-move forward dahil hindi na rin maibabalik ang lahat. I just want to commend both of you (sige sali ko na rin sarili ko), for being such brave and strong women of the Lord. Ang tatapang at lalakas ng loob nating magmahal. Just the fact that we can express ourselves sa isang tao, that's strength because not everyone is brave enough to tell their feelings. Lahat naman ng decision ay may kaakibat na responsibilidad and we have done our part. 'Yong susunod na mga lalaki na dadating sa buhay natin, na pagtutuunan natin ng pansin, na paglalaanan natin ng oras, Harinawa, sila rin 'yong handang magstay at panindigan tayo habangbuhay. On a side note, gusto ko ring makabalik sa estadong maibabalik ko ang pagmamahal na walang pressure, walang hinihinging kapalit, at hindi nagaalala. Naniniwala akong hindi tayo ginawang BG ni Lord para mag-meet lang every camp or once in a while, pero habang tumatanda tayo, ginagawa niya tayong accountable sa buhay ng isa't isa. Beej Richa,______________________________________(Sinabi na rin ni Ate Faye ito sa'yo). Isama mo kami sa mga taong makikinig sa'yo. Ano pa na pinakilala tayo ni Lord sa isa't isa simula bata pa lang, at lumaki sa isang Iglesia na dapat ay nabibigyan Siya ng papuri sa mga relationships na mayroon tayo. Dito ngayon sa chapter ng buhay natin, maranasan natin nawa ang paghilom (healing), pagpapanibago (renewal), at pagiging wiser sa life decisions na gagawin natin - mas lalong mabigyan ng papuri ang Panginoon sa mga bagay na gagawin natin at mga taong mamemeet natin. I-enjoy natin 'tong phase ng buhay natin na ito na kasama si Lord at siya ang pangunahin sa buhay natin. Moving forward with each other and with the Lord. Mahal na mahal ko kayong dalawa, Beej Hannah Phoebe Rodriguez and Beej Richa-Ritz Ramos. Mahigpit na yakap at patuloy ang dalangin ko para sa atin. Shalom! 😘 😘 😘 -Beej S. R. Caballes

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*cont. Hopefully ay huwag mo sana isipin especially nung nasambit ko ito in pain, na lahat ng ginawa natin at care na ipinaranas at pinaramdam ko sayo ay dahil may hinihingi o umaasa ako ng kapalit, kasi hindi. Malugod ko yong ibinigay at happy ako na gawin yon for you – yung mga conversations, pag-carry sa ML & in real life, mga byahe, ministry and kain adventures, pag-tantos ng mga goals at dreams natin, mga pagsama even in inconvenient times, hagulgol at dalanging pastoral with you, maging yung mga make or break moments, I’m glad it happened. I want to cherish it that way, something that I can treasure. Pero sa ngayon, ayoko muna tambayan para maka-move forward ako.  Sa kabila nito, naalala mo ba yung prayer ni Pastor para sa atin? Na kung anuman yung meron tayo ay ma-keep at mag-lead sa ikabubuti nating parehas? Ito ang prayer ko para sa atin. Yung sinabi mo namang we can be the best of friends, oo, sana nga. In a better circumstance siguro, we can. Baka nga we already had na because that’s what we do best, ang maging kaibigan sa isa’t isa. And I want to thank you for that. Life has already been hard and complicated for the both of us (at pasasalamat sa Panginoon na sinusustain Niya lahat ng pangangailangan natin), and I cannot let this be another battle you or I have to suffer from. Things may not have been what we wanted it to be dahil magkaiba tayo ng naging nasain. For now, I hope for both of us to find the peace & healing we are yearning for. And as long as I live, you will always have someone who is happy and will be hoping the best in anything you choose to do. And in case you didn’t get it, I love you. God bless you & to the person we’ll become moving forward. -para kay d It was hard not to feel frustrated. This time around, I thought I was proceeding with more caution — only for the same scenario to unfold. (yet I still found myself in a familiar place.) Perhaps the 2023/2024 version of me didn’t lack wisdom—but chose hope anyway. And maybe that’s not a failure. Maybe that’s just part of learning where to place my heart next time. Charge to experience.

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October 10, 2024 Hello, medyo nahimasmasan na ‘ko from our last conversation. Alam kong hindi rin naging madali bilang receiving end non, make or break talaga. Gusto ko magpasalamat sa pakikinig at pag-intindi. Sad man pero naisip ko na wala rin naman talagang madaling paraan para pag-usapan at harapin ito. Oo, masakit marinig yung mga narinig ko last Monday pero hiniling ko yung clarity na ‘yon. Hehe. Akala ko magiging safety net ko/natin this time yung kasunduan nating magsasabi tayo sa isa’t isa kapag yung mind and heart natin ay elsewhere na pero in the first place, it was never mine. (Potek ang drama pakinggan XD HAHAHAHA) But in all seriousness, binanggit mo naman na you’re in the process of healing & mourning. Nag-risk lang rin ako kasi baket hindi, haha. Naging masaya ka rin naman in response before kaya YOLO. Still, I would have appreciated it na kaysa protektahan yung feelings ko from that inevitable pain ay sana nagtiwala kang matatanggap ko rin naman. Bitter pill to swallow – but healthy. Pero na-realize ko rin na hindi ka pa rin naman sure sa kung sinong ip-pursue mo dahil nga sa mga pagbabago at magbabago pa at lalawak pa ang circles natin kaya… Haaaay okay na yon. Komplikado magbitaw ng salita at pressing & uncertain times like this at gusto ko itrato with grace for the both of us na ito. Nagbigay nalang rin ako ng deadline sa sarili ko kasi hindi na rin tayo nakakapag-usap at dama ko na rin yung pagbabago. I don’t want to force myself into something na wala akong idea kung saan ako lulugar – dahil ako rin naman ang naglagay sa sarili ko sa posisyong umasa na maging more than friends tayo hence the risk (at kalakip na pain if it didn’t go my way) sa pag-amin. Di ko alam kung mag-rerevert back ako as kaibigan tayo o uusbong ba ‘to. And I no longer want you to unintentionally hurt me & I no longer want my own thoughts to keep on hurting me habang wala akong naririnig mula sayo. Sorry ang selfish ko pakinggan sa parte na yan kasi nagsabi ka naman na maraming nasa plato mo pero gusto kong i-assure sayo na I did my best to cling sa friendship natin na hindi mo ako sasadyaing saktan. At naniniwala naman ako doon. I’d be selfish na i-keep ka tapos maibaling yung sisi sayo sa huli. And I’ve grown wise enough to know that forcing things would only hurt more. Sorry din na hindi ko na-take yung subtle & not-so subtle hints na kuntento ka dito at huwag ako gaano umasa. Ako din naman kasi yung gusto maghintay. Sooo. Ayun. Sinasabi at pinaniniwala ko ang sarili ko after ng usap natin na kaya ko naman maging kuntento don kung iisipin, pero dadaan talaga dito dahil may nag-expect ng more. Canon event. But really, I’m sorry you had to go through the position na may masaktan kahit di mo ginusto. At the same time, thank you kasi hinayaan mo akong mag-express ng malaya. *part 1

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April 2, 2024 Hello B., good afternoon.  Netong nagdaang mga weeks ay for some reason, mas nagiging evident for me yung gap between us. Unlike sa mga naunang buwan ay hangga't maaari nagkakabatian at nagkaka-kumustahan kahit papaano, sa pnp practices o pag may pagkakataong konte lang ang tao. Ganyan. I know na hindi mo deserve na madamay sa kung anuman ang nangyari between sa amin ni j. Gusto ko rin i-assure sayo na wala akong anything na negative na thoughts and damdamin towards sayo since then. Pero sorry if my actions and words tell otherwise. I am really sorry. (Kung nagka-moments man ay nilalabanan ko yung idea dahil hindi ka naman dapat damay dito). Thank you din sa pag-respect sa aking decision na manahamik and pag-unawa kahit na wala naman akong ibinigay na on my end para unawain ako at those moments. Alam ko na mahirap umunawa at tumulong sa taong wala namang sinasabi at ayaw magpatulong. But this time, ayoko na mag-lead pa pati yung atin sa hindi mabuting kalagayan.  Kaya ayon, I want to know if kumusta ka, kumusta tayo? Okay lang ba sayo if mapag-usapan natin at ma-define naten yung friendship between sa ating dalawa? Anuman ang maging damdamin at desisyon mo ay aking irerespeto.  Again b., sorry and thank you.  I hope na ma-work out natin ito.  God bless you! *we did have our mahabang conversation ng April 6, 2024. *we did have clarity. *we tried. i believe we tried.

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June 5, 2024 EG: Hi Richa, tbh, no need na mag usap pa Tayo kung ano man Ang dapat pag usapan. Because I said it myself last year na Wala akong masamang tinapay Sayo. And that's true. And you said it yourself na it will take time for you to cope with sa mga nangyari and Hindi ka pa ready to face us in our usual way. But sadly, it took you so long. Kaya Sabi ko na lang sa sarili ko, whatever it is nawa Maka move forward Ang bawat isa, Lalo ka na. Hindi ko alam bakit antagal bago mo kami or Ako kausapin. Naipon ba Yung inis or galit mo sa akin or sa Amin Nila b and j? May other matter pa ba na kailangan i-raise other than the unfortunate event last year.  Tbh, Hindi ko alam why took you so long to reach us. Hanggang sa dumating na lang sa point na Ako na lang mismo nag give sa sarili ko Ng peace between us. Nakakalungkot na umabot Tayo sa ganitong sitwasyon. I don't want to dwell anymore sa kung ano Mang drama or issue Ang Meron sa bawat Isa. So whatever Yung status of friendship natin Ngayon, let's keep it that way. Ang prayer ko lang, nawa maging maayos Ang puso mo and andoon pa Rin Yung fire sa paglilingkod mo sa Panginoon, ito Ang pinaka mahalaga. Hindi masamang mag reach out Richa, Hindi sya kawalan sa bawat Isa. (same day response) R: Hello. Thank you for your response and honesty. Salamat sa confirmation sa kung anong estado ng friendship ang meron tayo. Sa message mo na ito hindi ko lang din masigurado kung gusto mo pa bang pag usapan ang sagot sa ilang mga issue o tanong. Pero kung ayaw mo na, it is what it is. Sadyang ganoon ata talaga, hindi ibigsabihin na okay at ready na akong makipag-usap ay magiging ganoon din ang ibang tao. Salamat sa memories! Shalom. *We did had a 4-person conversation ng June 20, 2024.

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November 7, 2023 Hello J., thinking of you today. Nagkikita at nag-uusap pa rin naman tayo at di man kasing dalas ng before, know that i'm hoping the best for you palage. Yung presence mo ay blessing sa life ko ever since na we decided na maging safe space for each other. Di man ramdam, pero gusto ko assure sayo na andito lang ako palagi for you & am rooting for you sa mga plans & trip mo sa buhay as long as makakabuti para sayo. Ikaw talaga yung sagot ko sa kung sino pinaka-close at pinagkakatiwalaan ko sa SBH hahaha! Thank u so much Nway, patuloy na galingan at sipagin sa remaining days ng pagrereview. Alagaan ang sarili & lezgo for that Topnotcher goal! Love you & praying for you. Bless you! 

February 5, 2024 Hello J., sana nasa mabuti kang kalagayan. I know it took me some time to pick up where we left off. I might be late for doing this, pero yon, as weeks pass by I’ve realized na putting this to rest and accepting & leaving things as it is without reaching out to you will somehow help me recover and start again bitbit ang lessons ng nakaraan. A question I’ve been asking this 2024 is “Where do I start from here?” I didn’t have the courage, strength, mental & emotional capacity and enough love to deal with it so I started praying for those things nitong nagdaang buwan. And started praying for you, too. At unti-unti, sa mga devotion at sermon na mine-meditate ko, may sagot ang Lord. I’d had to face this head-on.  I want to start by acknowledging and expressing na thankful ako sa naging friendship natin over the years, for helping me adjust nung earlier years ko sa SBH, for being a good listener sa confusions and rants ko, maging don sa unang confrontation natin, as well as for helping me deal kung paano rin ma-clear yung things up with our friends. For understanding my silent & processing phases before. Maging sa mga panahon ng pagko-correct at pag-alalay in those moments na mahirap tanggapin ang katotohanan. For being one of the person I celebrated my wins & share my losses with. For being my safe space. Kaya rin marahil naging masakit as I’ve come to realize na I consider you as my person. May certain expectations kung saan hindi na rin tayo nagkatagpo at pasensya na kung hindi ko na rin nasabi at napag-usapan ng mas maaga. I am sorry na nasaktan kita and I left you hanging these days. I don’t know where this will bring us but I hope it’ll lead our heart, mind and relationship in right places. God bless you, your ministries, your plans & endeavors, Nars J. :)  June 21, 2024 Salamat sa time mo today J., maging sa pagpansin sa pagbati last Sunday. Salamat rin sa mga bagay na pinili mong i-share ngayon, sa honesty at courage na pagsabi sa kung gaano kita nasaktan sa mga nangyari at kung anong epekto nito sayo.  I admit, naging focused ako sa hurt ko at kung paano ako makaka-bounceback sa mga nangyari at sa relationships ko sa SBH collectively na hindi na kita inalala at naabisuhan pa na may balak pa namang ayusin pa. Sa pag-block mo ay tinake ko nalang rin yon as a hint na kung ito ay makakatulong to keep your peace ay gets.  Sa totoo lang, ngayon lang rin nagsisink-in sakin kung saan ka nagmumula at gaano ka-lala yung hurt na idinulot ko sayo, yung trust issues at trauma na nagawa ko sayo, maging yung pag-doubt sa sarili na kalakip nito at sa pagpaparamdam na hindi kita pinapahalagahan at ang pagkakaibigang ito. I am very sorry.  Hino-honor ko ang iyong damdamin, thoughts at decision towards sa akin. Take the time and energy you need to process, grieve and continue healing. At kung humantong man tayo na kayang i-restore, mahirap man makita ay hindi ko ito tinutuldukan. Ayon, hindi ibig sabihin na nag-sorry ako ay nire-require kitang patawarin ako. Mahirap ang mga nangyari. Salamat rin sa mga kinaya mong gawin at isipin sa abot ng 'yong makakaya para isalba ito sa kasagsagan ng hindi natin pagpansinan.  Ang Shalom ng Lord ang sumaiyo. Pagpalain ng Lord ang 'yong pamilya at trabaho. Thank you ulit sa time.  -Harsh reality of relationships | Grieving friendships.

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Ang lungkot lang ng kaisipan na okay naman sa akin na maging kuntento roon sa kung nasaan ka kasi doon naman tayo nag-simula at tumatag. And that’s what we do best – ang pagiging kaibigan.

Naging honest ka nalang sana.

Actually, hindi ko sure kung honest ka naman tapos tapang ang kulang, pero sige, parehas nalang.

Yung safety net na sinet natin na inasahan at pinagkatiwala kong magagawa mo, makakapagsalba sana kahit papaano sa sitwasyon na 'to. Kung anuman ang pinakita at pinaramdam ko sayo, masaya at malugod kong ginawa yon. Ginusto ko yon gawin na walang hinihingi na kapalit.

Consideration talaga. With or without the hope of reciprocation, that – I'm willing to give just because I care & love.

Pero sabi ko nga, ako at ako lang rin talaga pa yung kailangang maghalungkat sa mga sagot na 'nakareserba' (ika mo nga) naman kapag tinanong. At kahit saang anggulo ko tignan (well, baka ngayon lang ito), masakit na walang pagkukusa ni intensyon man lang na ibigay yung clarity na deserve ko naman malaman sa kabila ng pagbigay-diin ko sa kahalagahan nito sa pag-preserve ng kung anong meron sana tayo.

Sayang. Hindi sana humantong sa ganito.

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IF EVER LOVE MEETS ME AGAIN, I HOPE THIS TIME IT'S GENUINE AND CALM.

If ever love meets me again, I hope it's genuine and calm, a steady presence that soothes the soul rather than a storm that leaves me breathless. Love is something we all think about at different times in our lives. Sometimes it comes to us unexpectedly, bringing excitement and joy, but other times, it might leave us feeling hurt or confused. If love ever meets me again, I hope this time it's genuine and calm. When we're young, love often feels like a whirlwind. It sweeps us off our feet and fills our days with excitement and passion. We stay up late talking, go on spontaneous adventures, and feel like we're living in a dream. But as thrilling as that kind of love can be, it can also be exhausting. It's easy to get caught up in the highs and lows, and when things don't go as planned, the crash can be hard. As I get older, I realize that I want something different from love. I still want the excitement and joy, but I also want to be steady and reliable. I want a love that feels like coming home after a long day – comforting, warm, and safe. A love that doesn't make me feel anxious or uncertain, but instead gives me a sense of peace and stability. Genuine love is about more that just feeling good when things are going well. It's about being there for each other during the tough times, supporting each other's dreams, and growing together. It's about having deep conversations and also enjoying comfortable silences. It's about trust and honesty, knowing that you can be your true self with the other person. Calm love doesn't mean boring or lacking passion. It means having a relationship where you don't feel like you're constantly on a roller coaster. It's about finding someone who makes you feel secure and appreciated, someone who understands you and accepts you as you are. The kind of love brings out the best in both people and helps them become better versions of themselves. I think many of us have experienced love that was intense and exciting but ultimately unsustainable. Maybe we've been in relationships where we felt like were always walking on eggshells, never quite sure where we stood. Or perhaps we've been with someone who made us feel amazing one moment and terrible the next. These experiences can be valuable because they teach us what we truly need and want in a partner. When I imagine love meeting me again, I picture something that grows slowly and steadily. It's the kind of love that builds over time, where we take the time to really get to know each other and build a strong foundation. It's not about rushing into things or expecting perfection. Instead, its about being patient and understanding that real love takes effort and commitment. – it's easy to feel pressured by social media or friends' relationships. We might see couples who seem to have it all figured out and wonder why our own love lives feel so complicated. But it's important to remember that everyone's journey is different. What works for one person might not work for another, and that's okay. So, if ever love meets me again, I hope it's the kind that feels genuine and calm. I hope it's the kind of love that makes me feel at ease and allows me to grow. I hope it's a partnership based on mutual respect and understanding, where we can weather life's storms together and find joy in the simple moments. And most of all, I hope it's a love that lasts, not just in the thrilling moments but in the quiet, everyday ones too. -@alilacerna

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My worst pains were from believers and my best cures were administered by believers also.

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A Good Friend, in Adulthood

When you’re young, what constitutes a good friend is someone who’s down for a good time, lets you borrow their best, will belt out the same song out of your car windows with you 100 times, covers for you, tells you have something in your teeth, lets you cry about the same boy for years on end, loud belly laughs – they always showed up.

Eventually, friendship that once looked and felt like that approaches a fork in the road. Two signs:  Enabling <- this way, Accountability -> that way.

I’ve participated in, been personally victimized by, and been leveled up by both.

Enabling. Enabling friendships are the bumper stickers that sound like: “Live life!” “Do you!” “YOLO” “Do it for the plot!” It’s you texting your best friend for the 3rd time this month saying “I’m done with him,” and you are suddenly the opposite of done when she’s dropping you off at his place hours later when he rings. It’s watching them cope with another drink or another night out or another spend and telling them, “It’s, fineeee.”

There’s truth in wanting to support our friends’ antics and plot-worthy behavior. There’s truth in them supporting ours. Doing so implies seeing one another for just being human. Doing so also implies that our lives are movies without the element of being human, without true character development – the character we take with us into adulthood.

Accountability. It isn’t guilt. It isn’t shame. It’s a gentle nudge, “Help me understand because two weeks ago you said,” “I don’t want to do this anymore,” “I feel so guilty,” “they don’t deserve this,” “I’m never going back there,” “I don’t want to be this person,” “I feel so empty,” “I’m going backward,” “this is a waste of my time.”

When we are young, to be a good friend is as easy as providing comfort. Some friends, that’s all they want from you – comfort and validation, regardless of the cost. You can see the discomfort in them; why add more confrontation to it? But the way you address their choices doesn’t have to be polar opposite; it’s not a hug or a fist to the stomach.

It’s uncomfortable to be reminded that you failed against your desires and promises you made for yourself. But a good friend does it with compassion and grace.

Accountability is a reminder of the goal or boundary your friend set for themselves.

Being a good friend in adulthood is more than calling out bad love & bad habits; it’s calling one another up.

XX, Kenny reference: https://kennysdigest.com/2024/02/12/a-good-friend-in-adulthood/

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April 25, 2024 Sometimes, it's funny how I perceive that God's best in my life is associated by circumstances na I really hope & pray will happen lalo na kung aligned naman ito sa wisdom na itinuturo Niya at feeling ko nanaisin niya ring mangyari. Pero yun na nga Rits eh. Feeling at wishful thinking lang natin ito. I mean, walang masama na hilingin sa Lord yung best possible scenarios sa mga ipinapanalangin natin kasabay ng paghingi ng karunungan at pag-allow na hubugin tayo ng Diyos na ayon sa kalooban Niya. But I am reminded na yung nalalaman ko ay katiting lamang ng bigger picture na nakikita ni Lord. Yung katotohanan na may free will rin ang ibang tao at di ko pwede ipilit kay Lord na gawan Niya ng paraan yon kahit na naniniwala akong walang impossible. It doesn't work that way kumbaga. Hahaha! So yon, minsan kailangan ko lang talaga ng tuktok sa kokote na may malinaw na ngang tugon si Lord, kailangan ko lang tanggapin na it may not seem like it, pero para ito sa aking ikabubuti. Sa aming ikabubuti. :) 11:43PM | Thursday

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It's not difficult hard, it's challenging hard because life is challenging. But the person that you're with, the person that you marry should make all of life a little bit easier.

–People on the internet (Tiktok) on Marriage

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"Rachel, I'm going to walk away before you and I can't go back"

–Donna, Suits S2

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December 16, 2023

Sa lahat ng nanagyari within the week. What I learned the most is: Know your place

Patawad sa lahat ng na-stir up na emotions at reactions, sa mga na-build up na conflicts dahil dito at sa pagpaparamdam na na-dismiss ang concern ng mga tao. Looking back isa rin naman yun sa ayokong ma-feel at ma-experience na gawin sakin. but here we are. Lord, at this point, wala na akong magagawa at inaako ko lahat ng pagkukulang at failure sa mga nangyari, at nangyayari pa. I pray na tulungan niyo po ako maka-bounce back from this nang mapaglingkuran ko kayo ng mainam kung saan ninyo ako ilalagay. Salamat sa comfort at pagmamahal na pinaranas niyo sa akin all through out the week. Salamat sa family ko, salamat sa ILMF, salamat sa Whiteflower, salamat kay Daniel, salamat kay ate Faye at salamat kay Beej Dimple sa magandang balita ng deliverance about sa validation ko sa Sunlife. Hindi ko alam kung anong mangyayari sa akin kung hindi ito nagkasabay-sabay this week. Salamat Lord. Nag-ppray ako ng kapakumbabaan at kapayapaan na nagmumula sa inyo. In Jesus' name. Amen

[chibird]

It never feels like it's going to get better at the time, but I promise you that it will. A weight will lift, and you'll find happiness again.

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[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Exchange "damn, I didn't do that thing I wanted to do for two whole weeks, I'm such a failure I might as well give up" with "now that I'm finally feeling better, I'll return to working on that habit again" and you'll get a whole lot further in life!