There Is Always A Balance

gets very obsessed very fast 😬😅 she/her/26/Gemini/not spoiler free/#help me write for writing tips I think

[quinloki]

Quick & Dirty tips for writing SMUT

The four whoresmen of writing Smut:

Position

Motion

Emotion

Sensation

Fun fact: you can apply those to fight scenes too.

Position is pretty straightforward - who’s on top, who is on the bottom, who’s penetrating who if penetration is happening. Is a leg lifted, tied, pushed back? Is someone’s hand pressing against someone’s sweaty skin?

Motion can be pretty cut and dry too - hands sliding over skin, fingers caressing, lips kissing, changing from one position to the next. How fast is the thrust, how much impact is behind a strike? Is it a bruising pace, or is it languid?

Emotion can take the same scene and change the tone. Are they both happy to be there? Is someone not as into it? Is there so much tangled up between them that it’s hard to clearly comprehend other aspects?

Sensation - is the kiss wet, soft, rough, dry? Are hands soft or calloused? Are the position changes taken with care or does the rough bite of stone beneath them scrape their skin?

Mixing these up can help you avoid a sense of repetition while you’re writing any dynamic scene. But also omitting one entirely can impact how the scene reads as well. (Ah when I say omitting, I don’t mean you must avoid it 100% - though you can, but just leaning back is enough)

Omitting position, and leaning on sensation and emotion can provide a chaotic, harried, almost desperate feeling. It doesn’t matter WHERE the hands are, so long as they’re gripping the other person. It doesn’t matter if someone is screaming into the bedding, just that they’re cumming so hard they’re screaming.

Omitting motion can leave the scene feeling disconnected. It’s good for if your perspective is coming from someone who is drugged, or exhausted or otherwise disoriented. The sensations might be making it through, but their too addled to understand what’s causing them.

Omitting emotion can leave the whole scene feeling disconnected. Performative. Business over love. An obligation. Not necessarily unwanted - noncon is most certainly emotionally charged - but omitting the emotions vs describing them as neutral helps it hit better imo. (Emotional disconnect can also be used to show defeat, acquiescence, etc. you gave in and just don’t care anymore).

Omitting Sensation might be because of drugs, exhaustion, over-stimulated so hard you’ve shorted out, or you’re just not feeling it. Not in the mood. Sometimes even when you’re looking forward to intimacy you can just kind of, not feel it. That frustration can move a story along if you’re getting stuck.

[elliewilliams-whore1]

And yes, I will block you if you have incest on your page and claim it's a "coping mechanism"

[only-cat-memes]

[valtsv]

i'm like a fujoshi but for dead people

[valtsv]

if you could see the thread i'm hanging on by you would not say these things to me

[garpen]

"you already left kudos here"

And??? Let me like it again??? Clearly it deserves more??

[shutyourmoustache]

Making exercises more accessible to the disabled? Fuck yeah!

[notahorseindisguise]

youd think a band named violent femmes would be made up of violent femmes. but it isnt. its dudes

[notahorseindisguise]

genuinely no mary... the australian dollar is not doing great right now

[notahorseindisguise]

i need to type with more of an accent

[notahorseindisguise]

youse may bloody reckon a band name of violent femmes'd be a buncha sheilas after a couple bundy cokes. but it aint. packa blokes.

[odyver]

alright I've got to do some quick math to explain attitudes towards AI to my boss.

we're looking to create an AI policy, and when we were talking about this, my boss (older millennial) was genuinely shocked to hear that younger people do not (seem) to view AI positively (a la the recent commencement speakers being booed)

please rb for larger sample size!

Question 1/3

What is your age, and do you feel AI is a net positive or net negative in our lives today?

under 18, AI is a net positive

under 18, AI is a net negative

18-29, AI is a net positive

18-29, AI is a net negative

30-45, AI is a net positive

30-45, AI is a net negative

46-60, AI is a net positive

46-60, AI is a net negative

over 60, AI is a net postive

over 60, AI is a net negative

Remaining time: 3 days 3 hours

[odyver]

Question 2/3

How often do you visit or interact with museums/archives (whether in person or online)?

Frequently (multiple times per month)

Often (multiple times per year)

Occasionally (a couple times per year)

Rarely (once every couple of years)

Never :(

Remaining time: 3 days 3 hours

[odyver]

Question 3/3

If you saw a museum was using AI in exhibits, marketing, research, etc., would you be more or less inclined to visit that museum?

under 18, more inclined

under 18, less inclined

18-29, more inclined

18-29, less inclined

30-45, more inclined

30-45, less inclined

46-60, more inclined

46-60, less inclined

over 60, more inclined

over 60, less inclined

Remaining time: 3 days 3 hours

Thank you for helping with this data collection. Please rb for as big a sample as possible!

🫶

[captainlordauditor]

Generative AI hallucinates and makes up complete bullshit. If I found out a museum was using genai in their exhibits and research not only would I immediately put them on a NEVER VISIT list I would also add them to a list of places not to cite and circulate it as widely as I can.

I’m in my 20s for reference.

[grrrl-tyree]

Leon the whole time in re9

[cuntstable]

THEY ADDED SENSHI PUSSY SHOTS!!!!!!!

[johnny-depp-is-loved]

I think it’s beautiful when what you loved doing when you were 6 finds you again when you’re in your 20s or 30s or 40s or 50s or 60s or 70s or 80s or 90s or

[goth-queen]

[cherryhatter-deactivated2015072]

KICK THE CAN!

Let’s play the biggest game of kick the can on the internet.

To kick the can, reblog it. I wanna see how long this can go on for.

[visibun]

the oldest reblogs for this post that i can find are from january 2nd of 2013. this can has been getting kicked around tumblr for almost 13½ years now

[societyfolklore]

do you have any tips for writing smut? i definitely want to start writing but smut is so hard to start for me. thank you ps! your writing is so inspiring and amazing. you are honestly one of my favorite writers out there!

Awww! thank you so much!! That means the world to me. I’m seriously honored you'd even ask

Writing smut can be so intimidating, especially when you're just starting. You want it to be hot, not awkward; emotional, not cheesy; intense, not clinical. Trust me, we’ve all stared at the screen thinking, “...and then what? Do I just say 'thrusted' now??” So here are some tips that’ve helped me find my rhythm.

1. Build the tension before you touch. The hottest smut doesn’t start with clothes already off. It starts with a look. With someone leaning in just a bit too close to whisper “say please.” It’s the brush of a hand down your back as they pass by, the hitch in breath when fingers graze a thigh under the table.

Make us ache for it. Make the first touch feel earned.

“His fingers hovered at the hem of your shirt for a beat too long, like he wanted to peel you open. When he finally dragged it up, slow and deliberate, your breath caught — not from the chill, but from the way his eyes tracked every inch like he owned it.”

2. Anchor every moment in sensation. Don’t get stuck on the technical - think of what’s being felt. What does the texture of their skin do under your palm? How does their voice sound when they’re right at your ear, breath hot and uneven?

“His tongue traced the shell of your ear, breath curling like honey down your neck. You could feel the hard line of him pressing between your thighs, the desperate twitch of muscle as he tried to hold back. Tried, and failed.”

Smell, sound, movement, it all layers it in. Think less anatomy chart, more how it makes your pulse skip.

3. Use rhythm like it’s foreplay. Your sentence length can mimic what’s happening. Slow, teasing build? Let the sentences stretch, trailing just like their fingers. Desperate, frenzied pace? Go short. Sharp. Breathe with the scene.

“He fucked you slow, torturously slow, like he had all night. Like he wanted you sobbing for it. And then- He snapped his hips forward. Hard. Deep. Relentless. You broke on a moan.”

Let your punctuation and pace feel like the motion it’s describing.

4. Write what turns you on. Seriously. Want a praise kink? Biting? Power play, begging, consent, scent kink? Write the stuff that makes you clench. You’re your first audience. Remember if it doesn't make you squirm a little in your seat, it won’t land the same.

“You’re gonna take it, baby. Gonna take all of me, aren’t you?” he murmured, voice thick with smug affection. “Look at that. Dripping already. You wanted this, don’t even lie.”

Lean into what works for you. There’s no such thing as too soft or too filthy.

5. Read smut like it’s research. Let yourself explore different writers and tones, some go poetic and metaphor-heavy, others go raw and explicit. Notice what makes your breath catch. What lines make you pause and reread, goosebumps rising?

Highlight them. Save them. Ask yourself why they hit.

6. Start small. Think in fragments. You don’t have to write a 2,000 + word scene right off the bat. Start with a kiss. A filthy whisper. A moment where someone pulls their shirt off with one hand and grins like they know you’re staring.

“One more step and I’m not stopping,” he said. His knuckles grazed your chin, thumb teasing your bottom lip. “You understand that, sweetheart?”

Sometimes one line can spark the whole scene.

And most of all: let it be awkward at first. Everyone writes cringe at the beginning. Just get it out you can always make it filthier, prettier, smoother later. You're already brave for wanting to try. And trust me, the best smut gets written when you're a little turned on and a little scared someone might read it.

I’m cheering for you and if you ever want to brainstorm something dirty, I’m just a message away!

[jaytherad]

Smut Dictionary

(inspired by this post)

me and my mootie @invisiblesquirrel stayed on call for like an hour compiling this list of verbs and nouns pertaining to all things sex and bodies 🫶 hopefully it's helpful for whoever comes across this, it definitely will be helpful for us XD

*general categories are anatomy, actions, reactions, secretions

*note, we included any words we could think of, regardless of personal preference

*we didn't make specific categories for intersex genitalia under the assumption that people will mix and match as they please

without further ado, dictionary below the cut:

Anatomy:

Penis: length, cock, dick, rod, girth, erection, hardness, tip, head/cockhead, base, member, sex, manhood, prick

Vagina: folds, slit, cunt, pussy, heat, hole, entrance, sex, channel, walls, anterior wall, vulva, clit/nub, manhood, petals, core, wetness

Testicles: sack, balls, scrotum, testes

Nipples: peak, nub, mound, triangle

Butthole: entrance, hole, pucker, rim, ring of muscle, channel, heat

General crotch area: groin, crotch, mound, pubis, hardness, center

Actions:

Thrusting: grinding, rocking, humping, plunging, canting, pumping, angling, fucking, driving (into), pressing, rolling one’s hips, pounding, jackhammering, pistoning, slamming, rutting

Fingering: pumping, sliding, curling, tapping, rubbing, scissoring, spreading, circling, slipping, pistoning, thrusting, fucking, curving

Jorking it: fisting, stroking, palming, kneeding, rubbing, sliding, pumping, gripping, squeezing, jerking, seizing

Touching: smoothing, gripping, grasping, rubbing, stroking, soothing, petting, trailing, fingering, tracing, sliding, pressing, fisting, cradling, brushing, grazing, caressing, holding, fondling, tickling

Mouth/tongue actions: tonguing, working, worming, licking, sucking, mouthing, teething, gnawing, biting, clenching, gritting, grinding, lapping, laving, suckling, tasting, circling, flattening, wetting, kissing, teasing, pressing, salivating, gagging

Reactions:

Moaning—the post that inspired this one will absolutely do a better job of compiling vocal sex noises comprehensively than we can. here is the link

Shaking: shuddering, trembling, quivering, quaking, convulsing, twitching

Breathing: inhaling/exhaling heavily/sharply etc, sighing, heaving, wheezing, rasping, gasping, panting, sobbing, huffing

Blushing: flushing, heating, warming, going red

Clenching: rippling, tightening, squeezing, contorting, gripping, contracting, seizing, sucking in, undulating, twitching, pulsing, tensing, thrumming

General penis reactions: throbbing, leaking, pulsing, swelling, hardening, twitching, jerking, bobbing, drooling, releasing, spitting, spilling, coming/cumming, peeing, squirting, beading, weeping

General vulva reactions: squirting, leaking, fluttering, pulsing, see Clenching ^^

Secretions:

Semen: spill, spend, seed, essence, cum, release, liquid, fluids, precum

Discharge: fluids, liquid, secretion, squirt, slick, wetness, drip

we hope this is helpful! if we missed any words or catagories, and I'm sure we did, feel free to provide some more in a reblog or comment 🙏

[reignpage]

hello! if you don’t mind, can i ask how you go about writing smut? as a fellow writer, smut is probably what i feel the most awkward about writing. your smut is so detailed yet so refreshing to read every time, it doesn’t feel like it’s dragged out. i’d appreciate it so much if you could provide some insight 🥹

hi!! I don't mind at all 🫶 thank you so much nyaaa 🙈 my smut was quite bad at the start. it's better now after lots of experience thankfully ahaha. experience writing I mean. personal experience can only help so much when writing lol

to write smut, there's a number of things you gotta think about.

characterisation

What kind of lovers are the characters? Soft dom, hard dom, rough, soft, type to make love or fuck dirty, are they whimpery or groany? Do they draw it out? Are they selfish? Filthy? Shy? This is important so your readers can differentiate between your characters. You don't want to be a one dimensional smut writer that does the same things over and over again. You want to be true to the character. It also guides your writing so you can imagine what they'll do next. Let your characters write themselves. Sometimes I go into writing thinking, let's have some spit play in there, but then the characters don't want it and they do cum play instead idk. Don't restrict yourself, the story and the characters. Go with the flow.

2. dirty talk

this can make or break your smut. you shouldn't underutilise this. but also don't over use it. be realistic. be filthy. be uninhibited. make the characters say the kind of things you'd want to hear during sex to feel special, to feel like you're making them feel so so good and driving them wild. "you feel so fucking good, baby." "fuck, you're tight." "oh god, I-I can't -ngh!" "s-stop, no more. please! it's too much!" ^ throw these in there if in doubt, and if you notice you're having blocks and blocks of paragraphs. sex in silence isn't sexy.

3. descriptions

don't just say: he kisses you. say: he presses his lips gently to yours, slowly, tentatively, like you might disappear if he reveals how much he wants you / it's a clash of teeth and tongue, all rough hands keeping you where he wants you, refusing to let you go until he's had his fill / he sucks your bottom lip, groaning breathlessly into your mouth upon the first taste of something he'd been thinking about since he met you do not be instructive. by this I mean, don't say: he puts it in. he's thrusting inside. you moan. "you're so pretty," he says, still thrusting. = not hot build on the sensations. use the 5 senses - touch, hearing, sight, taste, smell. is the air between you humid? is sweat beading down his skin, travelling between the divots of his chiselled torso? are you feeling stretched out from the bulldozing of his fat cock through your gummy walls? is the bed creaking? headboard slamming? are there wet sounds coming from where you're connected? is skin slapping against skin? is he groaning right in the curve that connects your neck and shoulder, tongue slithering to taste the salt on your skin?

those are just some of my tips! feel free to ask any more questions. maybe if there's anything I said you'd like me to expand on!

[milkyybuns]

yummy words to use instead of 'said' for smut

pouted

huffed

whimpered

begged

mewled

breathed

pleaded

commanded

teased

stuttered

purred

sighed

growled

giggled

whined