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helping other people does make me feel better tho

d3viantvanguard

this is actually a legit mental health strategy!

when you've got so many problems and/or such big problems that you can't solve any of them, you can fall into learned helplessness (where you learn from repeated failures that you can't ever succeed, and so you don't try anymore, even once you're in a situation where you can succeed)

so if a friend shares one of their problems with you and you can help them with it, even if it seems small or irrelevant compared to your own issues, you can prevent or reduce your learned helplessness (because yay, you succeeded! not totally helpless!)

also, both empathy and compassion can help to reduce the distress of those who are struggling and help to facilitate problem-solving and emotion-soothing behaviours (two important adaptive coping strategies... we cope as groups, not just as individuals) from others, so it can often be a case of "a problem shared is a problem halved"

if you feel better in any way after helping your friends, then it's not as simple as "valuing their mental health over yours". social interactions aren't always give-and-take transactions, you might both get something good out of it :)

and on the flip side, there's absolutely no shame in saying "feel free to rant, I'm listening, I just don't have the spoons to respond / give advice right now" :)

miniangel

Megan covers W Magazine’s: The Music Issue

Shot by Colin Dodgson

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mirab3lle

All of that was... this year?

ace-lost-in-motherfucking-space

that was all, the firsT FUCKING MONTH

askiathedickhead

Y’all want to see something wild?

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lgbtculture

I want my gay rights now! - Marsha P. Johnson (NYC Pride Parade, 1973)

glaukopispromachia

I've seen a lot of posts about how lgbtqiap+ people should support the blm movement because a black trans woman gave us pride.

This is not a transaction.

Yes, we owe many things to the African-American community, but that's not why we should support blm.

We should support blm because it's the right thing to do, not because we have some debt. Even if black people had not contributed so much, support of the ongoing movements for equality should be because they're asking for basic human rights and that's a struggle we always have to get behind.

bramblepatch

Also: today's queer black folks are part of our community and should be able to depend on our support and care on the strength of being part of our community. We don't need to go looking for historical heroes, even though when we do we'll definitely find them. The fact that there are queer people today who are affected by antiblack racism is more than enough reason for the queer community to give support to BLM.