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Caribbean immigrant to UK / Long posts tagged #long or #long post / Officially mentally unwell // Please don't hostile ping me into any arguments, or hostile ping others to see my posts.

[h4ganah]

Just imagine facing outrage from parents because their kids have to learn about the Holocaust in your school.

And your response is to publically apologise to them.

[emmaubler]

[generallemarc]

There is no way that what was said in that email actually happened. They tried to have their cake and eat it too, to say they did nothing wrong by teaching historical reality(they didn't) but also validate the hurt feelings of parents who think said reality is Jewish propaganda. If you don't think your child is "heard" when they learn about objective facts, that's your problem to fix and not the school's.

[dollsome-does-tumblr]

i don’t know exactly how to say this in a way that comes across clearly, but i am obsessed with the idea of depicting m/f relationships in a way where the hype isn’t all on the man’s love of the woman, and how swoonworthy it is and how powerful. (this has been on my mind an awful lot lately because lost loves to lean on this, especially in season six. it’s also something that often grates on me about the office’s depiction of jim and pam even though i’m very fond of jim and pam.) i really want to see women being active in the relationship too, rather than just being the object to be pursued or worshiped or cherished or whatever the heck! not in a way that depicts women going out of their way for men who don’t reciprocate, which i think is always the go-to assumption when you talk about this kind of portrayal of a relationship. but i love the idea of women being able to make romantic gestures and acts of great love toward their male love interests in a way that is, like, considered cool and iconic in the way that so many male characters’ romantic actions toward their ladies are cool and iconic. idk how to say it. like, something that goes beyond ‘is this woman being honored nobly enough by her man, which is the sum total of all romance?’ i want the women participating tooooooooo! WHY NOT!

[mellonhead58]

don’t make me tap the sign.

Why don’t men get as much of a thrill over fictional romances?

[terrific-togekiss]

[witch-hattery]

I’m just gonna drop an excerpt from the linked Reddit thread that hits hard:

The Male Romantic Fantasy

I’d say that men usually feel most loved when this normal state of affairs is negated; when they are made to believe that a woman’s love is not conditional in the cause-and-effect manner described in the parent post. Love is work for men, but it can be rewarding work when things are going smoothly and the woman is happy as a result. But the male romantic fantasy is to be shown that the woman feels the same way and stands by him when he’s down on his luck, when the money’s not there, or when he’s not feeling confident. He wants to know that the love he believes he’s earned will stay even when the actions that feed it wane (however temporarily). A good woman can often lift a man up in his times of need and desperation and weather the storm even when things aren’t going well. The male romantic fantasy is an enduring and unconditional love that seems to defy this relationship of labor and reward. A man wants to be loved for who he is, not for what he does in order to be loved.

An interesting way to examine this is to look at what women often call romantic entitlement. An entitled guy is a dude who maintains an unrealistic notion of men’s typically active role in love. Before acknowledging reality, this boy uncompromisingly believes that he shouldn’t have to do anything or change anything about himself to earn a woman’s love; he wants to be loved for who he is, not what he does.

All men secretly want this, but there comes a day when they eventually compromise out of necessity. After that day, they may spend years honing themselves, working, shaping themselves into the men they believe women want to be chosen by. A massive part of what causes boys to “grow up” is the realization that being loved requires hard work. This impetus begins a journey where a boy grows into a man by gaining strength, knowledge, resources, and wisdom. The harsh realities of the world might harden and change him into a person his boyhood self wouldn’t recognize. He might adopt viewpoints he doesn’t agree with, transgress his personal boundaries, or commit acts he previously thought himself incapable of. But ultimately, the goal is to feel as if his work is done.

When he can finally let go of the crank he continually turns day after day in order to earn love and, even if only for a moment, it turns by itself to nourish him in return, that is when he will know he is loved.

[takashi0]

[siryouarebeingmocked]

I've said before that a lot of the otome-inspired webtoons I read involve some random girl just being her normal self and hot dudes fall into her lap, with very little active effort. And I've said it's the female equivalent of harem manga.

[baradragon]

i never get a cannot reblog error because the people who have me blocked arent the people who make good posts

[mitchipedia]

[narukorankofan]

A hilarious way to frame "don't attack cops and you won't get shot"

[sunder-the-gold]

Coming from the same people who would call the cops immediately to come protect them from criminals or to retrieve their stolen property.

[saltyfishboi]

Yes, you must obey my right to not be attacked by someone, or you lose yours. That's how it's always worked, forever.

[siryouarebeingmocked]

If they really cared about saving lives, why are they so mad at the idea suspects should do things that save their lives?

That's rhetorical; because they want to put all the responsibility on the cops.

More than they care about saving lives.

[dogpuppy]

[takashi0]

They're 100% right though and your schoolyard comeback doesn't change that

[brosef-von-dudehomie]

"Weaponized outrage and artificially pushing tolerance hurts people"

"Your dad was a faggot"

[emeraldmercury]

Anyone else want to note the hypocrisy at "your dad's gay" being an insult from someone supposedly woke?

[sunder-the-gold]

If they didn’t have double standards, they would have no standards at all. Words are nothing but weapons to them, and their basic bitch Friend/Foe logic means that nothing they do can be evil, so everything they do to the people they hate is justified.

[torix-gaming]

Reminds me of that scene in Frieren

[sunder-the-gold]

Yes, that is the growing meme I and many others are beginning to refer to.

Not that we are dealing with monsters that exist only to kill us.

No, we are dealing with children who have been raised to do nothing but hate us. And who therefore live to kill us.

Rather like how the Palestinians raised their children to blame and hate the Jews for everything, so that they would live for nothing but Jihad.

[torix-gaming]

I was more referring to the "magic words" bit, but instead of calling for a nonexistent mother, they just call anyone that disagrees with them a Nazi or fascist.

[sunder-the-gold]

Indeed. But this behavior stems from the fact that they don't believe in logic. These words are magical to them because they don't truly understand meaning, only utility. The words are USEFUL to them, and that is all they care about.

[zealousoutlawtempest]

Guys get a job or something

[sunder-the-gold]

Says the person with nothing better to do than suggest the problem isn’t the liars, it’s the people complaining about the liars.

[zealousoutlawtempest]

Sounds like you've got phone psychosis

[sunder-the-gold]

Ad hominem is a tactic for cowards and dimwits.

[witch-hattery]

And for that matter, There's the thing where insane people think the sane people are the crazy ones, eslecially when they have others who are insane the same way to concur with.

[sunder-the-gold]

Which is why their safest spaces are on the internet, where they can become the moderators and cultivate their walled gardens of madness.

The troll blocked me, by the way. Stepping out of his comfort zone was too much for him.

[shitpostinguniverse]

[siryouarebeingmocked]

Do you want to be the one, ahem, cleaning up the shower afterwards?

[hellfudge1989]

"i hate all radfems" and "i only like feminism when it caters to cis men" are interchangable.

[cheshireinthemiddle]

"I hate sexists" and "I'm not a feminist" seem to be more or less interchangable nowadays.

[hellfudge1989]

"i hate all radfems" and "i only like feminism when it caters to cis men" are interchangable.

[itscoldinwonderland]

Anyway I hate all radfems!!! Reblog if you hate all radfems!!!

[gardenvarietydegenerate]

Feminism is cancer.

[hellfudge1989]

Youre a fucking moron and i hope you get shot

[gardenvarietydegenerate]

Your boo's mean nothing, for I've seen what makes you cheer.

[estocadaa]

The Martian is a literary masterpiece.

[thec8h10n4o2]

Yep

[hst3000]

I always find it amusing that the movie opted to end in a way that the book EXPLICITLY called out as too stupid for even Watney to try.

[siryouarebeingmocked]

Apparently it was done so he could actually participate in his own rescue to a greater degree.

[sawbuckplus]

[hst3000]

I looked at my university's College of Ed department the other day. There's not a single male in the staff, and none of the women are over 40.

Absolutely screwed.

[siryouarebeingmocked]

They're trying to fight trends like "looksmaxxing". Which is actual junk science.

And physically harmful.

Faculty develop program to battle 'gym bro' culture, 'looksmaxxing' and harmful masculinity standards

With a grant from the Mental Research Institute, two psychology professors are creating M-Body, a novel intervention with the goal to redefi

“The latest trend for teenage boys is to take a hammer to their face to break their bones, so that they can have that jawline that’s really rugged-looking and that kind of jagged masculine look,” said Mary Pritchard, a Boise State psychology professor who has studied body image and eating disorders for nearly 25 years.

The press release actually calls out toxic male influencer-pushed standards.

Not traditional masculinity.

“There’s a lack of language for men’s body image,” Whipple said. “All of the language for eating disorders or eating disorder prevention and body image-related topics are all feminized. Even within the clinical field, there have been really feminized definitions of what an eating disorder is. It wasn’t until 2013 that men could be diagnosed with anorexia, because you had to lose your menstrual cycle to be qualified for that diagnosis.”

They're actually fighting misandry.

What do I keep saying about getting mad at headlines?

[vomitdodger]

Bitch!!!

[the-davest-of-uncles]

That's hittin' a guy where it hurts.

[hst3000]

she broke up with HIM.

This isn't revenge this is just malice.

[siryouarebeingmocked]

[enbaluka-tokyo-drift]

[rebel-hunk-enjoyer]

The worst-sounding piece of advice I've ever been given that does actually work is to frame your health concerns as coming from someone close to you, whom you do not believe. Tell your doctor that you've been having pain and your mom/friend/partner thinks it might be an ovarian cyst, but you don't think so because the pain is much more intense and it has to be something else. This gives your doctor an unseen third party to fight instead of you. They can't just tell this third party, who isn't present, that you pulled a muscle, they now need to prove to this third party that it is not an ovarian cyst.

At which point they will find an ovarian cyst, but they now get whatever fucked up satisfaction they derive out of proving you wrong, because you didn't believe it could a cyst at all, but guess what? They did find a cyst! It's such a good thing you didn't listen to your intuition and came to them to verify your lay diagnosis from that third party! Bonus? Doctor doesn't have to feel like they look stupid in front of a patient, which is really what all this is about. Not your health, why would you think your medical diagnosis is about your health? It's obviously about a doctor's potential ego.

And apparently this works. Apparently you just need to be able to always play 4D chess with your medical professionals in order to find an avenue of advocating for yourself and getting you medical needs met. Isn't that great?

I hate it here, actually.

[hst3000]

...How the hell are you guys talking to your doctors.

I've never had a doctor try and 'beat' me like this, and I'm not even sure HOW I would convey 'I think it might be X' in such a way that their agreement would even come close to making them feel stupid.

[siryouarebeingmocked]

There's also liability concerns and professional guidelines they have to deal with.

[philosophicalconservatism]

Do you see history fundamentally moving in a linear or cyclical direction?

The belief that human history is necessarily linear or that it is necessarily cyclical conflicts with the notion of human beings as free will agents who determine their own destiny. So I do not embrace either one. The first belief (historicism) is in my opinion the more dangerous of the two. It is no accident that the ideas of the philosopher GWF Hegel serve as the framework of the most popular system of Socialism in existence: Marxism. The idea of inevitable linear historical progress gives man a passive role in his own story, and with a passive role comes a passive attitude, which is precisely what the authoritarian desires. A society that believes that its destiny is the product of greater forces has no reason to protect or to design its destiny. And when the people do not pilot their own society the state will do so (and not “history”).

The view that history is necessarily cyclical (Nietzsche) is one that I believe is based in despair, and it is once again inconsistent with the idea of human self determination. Now to be clear, I am not claiming that history cannot turn out to be either cyclical or linear, I am saying that it is not necessarily so. I believe that cycles can be broken (even though that can be deeply challenging) and I believe that progress is not inevitable.

[hst3000]

History is a spiral or a spinning top. It's moving in a direction, but not straight, not predictably, and will often double back on itself or hit the same spot multiple times.

[republicansaretheproblem]

[unaffiliatedpangolin]

Like how California spent $24 billion on homelessness by giving it to democrat aligned NGOs where it promptly vanished and the number of homeless only increased?

Yeah, the swine absolutely found a way to steal billions, and now there’s tent cities and trash all over.

[beardedmrbean]

We've actually seen this bit proven wrong here, look at all the medicare, food, and childcare programs that were embezzling millions of dollars from instead of helping the venerable people those funds are for.

[hst3000]

Weird superposition of 'everyone in power is corrupt and evil' and 'additional resources we give to people in power will be stewarded justly and well.'

[sawbuckplus]

[ultramaga]

It just reminds me of the BLM organisers who raised lots of money to protect black people, and suddenly there's no money but the organisers now have mansions.

[siryouarebeingmocked]

I saw a handful of BLM supporters performatively denouncing the Org, and saying not a single word about the greater movement's flaws which the Org exploited.

I directly asked one to on Reddit, and they refused.

[godlessondheimite]

recent bangers from threads

[the-davest-of-uncles]

It must be exhausting to live like this.

[veritas7007]