PSA from Blobby. Something we should talk about more ❤️
Y’all, I can’t reblog this fast enough
Fucking THANK YOU.
I once had a girlfriend who HATED all my female friends. It was to the point that she would constantly accuse me of cheating on her, for pretty much any reason. Finishing uni/work late, bumping into friends on my way back, being on my phone, wanting to go out, wanting to stay in, etc. Anything could and would set her off, to the point that she didn't want me working certain shifts if there was a girl with me.
It sounds dumb to say now, but I had no idea what was actually happening. I would try to reassure her that she was the only one I wanted to be with, and she would say she's been cheated on before so she's just paranoid. So I'd be understanding, let it go, and a day later it would happen all over again.
There was also loads of other little things, here and there. She'd mock me, try and convince me that my friends didn't like me, deliberately try and embarrass me in front of people, call me gay if I didn't want to have sex exactly when she wanted it, start arguments for the slightest thing, etc.
She never hit me, but there were so many times that I ended up sat in a corner, crying, trying to figure out what I'd done wrong.
I finally realised what she was doing when she tried driving a wedge between me and my family. If she'd managed it, I'd have ended cut off from everyone I knew and cared about.
She didn't, we broke up, and I was able to start putting myself and some of my friendships back together.
Don't get me wrong, it wasn't all bad. That's why I stayed so long. Every time I felt like I should end it, she would become the sweet, kind girl I fell in love with. It never lasted.
So yes, let's talk about abuse. The more people are aware of the methods they use, the easier it is to spot. And if you're staying in the hope they become that sweet, kind person again, I can honestly tell you that they won't. It's a tool to keep you in their grip. Get out, before you lose yourself.




















