Itâs important to remember that love portrayed in movies and media is often over-exaggerated! In real life, youâll get angry at your partner, or irritated, or bored. But that doesnât mean you donât love them. Love and relationships require work and commitment, and as long as you are willing to keep moving forward with them then thatâs all that matters.
I know I struggled with not contantly being in âlove,â I thought something was wrong with me. I thought if I wasnât constantly feeling good feelings toward my partner then it meant that the relationship was over. But thatâs not how it actually is! Truth be told I was happy with my partner, but it took a while for me to realize that itâs okay to feel angry or irritated with them too. Itâs okay to get some alone time. Itâs okay to want space.
Getting over this anxiety and rOCD takes time, and there will always be setbacks or bad moments, but realize that there will also be good days! There will be good weeks and good months! As hard as it is, donât focus too much on the negative. Try to talk it out with your partner, your friend, your therapist, or whoever you trust. Everything will be okay, even if it doesnât always feel like it.
