I kinda want to yes and to the person above. You’re absolutely correct that Matt isn’t any better than the other guys who are interested in Ivy (he is 100% trying to “nice guy” her, lol), but I don’t think Jason truly sees her as a person either.
I know many Bare fans have a tumultuous history with and understanding of Jason, so I want to make it clear that I don’t hate him, nor do I think he’s a horrible person for his faults. That said, I feel it is important to discuss his shortcomings to understand the show’s full message.
Jason is a character who acts impulsively, despite his attempts to seem put together. This is shown throughout the show on multiple occasions, most notably (and most relevantly) when he decides to sleep with Ivy for a one-night stand. His motivations within that moment are to prove his ability to be straight to himself, and thus, when Ivy tries to tell him she felt so connected to him in “Touch My Soul,” he realizes his mistake. He apologized for wasting her time and left.
Later, in “Promise,” when Ivy tells him that she’s pregnant, Jason instantly turns defensive and yells at her, “Why are you doing this to me?” pinning the blame on her for his own mistakes. Jason was being sexist openly here, and that moment really only stands to affirm the fact that Jason’s view of their relationship was nothing more than transactional and loosely experimental.
So while yes, Jason does talk to Ivy in a less sexually-charged manner than most other men tend to talk to her, he’s not above reducing her to the role she’s been cast into. This is actually really important for showing how a victim of an oppressive society can turn into an oppressor of someone else.
So what then? Does that mean no one actually “sees” Ivy in her rawest form in the show?
Well, not exactly. This is actually where Nadia fits in. Nadia is the only character in the show to actually take the time to see Ivy.
It comes after nearly the entire show of them bickering and fighting, even after one of their altercations turned physical. But the moment it happens, the two seem to click.
“All Grown Up” opens with Ivy recounting the girls’ history. The two were once rather close, and Ivy admits that she reminisces about the days when they were friends. The implication here is that the last time Ivy felt seen was in these photographs of them two that she often looks back on.
It’s this honesty that gives Nadia pause and opens her own heart up enough to hear the other girl out, and as she does, she learns pretty quickly why Ivy’s been extra distant from the play. Rather than spit at her in that moment, though, Nadia’s attention is entirely focused on Ivy as she gives her the space to rant over her current predicament. This moment and the hug Nadia gives Ivy afterwards are the first time Ivy, as a person, is seen for who she is beneath her mask.
This is further corroborated by the lines exchanged between the two girls in “Two Households.” Nadia tries to lift Ivy up by affirming her in a way she knows she herself would appreciate (“You look great”). Ivy avoids pleasantries and openly tells Nadia how she’s feeling in that moment (“Don’t feel great”). Instead of arguing or trying to affirm Ivy again, Nadia acknowledges her feelings (“I know”).
It’s honestly very intentional that Nadia is the person to see the girl behind the portrait that Ivy fears has stripped her of any individuality. Firstly, because the two girls share the same want (the desire to connect with someone on an intimate level). But second, because Nadia is truly the only other person in the main 5 who can understand how Ivy feels in that moment. It’s a loneliness that Nadia is all too familiar with, and one she never could’ve expected to come from someone whom she had pinned as “the one who has everything.”
TL;DR: Matt and Jason don’t view Ivy as a person for different reasons, and those reasons are important to the point that Bare is trying to make. Nadia, however, is the only person to see Ivy beneath her mask at the end of the show, and it’s important that she does.