Manic Pixie Dream Girl

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[romcommunist]

i cant believe i fell for that “look angry and upset and hope someone saves you” shit in high school! how boring! what an awful way to live! i want to be so warm that ppl are gently warmed when theyre around me

[romcommunist]

like a soup

[mystic-mousegirl]

like a soup

[animayanaa]

People are gonna get tired of constantly reaching out to you, and you not reciprocating. If you haven’t, call the person who always checks on you. Ask them how they are doing. Begin to appreciate the people who care about you. Acknowledge selfish behavior and strive to correct it.

[blushingoreo]

it honestly does break my heart how so many of friends dont reach out. i’ve completely given up on one of my long term friendships because of this. if you truly want to be apart of someones life then you would make an effort to be apart of it

[blobdylan]

sometimes we are childish. sometimes we do something our 16 year old self would have done, think something our 11 year old self would have thought, cry like our 7 year old self would have cried. why is this so embarrassing? why does it make us feel such shame? when you’re 20, 30, 40, are you not also every age you’ve been before? do all of your previous incarnations not still live inside of you?

[bold]

i understand when ur 13 and u just realized u have a mental illness and ur so relieved to know there are other ppl going thru the same thing as u, its easy to slip into the idea that your newly labeled thoughts and behaviors are normal and okay.

they are not. suicidal thoughts arent normal. violent impulses arent normal. delusions and hallucinations arent normal.

now that you have a name for this behavior you need to seek help. dont let tumblr trick you into thinking unhealthy coping mechanisms are the only ways to deal with your mental illness. dont let it fester, dont let it worsen. seek as much help as you can. actively try to better yourself.

[homunculus-argument]

a child with an undiagnosed mental illness: I think I need help. I struggle with things nobody else seems to be struggling with.

a parent who never got diagnosed for the exact same mental illness: Oh sweetie. EVERYONE struggles with that :)

[vickytokio]

Oh dear God, you did it! You broke my childhood down to its bare essentials!

[sparcky]

me, looking back on it all:

[attainablerecovery]

Because traumatized people often have trouble sensing what is going on in their bodies, they lack a nuanced response to frustration. They either react to stress by becoming “spaced out” or with excessive anger. Whatever their response, they often can’t tell what is upsetting them. This failure to be in touch with their bodies contributes to their well-documented lack of self-protection and high rates of revictimization and also to their remarkable difficulties feeling pleasure, sensuality, and having a sense of meaning.

“The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel van der Kolk

[weltenwellen]

Judith L. Herman, Trauma and Recovery

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Just because your feelings are valid, this doesn't mean that every possible reaction to them is. Yes, it's okay to be angry - but it's not okay to take it out on someone by breaking their stuff. Yes, it's okay to be jealous - but it's not okay to sabotage relationships. Yes, it's okay to want attention - but it's not okay to lie to get it. And so on. Your feelings are always valid, but you still have a responsibility for how you choose to express them.

[i-peed-so-hard-i-laughed-deacti]

[lightheartedsuggestion]

Stop convincing yourself you’re wasting your life away. The time you’ve spent resting and healing was and is necessary. You’re not a waste of a person if you find yourself struggling right now. Healing, recovering, sitting with your pain is foundational. It’s not a waste. You are still whole.

[rosepals]

I was sexually, physically, and emotionally abused. Yet I can't fucking do anything about it and anyone who has known my family won't believe it. My dad is an abusive piece of shit and I love my mom and siblings so I have to fucking deal with him.

[yrakenveitbluther-deactivated20]

Being Unmedicated Rocks! *really pained and sorrowful expression on my face as i am saying this*

[bakwaaas]

sometimes it takes years before you fully understand the reality of a situation you were in, for you to look back and see it for what it truly was

[deerchasingheadlights]

its just me, my escapist tendencies, and these tits

[rottenbutrecovering]

Hiya Donnie, I hope everything’s fine on your end! I wanted to ask if you know if BPD and other pds “lessen” in severity as you age? I’m in my late 20’s now and I feel like my symptoms are not as bad as they were when I was a teen. Do you know anything about this?

They very often do! Often for many reasons

First, as time goes on, even without treatment, we can learn how to control some symptoms and to avoid triggers

Secondly, the hormones around puberty and as a teen/young adult very much can worsen symptoms

Thirdly, it’s actually a documented thing that, at least with BPD, symptoms do lessen with age: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2629076/#:~:text=It%20is%20commonly%20believed%20that%20symptoms%20of%20Borderline%20Personality%20Disorder,advancing%20age%E2%80%9D%20(1).

[phoenix-princesss]

[glassslippers-and-tinywhiskers]

Ow I feel called out