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commish I did for @pineapple_hunter !

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O: some kanarise for persona yuri week… It’s late/probably unnecessary but i wanted to try and make something despite being unable to do all 7 days lkdfsf

#persona 4

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lethe-virgilia

「I want to build a future for Windor, for Ephinea, and for Fodra.」

#tales of graces

socialjusticesummoner

How to Help an Abuse Victim

Many of you have some misconceptions about how to help us, so I want to make some things known before people with good intentions make things worse: 1. Don’t assume that the answer is always to ride up on a white horse and immediately spirit the victim away. Abuse is a LOT more complicated than that, so you need to approach every single solitary case of abuse like the unique situation that it is. Sometimes the best (and only) course of action is to try and immediately remove the victim from the situation, but sometimes this approach can get them killed. I am not exaggerating. An abuser is always most dangerous when they are losing their victim. The vast majority of homicides in abusive situations happen immediately after the victim leaves their abuser. 2. Recognize that the victim may not be ready to leave and respect that. Abuse is, again, complicated, and abusers spend a lot of energy manipulating and brainwashing their victims into staying. It takes a LOT to step away from these situations, as abusers will often do anything to insure that we don’t. Not only that, but there are so many questions to consider. How will we afford to live? Where will we live? Etc etc etc.. It is so much harder to leave than people realize. Emotionally, financially, physically. 3. Just be there to listen. If your loved one is not ready to leave, just be there to hear them. You have no idea how isolating it can be being an abuse victim. Often, we feel as though we can’t tell anybody what’s going on. For many of us, having someone just listen to us helped us get to the place we needed to be to leave. You cannot understand how invaluable it is to just have someone listen and support us. 4. Be there if they disappear. Because there’s a good chance we will, and if you’re there when we come back, that means the world. Our abuser may isolate us or our abuse may make it like the world does not exist outside of our home and the war happening within… We don’t want to disappear, but we do. Understand that and be there for us. 5. Don’t be condescending. Abuse victims live in a world where someone is constantly hurting them, belittling them, telling them how worthless they are. The last thing we need is more people making us feel bad about ourselves. If you’re condescending to an abuse victim, making them feel like they’re ridiculous for staying with their abuser, what does that say about you? Why would you kick someone when they’re down, and how do you think you’re helping? Likely you will only serve to cause an abuse victim to shut down even further.

#the last onnneee don't call someone weak for staying in that situation that's awful #abuse mention