#dream partner

[sunshinesinaxo]

Manifesting a love so healthy it’s actually scary. ✨

I’m only accepting healthy love from now on | Relationship Goals POV

Honestly, I’m just ready for a relationship that feels like a safe space. No games, no stress—just that kind of healthy, peaceful energy where you both just get each other. It’s the dream, and I’m officially not settling for anything less.

[fallen-in-love-suggestion]

You're better than any dream

[reinen5astro]

When To Start a Conflict, and When Not To!

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Hey, I see you're struggling with this a lot. Don't worry so did I for a very long time!

Lately, there's definitely been an awakening in the self-improvement movement; telling us to always stand up for ourselves when we feel disrespected. This is absolutely amazing for people with no backbone. But of course, at some point, it gets tiring to constantly defend yourself and to constantly block people and end friendships or relationships. And it's also tiring if you don't know how to actually handle conflicts correctly.

Especially for all my Aries North Nodes and Libra South Nodes out there *wink wink*. If you want to learn more about your journey: go here, I actually made a post about this placement.

At some point, you need to learn when to choose to have conflict [aka. when your actual values are compromised], and when to choose peace.

You can't defend yourself forever, and you can't isolate yourself forever.

So, I have a few tips for you:

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Write a list of your personal life values. Do you value honesty, integrity, and loyalty?

Then write another list of the values you want your dream friends to have. Do you want friends that value compassion, and communication?

As well as the values you want your dream partner to have and call it your "love list".

And make a list for your family as a bonus too.

Then, write a "reciprocal list" for each of these lists containing traits that are the "complement" or the "reciprocal" to these traits. NOT THE OPPOSITE. This list will contain traits that you need to work on embodying more. Like for example, if you want a friend who values honesty...then you're of course going to need to value trust, because why would a naturally honest person want to be honest with someone who doesn't even trust them.

Now use these lists to help you discern when to create a conflict and when not to because it makes no sense to cause a fight over something that doesn't even compromise your values.

Whenever you're thinking of starting a conflict with a friend or partner over something, or whenever you're simply getting annoyed with them and thinking of ending the entire relationship, lol, refer to these lists.

Do they match the list? Yes? So, they're everything you want in a friend? Yes? Then are you self-sabotaging? Maybe....

Oh, wait, what they did doesn't match a value on the list? Then it's time to start a conflict right neow.

These lists are also great for manifesting your dream relationships too *wink wink*. Since the more people you distance yourself from that don't match your values, the more people you attract that do match your values. And it also tells God/Universe what you ACTUALLY want in a friend or partner.

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.... Here's a few real-life examples:

Let's say your current friend keeps on lying to you. Let's check your lists: you wrote that you value friends that value honesty [in your friend list] and that you yourself value honesty in your personal life values list, then, of course, it makes sense to speak up or end the friendship over it.

But let's say your friend hasn't answered your texts. When you check your list, you realize that you didn't write anything about that in your values lists. So, is it really necessary to cause a conflict over it, even though it's really really annoying? Why not just assume the best in them and ask them, "Hey why didn't you answer my text?"

Or let's say you've been going on dates with a guy, and he matches the majority of the values on your list: maybe you put that you wanted a guy that values providing, honesty, compassion, etc., etc. But then this guy decides to say a snarky insult. So, you check your love list and realize that you wrote that you wanted a guy that values "respect," then of course it would be time to politely decline going on another date, or to cause a conflict over it. Because it ACTUALLY goes against your inner values.

Now let's say you meet another guy that matches all of the values on your list, and he is genuinely your dream partner. But then one day he forgets to text you [nothing serious like forgetting a date], and so you start thinking of scenarios, getting scared, and overthinking. Maybe it's time to look at your list! You remember that he matches all the values on our list, and forgetting to text doesn't violate any of your values. So, you don't cause a conflict over it and choose peace. Or you decide to ask, "Hey, why did you forget to do...blah blah blah," and he gives an explanation.

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I hoped this helped. Feel free to comment your opinions and if this method worked for you.

Now remember to actually use your discernment. This is the method that I created for myself based off of advice I've heard from many sources [SimoneSimmo - create conflict over your values, TheUniverseGuru - create a love list according to your values]. So of course it's suited to my personality

As well, you need to update these lists regularly because you may want different things in different eras of your life right.

And finally, I mean it when I say, actually have fun with this, please. Don't take everything so seriously you know. If this method isn't fun for you then THAT'S OKAY, just don't do it. Like this is supposed to be a fun way of handling life fr fr. When you read about this method it should've lit you up and made you excited to try it!

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[viktheviking1]

I've been having dreams lately where I fall in love, and feel so upset when I wake up.

In one, he made fun of me at first for being trans, not understanding how much it hurt me. But after I explained, he apologized and we slowly fell in love.

In another, they were deaf and in a wheelchair, and me and 3 other guys were competing for their love. (I don't know; it was dream logic.) And in the end I won, and he happily asked me to be his girlfriend. I had to explain that I was trans, and that my body wouldn't stay looking the way it was currently. They were surprised, but explained that they were pansexual for one thing, so it wouldn't matter. And also their body wasn't how they preferred it either, but they were so happy their was a solution for me. And even though things would never perfect for either of us, we could be happy with what we had, and with each other. It was really beautiful.

Shit, dude. I wanna romance so someone, is that too much to ask?!

(I also met the second dream partners' dad. He was confused and I had to explained a couple times, but in the end, he couldn't have cared less.)

[sirartwork]

Somehow, I’ll find it in my heart to forgive them.

(but I can never be forgiven for having a soup of rancid memes for a brain)

[writersblockwithprompts]

Writing Prompt #107

My list? screw it. Jut write all your qualities and I’ll say it’s mine.

[theatricalgeminifangirl]

Not only was he a pillar boy, he was also a horse boy

[lovenotesuggestions]

my dream partner is someone who loves me, respects me, appreciates me, and understands me. someone who wants to spend a lot of time together, including having sleepovers and staying up late talking & watching shows. someone who i can tell anything to. someone who is creative & loves art and music. someone who is emotionally intelligent & empathetic. someone who adores me for exactly who i am but wants to see me grow into my best self. my best friend & lover. i hope i find them soon!!!💕💕💕

That sounds like the perfect person, I hope you find someone like that! 💗