ᴛʜɪꜱ ɪꜱ ᴀ ᴄᴏᴍᴘʟᴀɪɴᴛ, ɴᴏᴛ ᴀ ᴄᴏɴꜰᴇꜱꜱɪᴏɴ.
(*Hides behind their mote and castle wall defenses, holding Melvin the guard Dodo.*)
It goes against our rules.
It is also pushing the exclusion of oc females from the RP communities' narrative. Here we post legitimate, non-toxic confessions. :)
Next: It is a massive bummer that you feel like people aren't reading your pinned post on your rules. The honest to god truth, however? They're not reading it, they're not even looking at the ocs you've worked on. Especially if you've a smaller following. (That's just how it is.) The pinned post is for show these days. This indeed is becoming an issue as well.
As for "Tupper". There is a feature on Discord known as Tupperbot, which allows rpers to organize, select, set up, and interact as one or many of their canons/ocs with easy access.
Complaint: The post explicitly vents frustration about others violating the poster’s boundaries. It focuses on criticizing others’ behavior, not confessing personal actions or feelings.
Confession: A confession involves admitting guilt, vulnerability, or a personal struggle. For example, "I feel guilty for disliking female OCs." This post lacks that introspective angle.
The mislabeling of this as a "confession" could be problematic and extremely toxic. It might normalize framing disdain for female OCs as a "personal truth" rather than a critique of others, subtly reinforcing an already growing and horrific stigma.
Why This Matters for the Anti-Woman Concern
Even as a complaint, the post’s impact depends on the community’s existing culture. (The narrative is set, and already headed down the road it was directly facing. That shit moved like a Grebe bird on yo ass before you even realized it was harmful and now... It is spreading.)
If the group already stigmatizes white cis female OCs, complaints like this. Ex, "people keep offering girls", Risk being interpreted as:
Validation of the idea that female OCs are inherently annoying/undesirable.
Normalization of dismissing female creators/characters as "boundary-violators" for simply existing or engaging. (This already happens, not just to female OCs, but to many types of OCS.)
Allowing toxic complaints like this in destroys what we want to build here. A place where people can get heavy burdens off their chest.
Systemic Issue vs. Individual Frustration
Individual Level: The poster’s frustration is valid—ignoring RP boundaries.
Systemic Level: If the community routinely amplifies complaints like this while marginalizing female OCs, it creates a culture where disdain for these characters is socially rewarded. Over time, this could:
Silently discourages creators of female OCs from participating.
Frame female characters (and their creators) as "default annoyances," even when boundaries are stated neutrally.
If we allowed complaints like this in, we would be hurting our community more than helping. Lots of love sent to you, and we hope this doesn't change how you feel about us! We just want to create an environment where everyone is loved and welcome.