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v1nz
Seems like a good party!
Da Sie so schön offen unterwegs ist, sollte er auf jeden Fall versperrt sein!!!
So available but so out of reach, for him anyway
Wears her sexy panties more now...
Periodic releases
Disclaimer: This article assumes that you are the woman in a relationship with a man, where both parties have agreed to let you control his orgasms and erections (using a chastity cage), as suggested in my article on Motivating the Male. You both enjoy a decent amount of kink.
It’s no accident that the title of this article can be interpreted in two ways: It could mean releasing his penis from its cage, and it could mean granting him sexual release - as in allowing him to orgasm. This article is mainly about the latter interpretation, but these two rewards are closely related, and should be used wisely.
Let’s start with erections. A properly motivated man in near full-time chastity is a very eager creature. Being let out of his cage, especially if it is to have his cock and balls played with, just feels so good. What other men get to enjoy all day, every day - having a readily available penis - is a luxury for your man. Treat it as such, and remind him in no subtle ways how lucky he is to be let out for however many minutes you grant him.
If you love edging him or just playing with his penis, by all means unlock him every night, but you should be aware of the power that lies in denying him this pleasure. I’d also like to remind you that it can be quite enjoyable to play with a locked penis too - twisting the cage, squeezing his balls until he groans, roughly flicking a finger on his taut ball sack are all things I personally love doing while we lie in bed, just talking and fooling around.
We have settled on a frequency of about 1-4 times out of the cage in a two-week period. For us, this underscores the power I have over him in a nice way and makes him thoroughly enjoy every minute of freedom.
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An even more potent reward (sorry, I couldn’t resist) is allowing him to have an orgasm. Every man is different, so you’ll have to monitor his mood and behaviour after being denied for different lengths of time, before settling on your own frequency. I can tell you that I give my husband an orgasm (of sorts) roughly every six weeks, but that’s just what works for us.
The more interesting question, to me, is how you go about giving him his orgasms. There are virtually infinite ways to do this, and I find that almost all of them are great fun, but for this article I want to share a run-of-the-mill orgasm for my husband. Sometimes I’ll make a big thing out of them, and do something really special, but most of them go something like this.
I’ll usually drop a few hints during the day in question, that tonight might be a special night for him, but apart from that I don’t like to give him any idea of when he’ll get his next orgasm. It keeps him on his toes and makes it more interesting for both of us.
After receiving my usual rounds of servitude after we retire to the bedroom, perhaps a little longer than most nights, I’ll have him lie on his back and sit on his face (with panties off), facing his body. This is something of a treat for him in itself, and I’ll often just sit there for a while, rubbing myself on his face and enjoying his tongue work on me while I twist his nipples and squeeze his balls. After a while I’ll release his cock and start playing with it.
However, I do not just jerk him to climax and let him ejaculate any way he pleases. That would be a waste of opportunity, not to mention a big stinking mess. I find it hugely important to assert full control over his ejaculations, for reasons I could write a long separate article about, but will only touch briefly on here.
We practice what is commonly referred to as ruined orgasms. It basically means that he is under strict instructions to let me know when he is nearing climax, at which point I’ll try to let go of his penis at exactly the point where he has crossed the point of no return, but before he starts pumping his semen flying through the room. If you time it just right, and have trained your man to lie perfectly still and resist the urge to vigorously pump it out (as his instincts will tell him to do), his full load will trickle out in a steady but relatively calm stream, making it easy to collect (more on that later). The great thing about this is that your man will be left feeling a strange mix of having emptied his balls but without the accompanying feeling of actually coming. If you have a sadistic streak, like I readily admit to having, this is great fun. Here he is, having been caged and denied for weeks on end, and when he is finally allowed to have his precious orgasm, it is totally and utterly ruined. Not only that, but he’ll still be aroused and not feel “spent” and tired like he would after a proper orgasm. It’s benefits all the way!
The last, but also very important, detail about controlling his ejaculations in every little way, is what happens to his semen. For the last seven or so years, my husband has hardly had a single orgasm without eating his own semen after he has been allowed to ejaculate. This serves many useful purposes, in addition to turning me on. One, it eliminates the mess - a huge plus in itself. Two, it pleases me tremendously to think about the fact that my man is a closed loop as far as semen is concerned. What comes out must go right back in! Three, it’s my symbolic act of revenge for all the girls and women who have felt obliged to swallow their men’s semen through the ages. Four, I find it very entertaining to think about the fact that when my husband is begging me to be allowed an orgasm, he is in effect begging me to eat his own semen - since he knows full well that the two are inextricably linked. In summary, I just love this part of it!
The mechanics of it are pretty straightforward. If you allow him to fuck you and come inside of you (are you sure you want to do that?), make him lick it out. For simple jerk-off sessions like the one I’m describing here, I keep a glass nearby and simply hold it below the tip of his penis as his semen dribbles out. Then, rather quickly, I climb off his face and pour the contents of the glass into his mouth - which is already open and waiting.
It should be noted that there is a HUGE difference in his desire to swallow his own semen before and after he climaxes. The difference is a lot less pronounced for ruined orgasms (another reason right there), but it is still significant. Speaking for my own husband here, he finds the thought of it a huge turn-on before he climaxes, still rather exciting while he is actually ejaculating, but rapidly moving into “hell no” territory with every second that passes after that. So I urge you to make him swallow the main load within 30 seconds to a minute after ejaculating.
We tend to move into cuddle mode right after he has come. but I’ll continue feeding him the drops that leak out in the next few minutes - he has built up a nice tolerance for it over the years - and I like to make it crystal clear that if he wants to continue having orgasms, it’s his responsibility to eat every single drop. I have zero tolerance for messy sheets.
You should try hard to make this eating-his-own-mess thing work - be forceful and make him understand that it’s important to you.
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So that has been our basic routine for many years. Lately, I’ve also been experimenting with making him ejaculate without being let out of the cage at all. This is actually quite simple to achieve by using (for example) a Magic Wand vibrator on his cage for a while. Everything else is the same - the face-sitting, the ruined orgasm, the eating of the semen - but it feels like it is even more ruined and somehow more sad and pathetic to not even be allowed an erection when ejaculating, which I must admit to liking. It also makes it even easier to collect his semen, since his penis isn’t flailing about. We’ve had a lot of fun with this, and we both enjoy me taunting him about how there’s hardly any need to release him ever, now that he can both fuck me (using our strap-ons) and have his (very few) orgasms while caged.
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I hope this has been useful to those of you who are new to this, and perhaps even to some who have been at it for a while. Many experienced FLR/femdom couples end up with an arrangement similar to what I have described, but as always there are countless ways to do it. Remember to take this for what it is - a walkthrough of what works for us - not a universal truth.
Am I a terrible person for ruining his bi-monthly orgasms?
FLR Tips is the sister site to FLR Info, where you’ll find introductory information about Female-Led Relationships. If you’re new to this, you should head over there. This site is about the practical, day-to-day aspects of FLRs. It is much more explicit and quite sex/femdom-oriented. Consider yourself warned.
With just six orgasms (or so) in the course of a full year, shouldn’t I be a good wife and at least make them really, really good for him?
This isn’t me asking, but it’s a question I get asked every now and then. It’s a fair question too, especially from women who are new to this, so I’m going to answer it as thoughtfully as I can.
But before we get into it, let’s recap what a ruined orgasm is. In FLRs and other femdom-type relationships, it’s common for the woman to control and restrict the man’s orgasms, typically using a chastity device combined with some rules and a shared understanding that it’s for their mutual benefit. Typically, the woman decides when and how the man is allowed to reach an orgasm. If she practices runied orgasms, she will endeavour to stop all forms of stimulation just as his desire pushes him beyond the point of no return. This causes the semen to trickle out in a seemingly frustrating and unsatisfying way, and, if done correctly, he will not lose his erection and will not feel “spent” and fulfilled afterwards, but rather be ready for more.
Let’s review the effects of this from both sides before we address whether it’s cruel to do this.
For the woman, it’s mostly benefits all the way. She gets to assert control and dominate one of the most fundamental aspects of being a man, with very little effort on her part. There can be a lot less mess - it’s easy to direct or collect his semen without any spillage. It can be very fun and rewarding for women who have a sadistic streak, which is quite common in femdom-type relationships. And, perhaps most importantly, he doesn’t collapse like a wet blanket afterwards, neither mentally nor physically. She can continue to play with him, or switch to being serviced herself - all without him losing interest.
As far as downsides go, depending on who you are, there might not be any. Maybe you get a big kick out of seeing him pump his semen flying through the room, and feel that you’d miss that? Well, just go ahead then - this isn’t about doing anything for the sake of it. Ruin him when you see the benefits of it, and have him go wild if that’s what you feel like.
How about the man? Are there any upsides to this for him? Perhaps surprisingly, there are several! He enjoys the sexual energy that he gets from being teased and denied, and with a ruined orgasm he barely loses any of it, while still getting a decent dose of satisfaction. Also, he can go right back to serving your needs with a genuine passion for it, without “faking it” for a couple of days. But most importantly, it plays directly to his kinks. Even though it feels frustrating in the moment to be denied a proper orgasm, on a deeper level he will revel in the transfer of power that is taking place, and the delicious unfairness of it all.
So no downsides for the man, then? Well, yes, there is one. I downplayed it in the previous paragraph, but it’s still a very real downside: He doesn’t get a proper orgasm! Being brought to a nice, fulfilling orgasm feels really, really good - most women living in FLRs are keenly aware of this fact, and enjoy plenty of them on a daily basis. Almost never experiencing one is definitely a downside, no doubt about it.
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So, back to the question at hand. Are you a terrible person if he only (or mostly) gets ruined orgasms on the rare occasions that he is allowed to have some form of release?
Unequivocally, NO. If your relationship is otherwise healthy, meaning that you love and respect each other and the FLR/femdom aspects are based on a mutual understanding and continually evaluated, then you have absolutely nothing to worry about.
Most men who have this particular kink are only too happy to be living with a woman who embraces and cultivates her demanding, sadistic, and selfish traits. This is what he WANTS - for you to put yourself first and to actively restrict his sexual pleasures. The unfairness of not only having to wait weeks between each release, but then only being allowed a degrading sham orgasm is a huge point in itself.
I’m being deliberately unnuanced here. Of course there are men who have different needs and wants - for real, not just playful complaining during sex. But that’s where the health of your relationship comes into play. If the relationship is healthy and based on mutual love and respect, you will soon enough discover that this isn’t working, either because he tells you or because you just sense it. And then you work it out.
So if your man appears happy most of the time, and continues to serve you eagerly, I wouldn’t worry about a little complaining when he is frustrated. On the contrary, I’d enjoy my power over him and remind him again and again of the old FLR/femdom aphorism:
Orgasms are for women.
Questions and Answers
This post has links to some of the more commonly asked questions about how we got started, how things developed for us, and what our life is like.
How does Tom handle being locked up for so long?
Who's idea was it?
How does your husband keep you satisfied?
Does he really keep you satisfied that way?
How did you become comfortable with this?
How do you deal with illnesses?
Does Tom still initiate even though he is permanently locked?
Do you feel bad when you get to come so much and he does not?
Does Tom feel like he has sacrificed anything by being locked?
Do you feel that your husband has been emasculated by this?
Should I get a larger dildo for me wife to try?
Are you worried that denial will be bad for him?
Does your husband wear his cage to work?
Doesn't he lose motivation?
Do you ever unlock him?
How can I get my wife to do this?
What was his reaction when you told him it was going to be permanent?
Don't you miss how he feels?
Do you play with others?
How long did it take you to get to permanent?
What is your favorite aspect of this?
Does your husband ever regret what he gave up?
What about shrinking?
What cage does he wear?
Do you have any tips for getting started?
Do either of you feel like you have sacrificed something to make this work?
Can I send you a picture of my cage?
Are you sure you don't want to see my cage?
How do you feel intimate with just a faux cock?
When did you realize that this is what you really wanted?
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What 7 weeks feels like : The Game
I surrendered my body to my Queen seven weeks ago. Since that time, my cock has been locked 24/7 in a steel cage for seven weeks with the exception of the times my Queen desired her cock to bring her to orgasm, or it was impractical for me to wear the cage.
This is almost the longest we’ve gone. I think we’ve done 8 weeks in the past - but we certainly haven’t pushed beyond that.
We didn’t start this way. Lockups were week long affairs - sometimes two weeks. This year my Queen accepted the fact that this makes me happy and helpful, and has embraced keeping me locked for longer and longer periods. I’m very grateful to her for indulging my kink.
But what is it like?
At 7 weeks I’m perpetually horny. It takes next to nothing for my cock to attempt and erection and it takes next to no stimulation for it to leak precum. I seem to have an infinite source of precum in my body. It feels like I can express it at will.
This week has been especially hard. I’ve been insanely horny - waking 3-4 times a night with a ranging erection trapped painfully in my cage. I find myself laying awake and thrusting softly into my pillow, desperate for any stimulation. The other night it took more than 45 minutes for me to calm down and fall back asleep again.
Th cage is a frustrating, but welcome companion - It keeps me in check. Without it I’d almost certainly succumb to the temptation of edging myself. This could only result in one outcome - an orgasm without my Queen’s permission. Besides, I’ve pledged not to play with myself and the cage lets me stay faithful to my Queen’s wishes.
I find myself noticing women more. Walking down the street it’s almost impossible for me not to notice how women are dressed. The curve of the calves, ass and breasts are impossible for me not to notice. It’s hard not to strip them in my mind and worship them.
I keep myself focused on my Queen though and do my best to please her and do my chores. I can’t keep my hands off of her. Every time she’s in reach I want to kiss her or hug her. I’m infatuated with her.
I love seeing her naked. Touching her breasts. kneeling before her and kissing her pussy. Massaging her feet. I’d happily spend my entire day worshiping her. I’d be delighted to kneel behind her and give her a rimjob. There’s nothing she could ask me that I wouldn’t do for her.
I have intense waves of sexual desperation. Times where my horniness is so consuming it hurts. These are the hardest and most delicious times. It’s when my body overrules my mind. At times the ache between my legs is so intense that I could cry.
I’m happy for this gift she’s bestowed on me. It’s an amazing sensation to feel so turned on by her at all times. It’s fantastic to feel so infatuated and consumed by her. It makes me happy to serve and please her.
Thank you my love, my wife, my Queen for keeping me locked and denied.
I love you.
Amen!