🐛 @rumman - Tumblr Blog

everything in your life has been preparing you for this moment. and what you learn in this moment will prepare you for so many moments in the future. for joy and agony. for the quiet and the loud. for the growth that you deserve and that you owe yourself. open yourself up to the moment and let it change you for the better

jareckiworld

Bill Miller — The Cold Black Sea Waits for Me (pieces vintage linoleum on panel, 2023)

#art

i can't imagine not craving sour and crunchy things all the time

chicknwire

I love tumblr more than IG bc IG feels like I’m posting looking for a job but on here it’s like I already lost the job and my wife and the house and I’m just sitting on the curb talking to myself

#no but literally

life runs away from me so often

sailermoon

#self

caspercryptid

I would actually go as far as to say that MOST abuse is unintentional. I think most people will go through their lives without ever experiencing intentional abuse. People are abusive because they're selfish, because they're stressed, because they care more about what society thinks they should do than the impacts of their actions on their children and partners, because they think what they're doing is correct, because they've made it make sense in their own heads, because they think they can fix their victims, they think they can fix their relationships, they think they can stop you from leaving, they think they can make you a better partner to them, they think that means you need to do what they want. We've sort of constructed mental illness in a way that doing this shit to other people counts as a form of mental illness because it is anti social behavior in the literal sense— it is behavior that causes social harm.

I don't say any of this to excuse it. I think everyone needs to be more aware of this because if you think abuse has to be intentional you will never realize you are capable of abusive behavior. You will never realize you are being shitty to the people you love, because YOU know what you mean, YOU know you don't mean any harm. But you're doing harm. You need to pay attention to the impact you have on other people, and you need to do it all the time, Especially when you feel least capable of doing so. Sorry! You live in a society. Get your head out of your ass.