Don't worry, be happy

Erika. Thirty-something wife and mama to two. Book lover. Coffee addict. Medical Technologist. Trying to find my place in this crazy world.

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[andallshallbewell]

[emlyn-busyhearts]

“i. You shouldn’t have to earn trust if you’ve never broken it. ii. Never lose yourself in someone else’s identity. iii. There are places in your heart that are not for rent. iiii. The best love tastes like freedom. The way he treats you will be an echo of your own self regard. Set the bar high.”

— Letters to my daughter - Em Lyn

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“I am convinced that most people do not grow up. We find parking spaces and honor our credit cards. We marry and dare to have children and call that growing up. I think what we do is mostly grow old. We carry accumulation of years in our bodies and on our faces, but generally our real selves, the children inside, are still innocent and shy as magnolias.”

— Maya Angelou, from Letter to My Daughter

[cineraria]

[10knotes]

#IT’S REAL AND LOOKS TINY BECAUSE OF THE SHORT FOCAL LENGTH

[randomslasher]

You know one of the shittiest parts of chronic pain? 

Sympathy has an expiration date. 

If you’re hurting because you broke your leg, people can sympathize with you, because there’s an end-date. Eventually your leg will heal and you’ll be okay again. People will coo and coddle and bring you chocolates and sign your cast because they know that’s emotional labor that they will only have to perform temporarily. 

But if you have a chronic condition that causes you daily pain, after awhile, people get annoyed with having to deal with you. They ask you what’s wrong, and when you reply with the same thing that was wrong last week, or the week before, or the month before, you eventually get an incredulous, “Still?” 

Or maybe they’re not that overt. Maybe instead they go, “Oh, just that. Okay.” As if today’s pain should somehow be fine for them to ignore because it’s nothing new. No need to worry: it’s just the same old same old. 

Let me tell you: Pain never gets easy to handle. It’s not like people with chronic pain develop an immunity to it, or that we stop feeling it. Sure, some of us get better at ignoring it, or better at living around it, but honestly? Most of us just get better at hiding it, because we get tired of feeling like an emotional burden to everyone around us.

But that doesn’t mean that we’re not hurting, and it sort of sucks that long-term pain, in addition to all the other fun things it entails, also eventually comes with a revoked right to be sympathized with, or even just treated like something other than a whiny attention-grabbing faker (or worse: a drug-seeker).

Chronic pain is real. And it sucks. And one of the worst parts about it is knowing it’s never going to end. 

It would just be cool if people could try understand that, I guess.

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this is the only funny thing on yhe internet

[confessionsofadiabetic]

You know what absolutely boggles my mind? That healthy people exist. Genuinely healthy people. No mental illness, no physical illness, no chronic illness. Just healthy. What a life that must be. 

[geekandmisandry]

This fucks with my head though. There are people who get up and feel… Awake, and then they go and just… Do their adult responsibilities without feeling anxious or upset? They just return phonecalls? Answer calls from unknown numbers? Don’t procrastinate doing important things until is a huge problem that makes you cry??

That sounds fake.

[ladydrace]

Has anyone else noticed how, when you have a chronic condition of some kind, that there’s always the basic assumption from people around you that you’re not already doing everything you can?

[squidsqueen]

It’s all about the illusion of control. People who are healthy like to believe they can always keep being healthy if they do the right things. They don’t want to think about how good people get struck with terrible circumstances for no reason. So they keep assuming that if they got sick, they could do something to make it better. And if you’re still sick, that must mean you’ve done something wrong or not done enough.

[chronic-illness-resources]

this phenomenon is called the Just World Hypothesis in psycholgy 

[spoonielols]

[hilarioushumorfromouterspace]

[rustedthrough]

Walking into Chemistry at the start of your shift to find out one of the analyzers is down..

[rustedthrough]

Guess who stumbled upon A Court of Frost and Starlight a whole day early!!!! 😀😀😀

[thefibrodiaries]

“just because someone may have it worse 

                         doesn’t mean your struggles aren’t valid”

[stayhungry-stayfree]

It’s crazy when you stop to think about how many times you’ve thought to yourself, “This is it. I just can’t bear to do it anymore. I’m done.” And yet here you are. You’re still breathing, still living, still fighting for joy, for life, for light, for love. And you are loved. For as much as you may be struggling right now, you’re here. You’re strong as hell. Don’t forget it, kid. 

[martsrecovery]

Just a little reminder for myself and anyone else who is struggling at the moment. Things will get better

[rustedthrough]

79 degrees at the end of February? I'll take it. I'm not going to complain about getting to sit in the sun reading a good book. I need more days like this in my life.

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