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― Anomalisa (2015) Michael: Our time is limited. We forget that. Death comes, that’s it. Soon it’s as if we never existed.

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Tips for Coping with Emotional Pain

Accept that pain is a normal part of life …

A relationship break up, the death of your pet, failing an exam, being hurt by a friend. It means that you are human and not a machine – but how do you cope with the hurt and the pain?

1. Endure it. There are some things in life which you can’t just wish away. You have to be patient and allow yourself to heal. For example, if you break your arm you have to wear it in a cast; and if your heart is broken, you have to let it heal. You have to ride the roller coaster till your feelings stabilise.

2. Talk to someone. It’s natural to conclude that no-one understands and to want to repress, or to try and hide, the pain. But you need the compassion of those who truly care. Take the offer of help and get support from your friends.

3. Don’t allow other people to trivialise your feelings. Your feelings are real and should be treated with respect. And accepting how you feel will enable you to grieve, and to start to recover and to be yourself again.

4. Don’t allow yourself to fixate on your negative emotions. It is healthy to acknowledge how terrible you feel. But don’t allow the pity party to drag on for too long. Force yourself to go out, and to spend time with your friends. Get involved in other things, and maybe try out something new.

5. Don’t allow your pain define you. It may have been a trauma, and a terrible thing – but don’t let what happened determine what you’ll do, or who you will become, or how good your life will be. You win in life by choosing your own destiny.

6. Don’t play the blame game. Regardless of what happened, don’t indulge in blaming others – for that’s not going to help you to move on with your life. See it as a chance to learn, and gain some life experience. You have grown as a person and have better coping skills. Thus, it can serve to make you stronger, and wiser, in the end.

7. Put together a ‘Thankfulness List’. Make a list of all the things that you are thankful for today. It will speed up your recovery and change the way you feel.

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I think the whole point of being with someone is so you can talk to them and let go of everything, and even when you’re at your worst, they still like you, they still want to speak to you and care about you.

Unknown (via psych-facts)

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I wanna be that girl… The girl you can’t stop thinking about all the time. The only girl you ever want to talk to. The girl you talk to your friends about. The girl you introduce to your family. The girl you dream about growing old with and having a family. The girl that can actually put a real smile on your face and who makes you laugh until you cry. The girl you can be your complete self around. The girl you love to death and would do anything for her. I wanna be that girl.

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I have a million things to talk to you about. All I want in this world is you. I want to see you and talk. I want the two of us to begin everything from the beginning.

Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood (via psych-facts)

larmoyante

She said, ‘I’m so afraid.’ And I said, ‘why?,’ and she said, ‘Because I’m so profoundly happy. Happiness like this is frightening.’ I asked her why and she said, ‘They only let you be this happy if they’re preparing to take something from you.’

Khaled Hosseini, The Kite Runner (via itcuddles)

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There are all these moments you think you won’t survive. And then you survive.

David Levithan (via psych-facts)

thelovewhisperer

You know that feeling when you’re just waiting, waiting to get home into your room, close the door, fall into bed, and just let everything out that you kept in all day, that feeling of both relief and desperation? Nothing is wrong, but nothing is right either, and you’re tired, tired of everything, tired of nothing, and you just want someone to be there and tell you it’s okay, but no one’s going to be there, and you know you have to be strong for yourself because no one can fix you. But you’re tired of waiting, tired of having to be the one to fix yourself and everyone else, tired of being strong, and for once, you just want it to be easy, to be simple, to be helped, to be saved, but you know you won’t be, but you’re still hoping and you’re still wishing and you’re still staying strong and fighting with tears in your eyes. You’re fighting.

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misskhae

You know what, I have come to realized that love is putting someone else’s feelings above your own. But that’s not to say that you only care about someone else’s happiness to the detriment of your own and that’s not to say that you take advantage of someone’s love to get what you want. It should not bring you pain because you are doing things for the purpose of making someone you love happy. Whether you’re a person who can no longer be with your friends because you found someone who adds to the number of people who loves you or whether you’re a girlfriend who has to give up some things to compromise, it should be the same. Because love shouldn’t feel like suffering. It shouldn’t feel like a thousand butterflies has died in your tummy all at once. Love should feel like you’re falling from the top of the building and not worried about getting hurt because you know someone is going to catch you. It shouldn’t feel scary that one day you might changed in his eyes because love is also being happy to someone even though you’re not always the reason of that happiness.

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