When I was 16 I was pro-life, I wanted kids and to get married, I had next to no inkling of what gay people went through andΒ βdisapproved of the lifestyleβ because thatβs what my parents told me to think, I didnβt even know asexuals existed and if I had I probably would have thought they just needed to get laid.
Itβs 15 years later now and Iβm pro-choice, I donβt want kids of my own, Iβve been married and divorced and am now engaged, the majority of my friends are some form of queer as well as myself, and I am on the ace spectrum.
We change as people as we grow up. It happens. We get exposed to new things, learn new ways of thinking, see other sides to things.
Which is one of the reasons Tumblrβs toxic black/white nonsense is very infuriating.
Because itβs a bunch of kids who havenβt learned yet that shitβs gonna change trying to make absolutes out of every situation. Theyβre always out to find the bad guy.
Like thereβs a very reverse Scooby Doo kind of feeling likeΒ βOh look, letβs take the mask off your fave artist/actor/etc and reveal that they are the monster. Look how problematic!!!β and for small infractions too.
I dunno man. Lifeβs going to change for you, people are going to change around you, and YOU are going to change as you grow. Who you are right now is not who you are going to be at 30.
I mean, lord, can you imaging parenting kids with the same attitude tumblr has? You kid screws up once and youβre flipping shit on them and kicking them out of the house?
Itβs not good behavior, always looking for the bad in things, always looking for a monster. You can take a stand in other ways against bad shit in the world and it doesnβt have to mean harassing people. Give to charities, promote things like help hotlines, volunteer places, take classes on how to counsel people, thereβs so many good ways to help. Badgering people, sending death threats, being a dick? Those arenβt helping.
Yaβll will change as you grow and you gotta acknowledge that you change and so do others and that change isnβt instant and that some things never 100% change and thatβs okay. The world is like that. Thereβs stuff weβll never eradicate 100%. It sucks. Iβd love to prevent some shit from ever happening ever but thatβs not how life is. So instead we do what we can while weβre here to help others.
Be kind. Donβt be a dick. The world is nicer that way.
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