[sandvvich]

The goal should not be to remove transsexual medications entirely. It should be to find medications that make you ok with your biological sex. The goal should be to do the research to make them so good that doctors would naturally choose them over the current methods. Simply banning the current methodologies does not eliminate the problem. Someone with genuine dysphoria is better off being on hormones as a part of society than they are being too drugged to think living on the country's dime. Though, with so many co-opting our condition nowadays, I wouldn't be surprised if they tried to ban it all.

So here is my plea to my fellow Republicans:

Please call for institutions in right-wing states to put more research into medications that could quell feelings of dysphoria rather than calling for it all to be banned. Many of us that acknowledge this as the disorder it is are silenced. There have been researchers silenced in big universities for presenting anything other than the left's gender ideology. I know I cannot back out myself after being on hormones for over half a decade, but we can at least get that process going for the young people who will follow. It's not me or the people like me who are peddling this ideology. We would have lived as our birth sex if that was an option at all. We are not them.

[sandvvich]

At the very least, I hope we can all agree the Jewish people deserve to keep hold of their holy city of Jerusalem. They deserve to hold it for the same reason that Muslims deserve to hold the cities of Mecca and Medina.

If you do not agree that the Jewish people should keep control of the quintessential Jewish holy city, then there are big questions that you need to be asking yourself.

[sandvvich]

The worst thing about the whole "Israel vs Palestine" issue is how the majority of the people spray painting "Free Palestine" everywhere and blocking pride parades for the cause should not even have a say on the issue in the first place. We are a country halfway around the world from the conflict. The people here with actual ties to the region are heading their voices quashed on both sides in favor of the liberal college student telling them what is right and wrong. It is none of our business, or at least it shouldn't be.

Now, to offer a genuine question, what do you think the calls of "Free Palestine" are actually going to accomplish? Spoiler alert: the calls are not going to do anything to sway sides in the war. So I can only see it as being either a virtue signal or a call for us to get involved. If it is a virtue signal, then all of the discourse is doing nothing but drive us apart here, in a country half way around the world. It means nothing. If it is a call to action, however, there would be a lot a stake besides just Palestine.

If we make it our business and put our nose where it shouldn't be, it isnt just Israel or Palestine being considered here. Iran has already shown that US existence in the region will bring them into the mix. There is also a certain other force just north of there that is not only already at war, but would love to target the US if they're already at war (ie Russia). We would be opening ourselves up to a war much bigger than just for the sake of this one party.

And who would be fighting in this war? You would. At least anyone born male. This includes illegal immigrants, disabled people who are not homebound, and trans women. The current amount of soldiers enlisted will not last long enough to not require a draft. The army has already been complaining about low enlistment numbers, so forcing a war will only make that worse. You can look at the requirements linked below to see how you would fit when called upon, but it would be you and/or your classmates being pulled to war if we force our nose where it does not belong. Is that still a favorable outcome to you?

Who Needs to Register | Selective Service System

[shaftking]

I wish idiots would stop using intersex and people with hormonal conditions as props for their agenda that “gender is fake” as if intersex hormonal conditions aren’t medical issues and outliers that prove the rule and regardless do not prove by any stretch of the imagination that a person without those conditions is somehow anything but male or female. It’s just appropriating these conditions the same way they do to trans people.

[sandvvich]

Well, the most recent flag that's plastered everywhere now includes the intersex flag. That means it's not just idiots forcing them into the community, it's the mainstream.

[shaftking]

“Some trans men are women.” You are literally just transphobic.

[shaftking]

Transphobes on this post very pressed about the fact that trans men are not women.

[shaftking]

I loveeeee making a post about trans men on this site and having enbies and women constantly make it about themselves. Truly the trans man experience.

[sandvvich]

"Non-binary people aren't hurting anyone" rebuttal - Exhibit A

[shaftking]

Hey, genuine question--why do you not think any nonbinary people exist? Like, very genuinely curious, not trying to "call you out" or anything. I'm someone who experiences gender dysphoria over both purely "male" and purely "female" appearances; I've worked with a few different gender therapists and we've come to the conclusion that my dysphoria requires me to have a mixture of both in order to assuage it, and I've worked with several doctors to achieve a body with mixed sex traits after coming to that conclusion. I've never actually heard of any medical science that says mixed-sex-trait dysphoria doesn't exist--I'd be interested in looking into it to be honest, while I feel very comfortable with my body these days and I'm quite mentally healthy, I'm willing to consider that I may have been misled as to the reality of the world.

(Obviously, I'm not supportive of "non-transitioning" "nonbinary" people, btw. You have to transition to be transsexual, and I share skepticism of the people who claim to be "nonbinary" and never undergo hormones or surgery! I'd just never seen any science that disproved mixed-sex-trait dysphoria before--all the science that I've seen has disproven the idea of "non transitioning" transsexuals, but not touched on the existence of real transsexuals with mixed-sex goals, properly supported by multiple therapists and doctors of course.)

Like you say in this ask, there just doesn’t seem to be any actual evidence towards nonbinary, and a lot of defense of it as an identity relies heavily or even purely on self identification and conflating gender with gender roles or masculinity/femininity.

Gender dysphoria does exist on a spectrum of severity and a lot of trans people will want to maintain certain features of their body from their birth gender. I think it depends on what “mixed sex traits” you are referring to, because a trans man not wanting facial hair or a trans woman not wanting chest augmentation seem to be pretty normal trans experiences and I would say is just more indicative that very few people are purely masculine or feminine rather than a mix of the two to some degree.

I do recall a recent study about the effects of misgendering between trans and nonbinary people that had some interesting results but I don’t think there’s really been all that much research into evidence to support the identity itself like there has been a decent amount of for the gendered pattern of trans people vs their cis counterparts brains.

[sandvvich]

I'd say anon's assumptions about the sexuality of traits is also flawed. I'm a trans woman with a small chest. That would seem less feminine to you if you're an outsider looking in, but many women have smaller breasts and the women with larger ones often complain about them. There are also women who complain about their wider hips getting in the way or their specific fat distributions not being ideal. A lot of the characteristics you gain come down to genetics, so thinking you can pick and choose certain physical characteristics while not gain others is simply wishful thinking.

It also comes down to specifics of how one wants to present him/herself. I am more masculine in my clothing choices. I wouldnt want to be one of those midriff-showing women or whatever else comes to mind when labeling someone as "extremely feminine", but that doesn't make me less of a woman. And besides, with my genetic factors, I wouldnt be able to fit the idealized woman mold anyway. I am Irish and Scottish by blood, so of course my body would trend toward "keep as much as possible in case Brittain wants to starve you again."

Tl;dr: all people have qualms with some of their traits. The hyper-feminine or hyper-masculine should not be the baseline. It is wishful thinking to try to pick and choose traits, as your genetics will be the one doing the talking.

[trans-wojak]

Patriarchy something something gender is not real or whatever trenders said

[sandvvich]

I'll say this again slowly:

Nonbinary is not a real thing. Anyone who forces this identity or pronouns on people is actively hurting transsexual people like myself, who have worked hard to pass. Pronouns and gender perception come innately in our brains, so forcing anything past that just kills the idea of someone being trans. It's a medical diagnosis that has politicized to hell and back, just like abortion. Yes, I am gatekeeping. Yes, I am invalidating your identity. Whatever needs to happen to make sure you know you're hurting us, and have for years. My diagnosis is not your politics. My diagnosis is not your fashion statement. I will not acknowledge your identity or use your pronouns.

[sandvvich]

Transsexual men out there: how often do you think about Ancient Rome?

Never

Somewhat Often

Often

Almost Every Minute of Every Day

Pft, When's the Best Time to Wear a Striped Sweater

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[sandvvich]

I don't care what side of the political aisle you're on. We should all be calling into question every election that has used dominion voting systems or any closed source system like it. This includes BOTH Trump v Biden and Trump v Hillary. Audits on any part that is called into question should not be the exception, but the norm.

Their words about election safety and system trust mean nothing if we can't see and trust the algorithms behind them. We need open source election technologies that we can go through and see the underlying technology before any single one of us should trust any of the results.

[myragewillendworlds]

Do you think nonbinary is real?

No, I think it's a social trend dominating social media that young people feel pressured into through guilt trips and peer pressure, that has absolutely zero basis in neurobiology and has been incredibly harmful due to its unjustifiable association with transsexualism and sex dysphoria.

[turgidscum]

stop saying “transmasc” and “transfem” challenge. just call us transmen and transwomen. we’re not transitioning to masculine or feminine - those are expressions, not sexes.

[marie-speaks-lgbt-discourse]

Hey, why are people saying ‘transmac’ in place for trans man?

Transmasc is like, an nb that also uses masculine pronouns yet was afab, right? That’s convoluted and stupid, but at least it acknowledged it wasn’t a full transition like that of a trans man. 

But now I see people use transmasc in place for trans man. I’m out here seeing a character I like get headcanon’d as transmasc, but then OP draws him as a fully transitioned guy. Okay, so you see that character as a full-on trans man…why the fuck are you calling him transmasc then?! Don’t y’all constantly shout trans men are men and trans women are women at the top of your lungs? Why are you using shitty language and bending over backwards to not call a trans woman a woman and a trans man a man? With your ‘womxn’ and your ‘transmasc’?? Your mental gymnastics aren’t much different to that of a right-wing commentator using every excuse in the book to not call Blaire White ‘she.’

[vampish-glamour]

Because they equate being a man with masculinity, and being a woman with femininity. Which is why whenever they see a man who’s even slightly feminine, they say he’s either nb or a woman, and whenever they see a woman who’s even slightly masculine, they say she’s either nb or a man. A big part of online nonbinary communities is enforcing strict gender roles, and this is part of it.

On that last bit about Blaire White being called “he”, I’ve always found it hilarious how people scramble to call her “he”. I remember watching a commentary on that music video she was in out of curiosity, and the guy was like “whaaat??? I’m so confused, she—I mean he—is supposed to be the role of the hot woman in the video, but sh—he’s a man?? Clearly??? So why is she, he it—so confusing lol—in the video??” And a bunch of the comments were calling him out like “obviously she’s in the video to represent minority groups that don’t agree with what their group says they should believe” 😂 it was just so funny to watch this dude scramble to make things far more complicated than they need to be.

[regen-op-de-discourse]

A few months back, I decided to join reddit (thinking it would be less tucute/mogai/etc ridden than tumblr [hoo boy…]) and made the mistake of taking a look-see at the ftm subreddit.

“Hi, I’m a transmasc lesbi–”

“So… I’m a NB she/they transmasculi–”

“Tips for looking more transmasc?”

“Hey transmascs, I was wonderi–”

“I’m genderq***r/non-binary/bigender/etc. and I–”

I was so downright flabbergasted that a space for female to MALE trans MEN was full of people who were not men!! What in the world??? These people treat “FTM” as some sort of alternative word for “masculine people”. Hell, I wrote a post on there specifically about the FTM subreddit being near-overrun by non-binary people (but more specifically the “transmasc” label) who are just masculine and how I, as a trans MAN, was not comfortable having myself be reduced to just a “masculine person”/labelled “transmasc” (especially because I don’t believe myself to be very masculine). Of course, I couldn’t express my complete frustrations lest I be banned, but even so I was not surprised by the replies I got.

Trans men were mostly in agreement with my feelings towards the “transmasc[uline]” label being forced onto us (as binary trans people tend to have the critical thinking skills to differentiate between masculinity/femininity and being men/women; as well as the fact being a feminine man [for example] wouldn’t invalidate our “gender” that relies on us equating our style to our said “gender”), and—at no surprise whatsoever—the vast majority of people who didn’t understand my feelings were non-binary people in the FTM subreddit saying I was being exclusionary towards them. No shit? You’re not a trans man, why are you here? Why is this sub called r/ftm if it is not for F to M men? Yo??? You good??? Am I losing my mind right now???

The trans man community is a joke now; outside of transmed circles. (I guess we can somewhat relate to how lesbians are feeling with their communities right now; what with how their label is being utterly destroyed of meaning and exclusive spaces invaded by those who aren’t lesbians.)

I’ve gone from toxic truscum to transmedicalist to neither anti-transmed/tucute nor transmedicalist and now back to being a transmedicalist. I don’t care what baggage the transmed label brings me anymore. It—and exclusionist ideology—are pretty much the only places that make any lick of sense to me anymore; where people care about what words mean and understand that inclusivity of (literally) everyone, in every circumstance, isn’t always a good thing, or necessary, or even needed. It’s just annoying at this point.

You are Not Binary. If you are Not Binary, why are You in a space specifically for one of the two Binary Genders? How dare you, honestly. How dare you bust your ass into a space for trans men, call us by a label that only benefits ignorant and/or NB people, and chastise a trans Man—in said space supposedly for trans Men—for taking issue with what you—again, not a Man—are doing.

Either be honest and say you view trans men as masculine women, “~really~ masculine ~non-binaries~” or any other flavor of “kinda men, kinda not”, or pull your heads out of your asses, hop off your high horses, and respect the fact we—trans men—are men. You folks say it all the time, no? Then heed your own words and treat us like men. You can say “trans men are men!!!” all you want, but if you don’t treat us as equals to cis men? Well, I certainly hope the door hits you on the way out.

[ruimtetijd]

the reddit post got deleted, but i found an archived version on the wayback machine. here’s the post:

My goal isn’t to get a “masc” body or a “masc” face shape or a “masc” personality or a masculine anything!!! I’m androgynous; I’m a guy who is androgynous. I’m an androgynous man who just so happens to be a transgender man.

In every single online space created for FtM guys, I always see people referring to trans men as “transmasc” instead of or in favor of “men”, and I—apologies, but—just can NOT handle it anymore. Props to some of you who don’t mind that label, but it deeply bothers me. Being labelled masculine due to being a man comes off as sexist and stereotyping in my opinion, and I’m not about that in the slightest.

There can be some overlap in the transition of non-binary masculine people and transgender men, yes, but the label “transmasculine” should not be applied to FtM men (again, just in my opinion). Masculinity/femininity/androgyny are one’s style, one’s dress, one’s demeanor…not inherently tied to gender whatsoever. To say otherwise would directly imply ladies are all feminine & men are all masculine; both of which are long outdated sentiments as well as not being true.

To add: there are masculine women who use the label “transmasc[uline]”. Why are so many people okay with this? Why is nobody talking about how genuinely problematic this label can be for trans men and what this vague umbrella-of-a-label implies??? Why are we grouping cis women who are masculine, non-binary people who are masculine, and trans men under one umbrella term? Men—trans or not—are not inherently masculine for being men. I am so, so tired of this needing to still be said in the year of 2021. I thought breaking gender stereotypes was a thing of the past; that “women feminine, men masculine” was a thing of the past. I’m tired.

[sandvvich]

That's what these people do. It has been happening for years. Our spaces were lost to the "NB" crowd a long time ago. Not a thing like us; only talking over us. At least we have more freedom to speak out on Tumblr than reddit, but transsexual people like us were kicked out of the "trans" category a long time ago.

[sandvvich]

Amazon is clearly trying to send me a message. I'll note that I haven't purchased or even searched for anything like this (just 1 tumblr post), but they seem to know.

Page 2 is also rainbow gadsden flags.

[sandvvich]

Tim Pool, in today's video (at around 16:00), said he should open coffee shops to go against Starbucks. He makes a good point. Where are all of the non-lefty coffee shops? Let's hold Tim to it. Let's see some coffee shops with some gadsden flags. Who is with me?

[sandvvich]

"People know you work here, so you have to follow our rules even when off the clock"

-The ASM at work today

[sandvvich]

Regret