Week Four Recap
I don’t know what to say. This week my partner whom I live with announced he was leaving me. Although looking back on it, I now realize it shouldn’t have been such a shock, I was not prepared for this. It has been truly devastating. I did not run this last week. After the initial announcement, I packed my things, called out of work and drove eight hours home to be with my family and friends for a few days. It might seem drastic, but the time away to process things has been very beneficial. I always thought I would move away if he left me. I always thought it would be one of the worst things that could happen to me. I now know that to be untrue. It happened and I’m ok. I’ve never been so thankful for the friends in my life. Over the last few days I’ve realized that I have evolved into someone I don’t know in this relationship. I somehow lost my sense of self, my individuality, my direction and my self-respect. Although the pain of this loss is great, it feels almost wonderful to be emotionally independent again and standing on my own two feet. I was unhappy in this relationship yet instead of admitting that, I blamed myself and naturally my self-esteem tanked. It created an environment in which the relationship was both the problem and the cause.
I signed up for the marathon finally. I had been procrastinating on it. I also signed up to take the GRE and intend to finish my program this summer. The sense of dread I had about applying to vet school during the relationship has now vanished. I am free to apply and go where I like without having to sacrifice my dreams for someone else’s. I only hope I can learn from this mistake and prevent it from happening again. Maybe the answer is to never love someone else harder than I love myself, as stupid as that sounds.











