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vampires have been drinking human blood for centuries they don’t give a fuck about guys on eight different antidepressants. they were sucking on asbestos factory workers
The absolutely hilarity of imagining some older vampires hectoring younger ones. “Back in my day, I had to drink blood with radium in it and I liked it! We glowed in the damn dark for weeks!”
When you’re an archaeologist with a set schedule, sometimes people really get to understand who you are
When I dug in France I always got a croissant at 0520 from the same exact place in Échemines. A week in, they had one lying on the counter for me by the time I walked in. By the second week I got the exact amount I’d pay in hand when I walked in, because they’d reliably have it ready. I made sure to tell the owners that I wasn’t returning on my last day of the dig.
I may mention that every time I ordered in French. On my last day the owners gave me hugs and kindly told me to never speak in French again
They had your order ready so they wouldn’t have to hear you speak French 🤣
OH, MOTHERFUCKER
My mom just told me you’re not a woman until you get blood on nearly every pair of pants you love. I was like, “what if you don’t have periods?” And she said “I didn’t say it had to be your own.”
I thought this was going to be cissexist and I was pleasantly surprised.
IT’S BECAUSE THEY’RE FRED & DAPHNE
FUCK YOU AND YOUR BITTER JEALOUS LONELINESS HOWARD STERN
YES SO GOOD!!!!!
And she will be a completely different woman, but that’s alright.
Most folks with this guy’s mindset will go far in life.
I’m still proud of the fact that a couple of years ago, I tweeted to Sarah Michelle Gellar and asked if Stern had paid up on his bet. To my great surprise, she actually replied and said he hadn’t and he owed them money. 😂😂
Reblog for Fred and Daphne to get their money
Can we talk about these precious babies that embody Black girl magic 🙌🏾
I think my dad was a caddy for Ginger Howard when she came to play a charity game in our area. He loved being her caddy! Says she’s one of the sweetest people he’s ever met and got one hell of a swing.
THEY JUST KEEP JUMPING ON THE COUNTER. AND CRAWLING UP HER LEG. THIS IS THE GREATEST PROBLEM YOU COULD EVER HAVE
This is both adorable and stressful to watch. Damn it, kittens, be good! Food’s coming!
OH MY GOD SHE NAMED ONE OF HER CATS OBAMA
I love that kittens are gently placed on the ground… whereas adult cats, because they should know better (and are undoubtedly better at landing on their feet) are just… flung.
Oh my god I love this
I love that the kittens continue climbing her even after she steps away from the food - the goal is no longer ‘get to food’ it is ‘climb the human’!
UNDER SEIGE!!
Goals. Somewhat.
Astronaut tweets
from what ive seen former bronies either become lgbt and cool people to be around or evil unadulterated fascists absolutely no inbetween
that makes a lot of sense actually
I work at a daycare with infants.
One of our baby girls is fat, in the 99th percentile for her age. She is super cute and sweet. Lately, she has been sick with various breathing issues, so she has been reluctant to take her bottles. Normally, she’ll take 4 ounces of formula at lunch and 8 ounces in the afternoon. Today, I was lucky to get to her take 5 all day.
There was a substitute covering a lunch break in my classroom today. We emphasized to her that we need to keep trying to get the baby to drink her bottle until she finished it. She said, “Why are you guys so worried about taking her bottle?”
My coworker replied, “That’s where all her nutrients are. She needs the nutrients and the water.”
To which the substitute replied, “But she’s so fat. She doesn’t need it.”
Thin privilege is a small, pretty baby getting better childcare because the caretaker doesn’t think she’s too fat to be allowed to eat.
This reminds me of a cousin of mine who ended up with her kids being taken away from her by social services for a number of reasons but mostly for nearly killing her baby daughter. How?
By starving her. She insisted that her baby was ‘too fat’ and had an aim to remove any and all ‘chubbyness’ so her baby would be thin. She’d already been warned by her doctor about the baby not getting enough food, but insisted she knew best.
After several months of this her baby passed out cold one day and was rushed into hospital where the doctors found her to have severe malnutrition, a low body temperature and low pulse rate. They asked my cousin what she’d been feeding her daughter and she said “one bottle of skimmed milk a day. I don’t want her growing up fat.”
Even after nearly killing her daughter my cousin maintained her view that fat = bad and ended up with all her kids taken from her because she was starving them and neglecting them.
When your fatphobia leads you to starving your own children then you’ve got serious problems.
(Note. She still, to this day, maintains the view that she was right and the doctors were wrong. “They just want fat kids so they can keep employed treating them for all those diseases that being fat causes.” = her actual words.)
My mom had me dieting with her when I was eleven. She had me eating less than 600 calories a day because she was worried I was going to “get huge.” She even grounded me once because she found out my friends were bringing me lunches! I ended up passing out, going to the ER, and getting two IVs at once BC I was so goddamn dehydrated. Soooooo surprised they didn’t call child services… And looking back, this was the root of my anorexia. I’m nearly 22 and still fighting it. Please don’t starve your fucking children.
For fucks sake babies are SUPPOSED to be fat, what is wrong with people? It’s just stored energy, and growing children need stored energy - an 11 year old is just about to hit some major growing years. Damn.
Fatphobia
Is
Real
and it kills
This is no joke. people will literally starve their own babies cause they don’t want them getting fat. A parent brought in their six month old baby who was having breathing issues and kept getting sick. the parent was asked if the baby was eating regularly and the parent straight up told the doctor that they only feed the baby once a day. ONCE A DAY. A FUCKING BABY. they even had the nerve to say because they didn’t want the baby to get fat. people like this are real. they would rather have a dead baby than a fat one.
My youngest son is a very big boy and has been since he was born. When he was 10 months old I took him for his well-baby check and vaccinations. The nurse noted his weight and said, quite casually, “He is in the 99th percentile for weight so he is at risk for obesity. You may want to keep an eye on that.” I said, “He is exclusively breastfed. He refuses to eat any solids yet.” What did she expect me to do? What would it mean to “keep an eye on” an exclusively breastfed baby’s weight?
She backed off saying, ‘Well he looks fine!” – proving once again that weight bias is not truly about health – But I know many other parents who are not as informed as I am about weight science and size diversity would react to this interaction by policing their child’s food intake, if not as an infant, then when he was an older child. This is exactly the type of seemingly-inconsequential interaction that starts the ball rolling on a lifetime of dieting, disordered eating, negative body image, and weight-based abuse for too many fat people.
Years later when he was five, another doctor measured his weight and height and commented that he is off the charts on both, but “at least he is in proportion.” And if he was not “in proportion,” I am sure I would have been advised once again to “watch his weight.”
I no longer allow healthcare providers to weight my children unless it is absolutely medically necessary. They are unable to control their weight talk, which is a known harm for children.
We need to completely eliminate weight talk from medicine, especially when it comes to children. Even the smallest exposure can have terrible consequences.
A friend from college had been going to the doctor because she was having trouble breathing. She was told to lose weight. Over the course of several years, she went back to the doctors time and time again, telling them that she’d been sticking to the diet but because of her breathing problems she had been unable to even walk for more than 20 minutes at a time. The doctor got her into an exercise programme and told her that she just needed to really try to lose weight because that was clearly the reason for her breathing problems. By the time they found the tumour on her lungs, it was inoperable. She only lived three months after diagnosis. She was 25. She’d had the tumour for over five years. The doctor was so focused on the fact that my friend was “fat”, that they refused to look for any underlying cause. They killed her.
Weight-first treatment KILLS. Fatphobia KILLS.
I have 2 scary stories to share about fatphobic doctors & parents harming their childs/patients’ health:
1. The 4 years old daughter of a friend of mine came to our house to spend the weekend. She gave me a letter from her mom that said that the child was in a glutenfree diet because she was getting ‘awfully fat’ when eating cookies or bread (my celiac ass; who gets dhiarrea and loses a scary amount of weight whenever I eat something with gluten was like ’???’).
You can bet that I went to the supermarket with the kid and told her ‘go & take whatever you feel like eating’ and the poor child came back smiling with her arms full of biscuits and cupcakes.
She didn’t got sick (as a celiac would get) and told me later that she hated the diet her mother made her follow; because her cousins didn’t had to pass through that.
And what’s the scariest thing about this story? Her mother was a NURSE. A fucking nurse who didn’t have a clue of the harm that she was doing to her daughter’s body!
2. My little sister started to feel fatigued and dizzy at 9 years old. She felt nauseated at the sight of food and had abdominal pain that increased with physical activity.
Mom got her to the ER and the doctor dismissed it saying: ‘she’s fat and probably is feeling ill after eating too much burgers, get her to make some exercise and she will be better in no time’.My mom didn’t felt ok with the diagnosis and took my sister with a second doctor who also told her that ‘the child was just fat’.
My sister’s skin was starting to get yellow as the days passed and the abdominal pain was getting awful so my mom (heaven bless her!) got her to the ER for the third time:
SHE HAD STAGE 4 HEPATITIS AND WAS ABOUT TO DIE.
She survived after a long and painful recovery who involved being in bed for a whole year (remember that we’re speaking of a 9 years old child). Luckily they saved her liver and she didn’t went through a transplant… but let this sink:
If it weren’t for my mother, fatphobia would have killed her. Fatphobia kills kids and teenagers, fatphobia kills inocent people everyday. It treats human beings as lesser than others and hurts them in their most vulnerable times.
It’s a real shame that we all have so much stories to share about this issue. A REAL SHAME.
Future doctors, interns, and residents following me:
FUCKING TAKE NOTE OF THIS!
Don’t let bias against your fat patients kill them!
(#and this is just when we actually go to the doctor and tell them we have problems #how many of us just give up #or won’t mention anything that seems like too much of a ‘fat’ problem)
i’d really like my thin followers to reblog this if you can. fat people are already here for each other, we need you guys to help us out too. this is something i never see anyone actually talking about in-depth, and it’s disappointing. be there for your fat siblings, too.
I want to add some positivity to this post if y'all don’t mind.
I have always been really lucky with doctors. The doctor I had for the majority of my childhood that I remember never once pressured me to lose weight. If I went in with a something that could be link to my weight they might mention it, but the doctor never looked at the fact that I was overweight and mentioned it. I once went in and was diagnosed with heartburn (how I missed the signs and needed to see a doctor is beyond me xD) and after going through everything, she looked at me and said “losing weight has been known to decrease heartburn, but medication can do the same. It’s your choice what treatment path you take.
When I moved as an adult and got a new doctor, the second time I went to see him, I asked him about my blood work he ordered and that I was concerned about my health in relation to my weight and he asked me why. His words, as I remember them, were “Yes, you should strive for a more active lifestyle that you can manage, but from your blood work, it looks like you eat a fairly balanced diet. Clearly you eat either more calories, but your blood work is healthy, and that’s what I am concern about.”
Lastly, I have a psychiatrist who is amazing. We have spoken on my weight in regards to my mental health and I jokingly asked him if he was going to tell me to work out more like one of my other psychiatrist and he sat forward, and said (again, in the way I remember them) “why? I might tell you to go outside and go for a walk, because being outside and a simple walk is good for you and something you can manage. I am not in the field of deciding if you need to work out and neither are they.”
Fatphobia is a real thing, but you don’t have to be stuck with doctors like that. I am lucky and found most of these doctors on my first try and they always put my health first. The first two have recommended weight loss as a way for me to be happy but both said, ultimately, my blood work showed me to be fairly healthy (no high blood pressure or high blood sugar, no risk for diabetes).
Can someone give us some good advance on how to tell if one is too thin/fat to be unhealthy? Like if it’s not about weight or the body look (of course I know it’s not entirely true, like BMI is not THAT relavent to healthy/unhealthy but) then what should be the correct sign of being healthy or not regarding your body’s need being too much/less?
The truth is, there is no one way to be healthy. You can literally be a marathon runner and drop dead of a heart attack. Happens regularly.
If YOUR health matters TO YOU, then do some experimenting and figure out how YOUR body works best. What makes YOU feel good in YOUR body? Do some research on and then talk to your doctor about something called “metabolic health” – basically the idea that if your heart rate, blood pressure, A1C, cholesterol, and other “numbers” are good, then you’re “metabolically healthy”. But remember that people who have “good” numbers can have other health problems, too, and you can have some “bad” numbers and still be pretty healthy. Do some research on “Health at every size”, too. Consider the idea of “health” in the context of chronic illness, mental illness, and disability, too. Are you “healthy” if you have chronic migraines, depression, or scoliosis, but still do well by other measures? How about asthma? Or diabetes, in fact?
There are lots of ways to be healthy or unhealthy. It’s not a straightforward thing, or a single thing.
And it sure as shit doesn’t show from the outside. You absolutely cannot look at another human being and know that they are healthy or unhealthy.
Nor is the health of any other human being in the entire world your business unless they invite you to make it their business. Yes, even your family members. (The exception is your own minor children. Adults who have become unable to take care of themselves and for whose health you are responsible have, presumably, asked you or authorized you to make their health your business.)
Do not assume that there is ANY weight that is “too thin” or “too fat” to be healthy. Find a weight that works for you, both in that you can maintain it without doing things that will negatively impact your metabolic health (like dieting or overexercising, neither of which is good for you and neither of which works to keep your weight down long term, and both of which can actually CAUSE WEIGHT GAIN long term, which leads to yo-yo dieting or weight cycling, which is very bad for your metabolic health long term) OR your mental and emotional health (by, say, causing you lots of anxiety), AND that feels healthy. Because when your body works the best it can for you, you can feel that.
And, again, don’t fucking worry about anybody’s body but yours. Don’t listen to people who try to make your health their business without your invitation, and don’t listen to people who tell you that your body ought to conform to some standard they have in their heads.
And finally, you have no responsibility or duty to anyone to be healthy, and you are not worth more or less as a human being based on your health. You are not bad if you are unhealthy or good if you are healthy. You’re a person, and that’s enough.
TLDR: Health is not one thing. There are many dimensions to and kinds of health. You can be healthy at whatever size you are (and that’s good, because there’s not a lot you can do to change your size in the long term, at least not to get smaller). Don’t worry about anybody’s health but your own. You are not bad if you aren’t healthy.
I went to the doctor to get the results of some bloodwork. The woman I saw was a floater; I'd never seen her before. She immediately goes on about how I'm surely diabetic, my teeth are awful, and bullies me into a glucose tolerance test. She'd add a "hmm?" to every sentence.
My result was totally normal.
I told my regular GP the next time I saw her. She hit the roof, and that woman hasn't been back.
I've had men bring it up a lot more than women.
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The clam before the storm
What an aesthetically pleasing meme.
I think this is it. My aesthetic. The sea, a beautiful sky, and a pun.
Be your own daddy, make your own sugar.
These kinds of responses are my FAVORITE. Some examples to answers to this question I have heard:
1.
“Okay, and who’s the president?”
“Obama, no wait, shit *vehemently* fuck, I hate him… what’s his name…”
“It’s okay, you know who he is.”
2.
“Who’s the president?”
“*drunkenly angry and confused* ..uhhhhhhh…Orange… damn it what’s the fuck’s name….
“Yup, good enough.”
3.
“And who’s the president,”
“Not fuckin’ Obama!”
“I feel ya.”
4.
“Who’s the president- wait, nevermind you’re from Korea you said, right? So who’s-“
“Everybody knows that Trump-bitch.”
“Oh, well, alright then.”
5. (My personal favorite)
“Who’s the president?”
“Ew.”
“Good enough.”
Big boy jump!
A group of Aboriginal women from NSW are pleading with a property developer not to go ahead with a housing development located 20 metres from a sacred cave.
the Butterfly Cave is a sacred place where women from this indigenous community conduct ceremony, pray, and pass knowledge down to young women and girls; sign this petition to support their fight to protect it!
Please sign the petition, (linked in the article) the nsw government needs to step in to protect this indiginous women’s space.
I signed. Please do the same and then share!
If anyone wants to send this to MPs, I think Sarah Hanson-Young and Jenny Leong would listen.
it’s interesting learning which homophobic ideas are confusing and unfamiliar to the next generation. for example, every once in a while i’ll see a post going around expressing tittering surprise at someone’s claim that gay men have hundreds of sexual partners in their lifetimes. while these posts often have a snappy comeback attached, they send a shiver down my spine because i remember when those claims were common, when you’d see them on the news or read them in your study bible. and they were deployed with a specific purpose — to convince you not just that gay men were disgusting and pathological, but that they deserved to die from AIDS. i saw another post laughing at the outlandish idea that gay men eroticize and worship death, but that too was a standard line, part and parcel of this propaganda with the goal of dehumanizing gay men as they died by the thousands with little intervention from mainstream society.
which is not to say that not knowing this is your fault, or that i don’t understand. i’ll never forget sitting in a classroom with my high school gsa, all five of us, watching a documentary on depictions of gay and bi people in media (off the straight and narrow [pdf transcript] — a worthwhile watch if your school library has it) when the narrator mentioned “the stereotype of the gay psycho killer.” we burst into giggles — how ridiculous! — then turned to our gay faculty advisors and saw their pale, pained faces as they told us “no, really. that was real” and we realized that what we’d been laughing at was the stuff of their lives.
it’s moving and inspiring to see a new generation of kids growing up without encountering these ideas. it’s a good thing. but at the same time, we have to pass on the knowledge of this pain, so we’re not caught unawares when those who hate us come back with the oldest tricks in the book.
Even in the 90’s I met people who believed, with the utmost sincerity and a sense of sheer terror, that gay people were agents of Satan who chose to become gay so they could deliberately spread STD’s, deliberately die of AIDs as part of their “fetish” and deliberately offend god into accelerating the end of the world. This does sound like absurd cartoonish nonsense to most people just a little younger than me but I heard it and worse growing up. Millions of people completely, totally believed that kind of thing with the most dire certainty. Today’s lizardman hollow earth anti-vaccine theories actually kind of pale in comparison.
That is what LGBT people were up against not long ago and the remnants of that fantastical-sounding hysteria and fanaticism are not only still here but regaining power again in the U.S. pretty rapidly.
…and I don’t think people should forget that for all I just described and all OP just described, the hatred for trans people was several times worse. Their very existence was treated as UNSPEAKABLE by even the Satanic HIV Apocalypse theorists. This is why it’s so bizarre and ridiculous to see people today whining about “PC culture” like that’s the problem, like people who were condemned as loathsome hellspawn within most of their own lifetimes somehow have it “too good” practically overnight.
do you have any idea what the AIDS funerals were like back then
I will harp on this until the day I die. It’s not information that people have nowadays both because it’s not really needed - thank GOD - and it’s been erased - not so cool.
pastors would take payment to perform the ceremony and then not show up. crematoriums would sometimes refuse to handle the bodies; funeral homes were no better, and my dad once walked in on a mortician dumping rubbing alcohol all over himself after he’d BEEN IN THE SAME ROOM as the body of one of my father’s dead friends. the funerals were held in people’s basements, the very very few churches at funeral homes willing, meeting halls, and in the homes of lesbians, who were some of the most steadfast allies during that time period. The few straight allies pitched in where they could – like that one woman who buried a lot of them herself, in her own cemetery, because their families wouldn’t come claim the bodies – but it was awful.
my dad was a reformed catholic but he knew the words and twice he had to perform the funerals to lay these people to rest because he was the most qualified. I stood next to him as he tried not to cry over his dead friends and to let them rest in peace. I watched my mother, at the back of wherever she was, quietly sobbing, and her lesbian friends who had ACTUALLY watched the person in question die, still comforting her.
I got told by other adults that my entire family was going to hell because we deigned to care for queer people (and my dad especially, as a nurse, deigned to “waste” his knowledge and time and energy on easing suffering).
I was six years old. Freddie Mercury hadn’t even died yet.
recently a friend and I formed a queer social group/activism group and some older gay men came. And they cried, because, and I quote
“This is how it started, back then. we just got together, ten or twelve of us, and decided we were going to do something about it. And we made it out, despite everything, despite AIDS, despite the stigma. And you will too.”
And I had to respond, because I was little, but I was THERE for that, and I grabbed his hands and told him that his history is our history and we need to learn it.
we need to remember. the dead, the living, and their stories.
if you know an older queer person, inquire if they’d be interested in writing down their memoirs. If they’re not writers but want to tell the story, hit me up – I am, and I am absolutely willing to do a living memory.
they’re the only history books we have.
THEY ARE THE ONLY HISTORY BOOKS WE HAVE! It’s so important to record them at last.
Because lgbt+ history hasn’t been recorded, nor told forward by others. What we learn we learn from morgues, criminal records etc. Only ‘unlucky’ persons have been recorded in any ways and most of happy couples, lives and tales have been lost to history as they were not spoken about.
okay listen, i get what you guys are saying about the importance of listening to older lgbt people, obviously, that’s very right!
but you guys gotta know… they are NOT “the only history books we have.” because… we have actual history books. just because they are rarely taught in schools does not mean they don’t exist!
i’ve been keeping a list of all the lgbt books i want to read or reread, which are mostly history, and it is, at this moment, 239 books long. and that’s excluding quite a few that i was less interested in.
obviously, it can’t cover everything; obviously, it is skewed toward white american experiences; obviously, we should always be supplementing it by talking to older people in our community as much as we can. but it does us no favors whatsoever to pretend that all the knowledge in these books is lost to history, existing only in individuals’ minds, when actually so many people have taken great pains to write it down and make it available for us to explore!
so yes, meet older people and talk to them and take them seriously! but also please, i beg of you, read a book.
p.s. a note because i regret not making this clear enough in my original post: there is absolutely nothing wrong with gay men having many consenting sexual partners! homophobes’ statistics are obviously falsified for bigoted purposes, but that doesn’t mean those gay men who do have large numbers of partners are any less deserving of dignity and life, and they too deserve our defense.
I agree with the above, but also if you are someone who wants to record history or hear more oral histories there are a few oral history archives dedicated to doing this already! It’s possible to engage in that history right now:
Here are all the transcripts for the NYC Trans Oral History Project
Here’s the ACT UP oral History Project which has videos and transcripts
Here’s a list of a bunch of known oral history projects
And this is the podcast Making Gay History, which is taped interviews done for the book of the same name (with a bit of context added beforehand)
How to Survive a Plague is on that list. It was a documentary first and uses archive footage edited in chronological order. I still think it’s one of the most effective and moving documentaries I have ever seen.
The book was also amazing and awful. It was the first book in a long time that took me longer than a day to read. It was very informative and honestly tragic and it took a lot of stops to get through reading all of it. Most of it I already knew about in general, because of some of the groups I’ve been a part of, but every once in awhile something specific would just be a complete gut-punch. Someone mentioned funeral homes further up, and this was something I will always think about because of that book. I went into reading it knowing that funeral homes would refuse to take the bodies of AIDS patients. What I didn’t realize was that, during the epidemic, only one funeral home in the entirety of New York City was taking bodies of people with AIDS and only then doing it in secret.
History is out there. Find it. Learn it. We cannot forget what happened.
When I was twenty it so happened that my community service corps was involved in the laying-out of the AIDS quilt, which was going around the country as an exhibit, and our job was to unfold and carefully set together the pieces, including doing so on camera during the opening. I literally cannot even read about the AIDS epidemic without crying. It was a happenstance that I was part of this but I was immediately and deeply aware that this was part of my history and heritage as a member of this community, and it is so horrifying and painful and chilling to see it laid out like that, I have no words for it. Read, watch, listen, however you prefer to do it, but learn. Learn about the history. So many people are gone. Learn about the history.
If you younger folks don't know about the AIDS quilt, look it up.
You should also learn how the US government (read: Reagan) denied funding for the research for ages, which crippled organisations that wanted to study and lessen the disease.
Nancy Reagan (also a vile human) denied old friend Rock Hudson the chance to get treated in France, where they had been making more progress.
