IT IS a situation when people keep talking about it and you keep dismissing it.
That’s part of why this conversation keeps happening in the first place, because some people are trying to express discomfort or frustration, and instead of that being acknowledged, it gets brushed off as entitlement or ignorance.
I think there’s also been a misunderstanding about what I was actually trying to say, so I want to clarify calmly instead of this turning into something more heated than it needs to be. I wasn’t arguing that asexual characters can’t ever be portrayed in suggestive or sexual ways, and I wasn’t trying to “cancel” anyone or claim that doing so is inherently wrong.
My point was about a broader pattern, that many asexual or asexual coded characters often end up primarily sexualized by fandom spaces, which can make it harder to find representation that reflects other experiences within the asexual spectrum.
Asexuality being a spectrum is exactly why I brought this up.
Some asexual people are sex repulsed, some are neutral, some are favorable, and, some like me, are asexual and hypersexual at the same time. So I’m not coming from a place of “asexual means no sexuality ever.” I understand that nuance very well.
What I was expressing is that when one of the few characters people interpret as asexual is mostly represented in sexual ways, it can feel limiting for people who relate to other parts of the spectrum. That’s not me saying it shouldn’t exist, just that it can be frustrating when that becomes the dominant portrayal.
I also want to address tone, because this is where I personally felt irritated.
The wording in your post came across as dismissive and somewhat passive aggressive, especially when people who disagree were described as “uneducated,” “closed minded,” or acting “entitled.”
That kind of framing shuts down discussion instead of encouraging it.
People expressing discomfort aren’t necessarily trying to police you or control your art, they’re just sharing how certain portrayals affect them. Both things can exist at the same time: you can draw what you want, and others can talk about how it impacts representation.
The “just click off” argument is also something I don’t fully agree with. While it’s true people can scroll past content they don’t like, conversations about representation don’t stop existing just because someone disengages.
People discuss these things because representation matters to them personally, not because they want to dictate what others do. Acknowledging that doesn’t mean anyone is claiming ownership over a character, it just means different people connect to that character in different ways.
And this is where I felt the post became a bit problematic.
The argument leans heavily on “asexuality is a spectrum,” but then dismisses the perspectives of asexual people who feel differently about sexualized portrayals. If the spectrum includes a wide range of experiences, then those viewpoints are also part of it.
You don’t have to agree with them, and they don’t have to agree with you, but dismissing them outright contradicts the idea of acknowledging the spectrum in the first place.
I’m not trying to attack you, your art, or your intentions.
I’m explaining my perspective and why the tone of the post felt directed and frustrating. I’d rather keep this as a respectful disagreement instead of it turning into something hostile.
We can both acknowledge that asexuality is nuanced and that people within the community will naturally have different comfort levels and preferences, that’s kind of the entire point of calling it a spectrum in the first place..
I also want to address the parts that come across like you’re being targeted or attacked.
From what I’ve seen, most people aren’t trying to cancel you or say you’re not allowed to draw what you want.
They’re just expressing discomfort or talking about representation. That’s not the same thing as attacking you personally. Framing it like you’re being “slaughtered” or that people are trying to make it a crime makes the situation sound more hostile than it actually is, and it shifts the focus away from the actual discussion.
It’s completely fair for you to defend your art or explain your perspective, but when the conversation is framed as if you’re being unfairly persecuted, it can come off like the concerns themselves are being dismissed.
People sharing how something affects them isn’t them trying to control you, it’s just them participating in the discussion. Both sides can exist without either one being treated like the villain..💀 Especially when you're aware of the type of followers you, have.
