Quick rant/ appreciation for dndads season 3. Brief but undetailed mentions of violence
Coming from a bad relationship, I’m so glad I’m relistening to season three. It started airing when I was with my ex and…. I feel blind now.
Trout of the past is an episode I remember listening to clear as day when it first came out. My ex was at work. He had to stay late that day. I was cleaning his kitchen, listening to the episode. And I remember thinking “wow what a cool mechanic”. And that was really it.
On this relisten, there’s so much more. When I left my ex, he stalked and threatened my family and livelihood. I have persistent nightmares about him and what he would say and do. Trout of the past made me sob when relistening. When Tucker finds Trudy again and takes her, I realized just how real the episode was
I was born and socialized as a girl. I am no stranger to the dangers of men. But some level of cognitive dissonance seeped in, and I found myself thinking I would never end up like that. That I was a smart girl who wouldn’t fall for that sort of predation. I think the episode, in place of therapy which I should probably look into again, helped me come to terms with the persistent fear. I felt insane for how worried and cautious I had to be. While I can acknowledge it as fiction, trout of the past really helped with those feeling of imposter syndrome.
All this to say, true props to the dungeons and daddies team for showing the depravity of men like that, who are so single-minded and controlling, in such a beautiful and accurate way. I don’t know what the teams experiences are. I don’t know what research they did. But clearly the story resonated enough with someone there. And I hope one day they know just how strongly it resonates with some of us.
