CALLOUT FOR VILLAINKID
past urls: cul8erboy, aspdgary, mddrigby, transboyduncan, ftm-mal
warning for: threats, abuse, stalking, manipulation, brief nazism
hey guys. as you may know ive had to deal with my abusive ex stalking me.
but lets start off at the beginning - so when me and gary dated we were also in a polyamorous relationship with another person. we all skyped quite often and in one of the skype sessions near halloween - gary said he wanted to dress up as a nazi for halloween. Me and the other person kept telling him that wasnt at all right or good - that it was greatly disrespectful to all of the people that lost their lives due to people like that. But for some reason gary still didnt see what was wrong with that.
Gary was also horribly possessive and when my best friend posted “i love you!” @ me, gary made very disturbing posts about how he wanted to “gouge out his eyes” and “stab to death while crying”. Jealousy is one thing but this is on a whole new level of being creepy and disgusting. Wanting to harm my friends for publicly saying “i love you” to me is horrendous.
he claimed he was remorseful about his actions but i could still tell that he felt great disdain for my best friend and other members of my friend group because they were cautious about him
When we were dating he was also very manipulative and literally caused my health to go down because he made me stay up so much and every time i tried to go to bed he would basically make several posts about how hes so angry and “how dare i do something like that” so constantly being afraid of upsetting him i stayed up every night. And not only that but he knew that my friends didnt like him for my treating me badly, and threatening them - yet he kept trying to make me choose between him and them.
When i finally got the nerve to dump him - he kept saying he didnt understand why and i told him it was because he was being manipulative and just overall abusive. he kept claiming he had “no idea” he was acting that way and didnt know that he was hurting me. I kept telling him i didnt want to date him because my friends have literally told me that they were afraid that one day hes going to murder me or hurt me even worse than he already has. he kept saying that he would start going to therapy to get better and like a fool i believed him and i got back together with him a day later.
when i got back together with him he didnt treat me better at all and he did the same manipulative stuff he did the last time. the reason i stayed with him for such a long time was because he kept saying things like “youve made me better / because of you i dont feel bad for doing ____ anymore” i just didnt want to see him hurt but obviously i shouldve been looking out for myself instead.
gary often got mad at me for having friends that cheered me up when i was upset - one night i got too emotional and i started crying but as soon as my friend spammed me pictures of sunbears i felt better and gary didnt react well to that - he basically criticize me for not feeling better because of him.
He wanted me to be focusing on him 24/7 and if i didnt he would basically act like i did something so horrid i could never be forgiven.
after we broke up for the final time i decided to remake my blog so i could start off new without his goblin presence - but many, many months later i found out that he had found my blog and he had a very long list of all my mutuals/friends on his “block page” and just the fact that he had all of their urls was creepy because… if he had all of their urls - even changed and updated their urls from time to time, meant he was also stalking my friends blogs. And on his block page he had my url at the top saying that i was the abusive one and that i have been the one stalking him. But thats obviously false since i didnt even go on his old blog at all after the whole break up happened. Sure i vented tons about it but thats not a bad thing - its not malicious.
but the creepiest thing out of the “block page” was that he had my personal blog. That was something i never gave out publicly ive never made a single post announcing it. That personal blog was well. Obviously personal and just knowing that he was looking at it without my knowledge gives me the creeps.
Gary obviously hasnt changed since he still tries to act like he was the victim. Once i wouldnt let him abuse me anymore he was ready to get aggressive and try to make me feel bad for realizing what he was doing wasnt okay.
the purpose for this callout is to warn others about him. its obvious he isnt trying to become a better person since each moment hes confronted with his actions he claims he wasnt aware that he was hurting someone - he says hes sorry but his actions speak differently.
