I always get a little creeped out whenever someone says ‘lesbians love trans women the most!’ because much like gender roles themselves, it doesn’t feel natural to say, it feels enforced.
Like First bb, where are you getting these stats? The only real one I’ve seen cited is the one trans people complain about cause it revealed that even people who say TWAW were disproportionately unlikely to want to date them. Which again adds to this feeling of enforcement rather than integrity.
I was in a community store the other day that had a large LGBT art section. There was endless artwork praising and encouraging “transsexuality”, lots of top surgery scars, lists of famous trans activists, gratuitous and frankly offensive amount of the words fag/dyke. The only things in that space that actually had the words ‘lesbian’ was multiple different stickers saying variations of “lesbian dykes for trans rights” and “lesbians love the dolls” The slogans and designs felt soulless and insistent rather than something an actual lesbian would produce. Lesbians and women’s existence in that space was not permitted unless it was to promote someone more deserving.
the intense performative pressure of sex roles, and the tendency for those benefiting to make up stories of how people love those roles and are actually their biggest fans is something we have been aware of for centuries. Women are pressured similarly politically, with various groups either claiming they protect, or are endorsed by the women. Of course no one actually asks the women, at least not in a way that doesn’t ‘gently’ lead them to an answer.
When I hear that lesbians love trans people the most, I hear enforcement. I hear slogans. I hear justification. I an attempt to legitimise. I hear policing.
yup, yup, yup!! lesbians are not into trans women and are in fact becoming more outspoken against them. I was at a lesbian bar a few weeks ago, and the trans topic came up when started up a conversation with a group of women.
one women complained about how she hated being called a TERF for not wanting to date TIMs "like I support people n stuff, but listen I call myself a lesbian for a reason haha." everyone in the group agreed.
another woman complained about the amount of TIMs there and said if she had the money she'd make a space that was only for women. "I think it's cool as hell that everyone feels comfortable hanging around here, but I wish there was a place around here just for us real women." everyone in the group agreed.
I've said before, I live in an area that is known for being extremely trans friendly, I'm not in some red state. it would have been unthinkable to say shit like this out in the open just a few years ago. women are becoming fed up and they're feeling confident enough to talk about it.
so whenever I hear TIMs say "women and lesbians love trans women the most!" I have a hard time completely believing it. especially considering how much TIMs hate biological women and won't hesitate to threaten us with violence and doxxing if we step out of line. before I peaked I was briefly friends with a TIM who went into graphic detail about how he wanted to beat the shit out of an old coworker and sue her into poverty for getting him fired after she saw him in the women's restroom and reported him to their boss. this shit isn't a joke.
I even talked about my mom in an earlier post. she'll scream "TRANS RIGHTS ARE HUMAN RIGHTS" until her throat hurts at any political rally. but when it came down to her own child potentially medically transitioning a few years ago, she looked like she was about to faint and advised against it.
women do not love trans people, they were simply beaten into submitting and accommodating the desires of males because their livelihood was on the line if they didn't.
