can words have meanings again pls

22 • desisted • just an average dyke • radfem • pfp credit to its-terf-or-nothin • genuinely interested in having civil, respectful discussions with trans people and trans rights activists

[gendercriticalbutch]

hey, y’all can call me Bell

in my early 20’s, butch lesbian, neurodivergent, chronically ill, atheist, whatever. mostly been a lurker here on tumblr, this is my first time making an active account lol. this is a topic that’s become pretty personal to me over the years and i needed a space where i can vent and talk about this stuff with like minded people. feel free to ask me anything.

i heavily involved myself in trans activism for years, flip-flopped throughout my teens identifying as several different non-binary labels filled with internalized misogyny desperately wanting to be literally anything other than what i was: a gay woman. eventually i came to identify as a trans man, and called myself such for a little over 2 years.

i only socially transitioned, thank god. i sought out “gender affirming care,” but my experience with that was such a backwards, dogshit excuse for genuine healthcare that it peaked me. I go into a bit of detail about that whole experience here. i never went on testosterone and i thank myself every day for that.

i started questioning everything i’d been taught about gender ideology after my single appointment at that clinic. the rose-colored glasses were off. i started seeing all the misogyny and lies constantly spewed in the trans community, and eventually became radfem once i realized my own dysphoria was deeply rooted in internalized misogyny which i slowly unlearned and cured through lots of soul searching and therapy.

there are a lot of people in my life i care about who are trans/non-binary. we may disagree on a lot of things, but i’m cordial and respectful to all my trans friends and any trans people i happen to meet. i don’t support violence or discrimination of any kind to people just because of their gender identity.

so yah, that’s basically it. hi lol :p

[vintage-bentley]

I just saw a post about summer tips for mascs…and all the drawings either had binding tape, a binder, or double mastectomy scars. Half the advice was just about binders. Why has women’s gender non conformity become synonymous with hating our bodies? Why are mascs and butches being fed this narrative that to be masc or butch, they should be viewing their bodies negatively and getting cosmetic surgery?

[catrocketship]

[ceruleanheaven]

i need all the women who think that being called bitches is not that serious to have some self respect. accepting misogyny does not make you cool

[parkayquarts]

"what if someone regrets transitioning" if you are 18 or over in free country usa you can walk into any tattoo parlor and ask for a tattoo that will be on your body forever and ever and ever and they will give it to you with the understanding that if you dont like the result or you regret it later that's your fucking problem and not theirs

[botchulism]

There are also avenues to get tattoos removed. You don’t get shunned by the tattoo community for being vocal about regretting your tattoo. You also can’t get a tattoo in many places if you’re a minor, because if given the opportunity they would get a Hazbin Hotel tattoo or some shit, because kids are immature.

So yeah, I’m in favor of comparing tattoos to transitioning

[theshadowofthephoenix]

A tattoo has NO BEARING on your health. I have a tattoo I got at 18 that I’m not so big on anymore. But that’s all it is. A tattoo is not surgery. It’s not something that could potentially disable me. It can’t affect my fertility. It won’t change my voice, my hair growth pattern or my fat distribution. It can’t cause me pain.

I can cover up an old tattoo. You can’t ‘undo’ most aspects of physical transition. You are comparing apples and oranges and it shows how very little you understand what happens to the human body during transition.

[maryscully]

term terf should not exist, it is a dogwhistle to shame women who actually care about women's liberation

also, terf is not really a thing cause radfem is inherently gender critical

the correct term would be merf - male exclusionary radical feminist

[capricorn-season]

[parkayquarts]

"what if someone regrets transitioning" if you are 18 or over in free country usa you can walk into any tattoo parlor and ask for a tattoo that will be on your body forever and ever and ever and they will give it to you with the understanding that if you dont like the result or you regret it later that's your fucking problem and not theirs

[botchulism]

There are also avenues to get tattoos removed. You don’t get shunned by the tattoo community for being vocal about regretting your tattoo. You also can’t get a tattoo in many places if you’re a minor, because if given the opportunity they would get a Hazbin Hotel tattoo or some shit, because kids are immature.

So yeah, I’m in favor of comparing tattoos to transitioning

[happibeans]

Men in the Right:

Ladies, submission to men is natural order. ☝️

Men in the Left:

Ladies, submission to men is empowering! ✊

[tra-archive]

“OP is a terf!!”

Well, obviously. TERFs are the only women actually willing to call out both conservative and liberal men. Two sides of the same misogynist coin.

[drbased]

So something I theorised several years ago is that 'gross out humour' primes boys into sexual harassment of girls. So much 'gross out humour' is directed at males, boys especially, and they learn from a young age to view their various bodily fluids (snot, earwax etc.) as not just a source of comedy but a means by which to terrorise girls, who are likewise primed to be 'above' that kind of low-brow comedy. Images of boys behaving grossly with girls responding with 'EW' are commonplace across media and especially were common in the 90s and 2000s. Even earlier than that, 'mooning' was seen as a harmless silly prank committed by boys - and I think it's notable that how despite supposed homosexual fears of anal sex, males have been able to turn a vulnerable area into a tool of harassment.

It's also worth noting here that this 'gross out humour' has been used as an explicit sexual and pornographic dogwhistle in various nickelodeon shows. Back when I first thought about this, the scandal had not been exposed yet, and it supports my theory, providing the 'missing link' so to speak between childhood gross-out humour and adult sexual harassment involving bodily fluids.

[servin-terf-haha]

[pastabot]

today is not my birthday

[pastabot]

reblog if your birthday is not today

[watermelinoe]

good evening, ladies and penis-owners

[occasionaltmblrforafreehero]

[oneblackbraid]

women and children of women

[dawnthekitty]

Women and penis creatures.

[chronicillnesshumor-deactivated]

Doctors are like: ughhhhh. You're confusing. Come back if you die

[barbievspredator]

Also doctors: Have you tried to get pregnant about it?

I diagnose you with fat. Come back when you are not fat.

Ma'am you don't have broken bones it's just anxiety.

Notes: patient asked for anesthesia for her open heart surgery. It's obviously drug-seeking behaviour.

[opinionatedlesbian]

to add onto my previous post, you cannot be a radical feminist, or even a feminist in general, if you do not support abortion as that is a conservative and misogynistic viewpoint and completely anti women's rights and autonomy. Do not pretend to be a person for women's rights when you're clearly not.

[dilftanger]

men are allowed to like the thing itself, while women can only like the aesthetics and the lifestyle and the shallowest parts of the thing. and this is super good and feminist and empowering and never actually think critically about any of this that’s too hard it’s literally not that deep!

[oncelerfucker69-deactivated2019]

I hate how “daddy issues” is used to call women crazy and un-datable rather than bring up the fact so many fathers are abusing their daughters to the point of emotional breakdown

[dont-rain-on-my-pride-parade]

And then men turn it into a fetish. “Daddy issues” is something hot and desirable in a partner. There’s an innate evil to thinking mental trauma from child abuse is sexy