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Hi! Thankyou for all your help. I have some troubles. My boyfriend and i have been together for a year, and we are really close but lately he and i have been realising i get really clingy. He has spoken to me about needing some space but i don't know how. I see him all day and i expect him to text me later on at night. I also check fb to see when he was on, so i know that he is ignoring me. It makes me upset, but i don't know how to stop all of this. I'm trying so hard, but i still do it :(

Go out & do things by yourself. Go to the beach by yourself, go shopping by yourself. You also need your own time, you will learn to appreciate your own time & space for yourself. I think it's a very common thing for males to want space, respect that for him because you'd also want your own time too. Make sure you keep yourself busy when you're away from him so you're not relying on his company. It's not about you pulling yourself away from him, it's about having your own time too, you will also appreciate your time together more. Let us know how this all goes Jas x

Hi dolly Doctor is it normal to have a period for 6 days because on night i put pad in there was nothing i thought it stooped then i went to the toilet and wiped my vagina there was blood on it is this normal? Lily

Hey there, this is absolutely normal! It could just be that you have had a stressful cycle and it has made your period slightly irregular. It could also have something to do with diet and the amount of water you drink. Don’t stress though, definitely nothing serious (:

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Hey girls, So I was just wondering what I should do if I have a crush on somebody that I'm not close friends with and don't really talk to much? I'm really shy and I kind of want to become closer friends with him. Thanks! X

Hey babe!So I was in this exact situation a few months back, and what I did actually worked surprisingly haha so hopefully it works for you. I mean what I did isn’t rocket science obviously, but hopefully it gives you the confidence to put yourself out there. There’s no way to do anything about a crush on someone you don’t talk to much without making yourself known to him, so that means you gotta put yourself on his radar. I met my guy out on the town, and I knew him through friends so I chatted to them about him first, sussed him out, and he had his snapchat name on instagram so I added him on there. I mean don’t full on go adding him on everything and talking to him on every social media site or anything, but deff strike up a convo somehow! It’s the only way a friendship will form, and most people are up for a convo with someone they know but don’t really know so just make sure you’re friendly, open, and yourself and I’m sure the convo will flow. I mean obviously things can progress from there or maybe they don’t but honestly all you can do is make yourself known to him, strategically hang out with the same people/at the same places as he does and hopefully a friendship (or something more) will form! Things can’t be forced, it took my guy 3 months to ask for my number after we’d been chatting on snapchat haha, so give it time :)Good luck xxxxHan

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Hey just wanted to say I know that I absolutely love ur blog and how you became honest with everyone which u did not have to do. Telling the truth about this blog and you as a person giving advice has been one of the biggest inspirations for me. You have given me so much usefull advice in which has changed and molded me into the person I am today. You should be proud of what you do on here, u make girls feel important and teach them that its ok to be who u are. Anyway THANK YOU for ur dedication

THANK YOU for this message! Without beautiful compassionate souls like you, I wouldn't keep up this blog. Your words truly mean more than you think they do, just know you've made a huge difference to how I feel and you can sleep easy tonight knowing you've done a good deed. Ask me anything anytime gorgeous! Xxx Lu

Didn't you feel like an asshole whilst every second person was congratulating you on your 'pregnancy'? Jesus that's messed up. You must have a very unusual mind. Not like any other I've ever seen on this website. However I appreciate what you do, and how much time you take out to help people. I could never handle running this blog haha. X

Well thank you for your honesty, I appreciate that. Of course I felt like an asshole, and that's what led me to eventually coming clean. You may not have experienced anything similar in your life, but it's true that once you create a lie, it's a hundred times easier to keep weaving that web of lies than to untangle yourself from it altogether. That's no excuse though I know, just explaining I guess! Xx Lu

So I was speaking to this boy I knew through Fb and we'd been snapchatting each other for ages. A few weeks before we'd had an argument and had a break but we worked it out and every thing was so so much better. But then one day he just deletes me, ignores my texts/calls and just completely erased me. I can't help but feel hurt?? It was in November so I don't want for him to think I've been thinking about him all this time, but I really don't know whether to question him? Thanks girls xx

Hi hun!

Obviously it would've been easier to take it up with him as soon as it happened, because time really increases how tense or awkward a situation can be if you bring up an event from such time ago. But I feel that it is always important to be honest and have some sort of closure/answers when a relationship of any kind comes to an end.

I cannot say anything on the topic of what he was thinking or feeling because I do not now the situation at all, but I can tell you that if the opportunity presents itself, you should definitely sieze the moment to ask what went on and express how you felt about it. I can't guarantee you'll get answers, but at least getting it off your chest will release a bit of tension.

Em xxx

Help dolly! I went away on the summer holidays with my best friends family and all their family friends consisting of around 10 families. We went away for around 2 weeks, i began to grow a crush on one of the guys there and on the last day there he texted me telling he liked me, I told him I did too, we talked for about a week and then we stopped. We have a big reunion coming up with all the families, and my best friend can't make it and I'm really scared it's going to be awkward with the boy.

Hi there!

I have found that situations are always worse if you compose them in your head before going into them. It is so important that you let things take their course without the added pressure of your mind analysing it all first.

I am honestly the worst when it comes to this, because I always make up scenarios in my head before actually going into something and I'm nearly always wrong.

So my best piece of advice would be to reduce your thoughts on the issue, and go in with an open mind/heart, it will be awkward if you make it awkward. I also suggest that if it is tense-ish, you can always break the ice with something like god I feel so awkward, because chances are he will feel it too. Then you can relate to each other and take it from there.

Em xxx

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Hi Ally! I hope you are having an amazing day, I want you to know you are an amazing human being and also I would like some advice. I'm having trouble accepting myself, I'm not a party girl at all and I feel like I don't fit it a lot of the times. I crave adventure but other type like travelling and stuff and I just want some advice to accept who I am without feeling like I need to party and get drunk to fit in. Can you give me some advice please? Lots of love Xx

Hey anon! You actually sound just like me, so I’ll tell you exactly what I’d like to tell younger me.

You are perfect exactly as you are.

You do not have to be interested in things that you think other people are interested - half of them probably aren’t either.

The most important person in your life is you - and you are the only one who can decide what your self worth is.

You do not need to “fit in”. It’s 100% natural to want to be liked, it’s one of our fundamental desires as humans to connect with others, but to do so you do not need to change yourself. As you are right now, you are fully equipped to create friendships and relationships with others who have differing interests. More importantly, you’re also equipped to shine your true self through loud and proud, so brightly that you can then attract people who share your similar values.

A friend of mine once shared a poem with me that resonated so deeply I’ve had it practically memorised since.

“She had blue skin,And so did he.He kept it hidAnd so did she.They searched for blueTheir whole life through,Then passed right by-And never knew.”

In hiding who you are and using other identities as a mask in attempt to “fit in”, you’re missing opportunities to show the world the real you. I know it can seem scary, but I promise you are who you are for a reason, and there are so so many people out there who share the same love for adventure and distaste for alcohol (exhibit A!) and would love to be friends with you.

Don’t ever change who you are. Stand tall in your convictions, be free to embrace whatever interests, dreams and traits you have. Let the rest of us fall in love with the true, authentic, honest, unique, individual you.

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i'm really insecure about my "private parts" bc of my pubic hair. like i guess it's not thaaat bad but it makes me feel ugly and stuff idk. i try shaving but all it results in is ingrowns, discomfort and prickles, but i'm too shy/embarrassed to ask my mum if i can get waxed or lasered, and it's likely the only way i could get ahold of waxing strips or hair removal cream is through my family :((( i'm sooo embarrassed about it but i honestly fucking hate having ingrowns and hair there help

Hi lovely! Please don't stress out. Your body is yours to do whatever you want with, and you don't ever need to feel uncomfortable about wanting to change it. I know it may be embarrassing to ask your mum or your sister to get you some hair removal cream or book you an appointment for a wax, but after the first time you ask, you'll realise it's really not a big deal. In fact, your mum might be expecting you to ask sometime soon. Just remember that anyone you ask was in your position once upon a time or if not, can certainly understand the hesitation that comes with asking about something this personal for the first time. Your mum's first priority is always your happiness, so if you explain to her calmly that you would feel much happier with your body if you removed the hair down there, I'm sure she'll be happy to help you do so. Alternatively, you can go to the shops and buy anything you want yourself. I promise you that you'll need to get used to buying your own things at some stage, so why not start now? When you have to buy condoms or lube or anything medical for conditions down there, it's often simpler and easier to just buy it yourself - no questions asked. If you want to try shaving again, Google how to shave so you're sure you're doing it properly. You don't want to be using a very new or very old razor and need to shave in the direction that the hair grows. Hope this helps! Xx Lu

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months, lost my virginity to him. (He's my first boyfriend) I care about him a lot. This week he has gone real strange on me, he's been ignoring all my texts, snapchats and phone calls but can respond to everyone else. I've been in hospital all week for a condition I have and I can't move from my bed at all, he hasn't visited or called or asked if I'm okay. It just seems like he's going to dump me and I'm not sure what to do :(

Hi gorgeous! I'm sorry to hear you're unwell at the moment and even more sorry to read that you're not receiving the support you so need from your boyfriend. Quite frankly, I think you should be appalled that he hasn't responded to your calls/texts/messages; it would be rude enough if this were happening on your average day, but the fact that this is going on when you're ill in hospital is even worse. In a time when you need him most, he is unable to be there for you, in any capacity. I understand that two people in a relationship can grow apart, and at the moment it might be impossible to know what he's thinking or how he's feeling, but that doesn't excuse the fact that he's neglecting you and not showing you any care. If he has a problem and no longer wants to be with you, he has a responsibility to let you know, or if not, to simply be there for you as a friend. But leaving you in the dark like this, and not communicating openly with you, is unacceptable in my opinion. If I were you, I'd be expecting a lot more from someone I had spent so much time with and who I believed to care about me. I say this not to make you become extremely angry or upset, but to make you realise that this situation is in no way your fault, nor should you be worried about him breaking up with you. If I were treated this way, I would be the one doing the breaking up, and as soon as possible. Do you need someone like this in your life who isn't there for you when you need them most? Loving someone or caring about someone means you'd drop everything for them, that they're constantly on your mind, that you want to make them feel better when they're down. Stop making excuses for him if that's what you're doing. Stop being afraid of how you'll feel if you remove him from your life altogether. I promise you, being single and focusing on loving yourself and surrounding yourself with other family and friends who do truly love you is so much better than being in a relationship where you're not getting what you deserve. Look after yourself and eliminate anything toxic or worthless from your life. You need love and support most right now, not worry about someone who isn't worth that worry. Lots of love xxxx Lu

So I've followed you for a while now and I remember seeing you put on a picture of your baby 'Leo' when he was first born. Just wondering whose baby was that or did you get it from the internet? God I asked a question the other day about how Leo was doing!!! Crazy!! I'll always stick by you Lu, and I suppose I can see reason in what/why you did it xx

Ugh I feel so awful! It was a photo of my cousin's baby, her story kind of inspired the one I created on here (unplanned pregnancy, single mother). I'm really so sorry to have led you on, and thank you from the bottom of my heart for trying to be compassionate. Xx Lu

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Love does NOT fix mental illnesses. Just because someone has a good family, a love life, and the things they need does not mean they can’t have mental illness.

I know you probably get a lot of questions like this, but I was wondering how to get my best boy friend notice me as more than a friend? Like I think he knows that I like him more than a friend but whenever we joke about and I mention a physical feature (the other day I mentioned my boob size laughingly) and he went blank like he didn't even acknowledge what I said. I don't know what to do!!! Thanks for the help girls and keeping the blog amazing as ever!! Xxx

Hi lovely! My answer may not be what you were hoping to hear but I want to be honest with you here. If you're pretty sure that he knows you like him, and he hasn't shown you he feels the same way, then that's because he quite simply just wants to be friends. When you make comments like the one about your breast size, it's off-putting to him because he doesn't see you in that way and probably feels embarrassed and isn't sure what to say. If he had serious feelings about you, and you had made it clear you did too, he would take opportunities like that to flirt with you, or would have made a move on you by now. I hate to say this but there's not much you can do in this situation; you can't control people or make someone like you if that's just not how they're feeling. Don't take that personally or as an insult; I'm sure he appreciates how nice, interesting and beautiful you are, but just isn't attracted to you in a romantic/sexual way. If he just wants to continue being friends, there's nothing you can do to change that. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but it's my honest opinion! Xxx Lu

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