Rinai.Rindu

dalam sendu, terpaku rindu . dalam rinai, sapaku usai

[furiousgoldfish]

children of abusive parents: always trying to grow, using every opportunitiy to learn and change and emotionally develop, even tolerate abuse for the off-chance it will help them grow

abusive parents: growth? haven’t seen her how she doing. haven’t grown emotionally since age of 4 and have no plans scheduled.

[messages-to-my-past-self-deacti]

Or worse, the whole “You used to be such a good child! Nice, helpful… You were actually doing things! When did you go wrong, huh!? Why the hell did you want to ruin this for me!?”

[bedbugbiting]

My face is having uncontrollable spasms. Great. It hurts really, really, really bad.

I think part of why I have trouble explaining pain to the doctor is when they ask about the pain scale I always think “Well, if someone threw me down a flight of stairs right now or punched me a few times, it would definitely hurt a lot more” so I end up saying a low number. I was reading an article that said that “10” is the most commonly reported number and that is baffling to me. When I woke up from surgery with an 8" incision in my body and I could hardly even speak, I was in the most horrific pain of my life but I said “6” because I thought “Well, if you hit me in the stomach, it would be worse.”

[bomberqueen17]

I searched and searched for the post this graphic was from, and the OP deactivated, but I kept the graphic, because my BFF does the same thing, uses her imagination to come up with the worst pain she can imagine and pegs her “10″ there, and so is like, well, I’m conscious, so this must be a 5, and then the doctors don’t take her seriously. (And she then does things like driving herself to the hospital while in the process of giving birth. Probably should have called an ambulance for that one!)

So I found this and sent it to her. Because this is what they want to know: how badly is this pain affecting you? Not on a scale of “nothing” to “how I’d imagine it’d feel if bears were eating my still-living guts while I was on fire”. 

I hate reposting stuff, but I’ll never find that post again and OP is deactivated, so, here’s a repost. I can delete this later, i just wanted to get it to you and I can’t embed images in a chat or an ask. 

[derryderrydown]

This is possibly why it took several weeks to diagnose my fractured spine.

[petralemaitre]

Pain Scale transcription:

10 - I am in bed and I can’t move due to my pain. I need someone to take me to the emergency room because of my pain.

9 - My pain is all that I can think about. I can barely move or talk because of my pain.

8 - My pain is so severe that it is difficult to think of anything else. Talking and listening are difficult.

7 - I am in pain all the time. It keeps me from doing most activities.

6 - I think about my pain all of the time. I give up many activities because of my pain.

5 - I think about my pain most of the time. I cannot do some of the activities I need to do each day because of the pain.

4 - I am constantly aware of my pain but can continue most activities.

3 - My pain bothers me but I can ignore it most of the time.

2 - I have a low level of pain. I am aware of my pain only when I pay attention to it.

1 - My pain is hardly noticeable.

0 - I have no pain.

[airagorncharda]

It’s also really important to get this kind of scale to people who have chronic pain, because chronic pain drastically lowers your perception of how “bad” any kind of pain actually is, and yet something like this pain scale is extremely user friendly. 

For example, if someone asked me how much pain I’m in at any given time, I’d say hardly any, and yet I’m apparently at a chronic 2.5, and it only goes up from there depending on the day. 

There’s also a similarly useful “Fatigue Scale”

[jedijenkins]

I haven’t been below a 5 on this scale for 4 years 

[nerdgasrnz]

Here’s the fatigue scale

[sunny-day-sky]

Fatigue scale image desc:

10: can barely move; can’t talk

9: can barely move; can talk

8: can move, but can’t do much more than watch TV

7: can watch TV and play a game on my phone simultaneously

6: can do work on my computer lying in bed

5: can get around the house, but definitely couldn’t go out

4: can run a light errand

3: can get in my 10,000 steps, making my fitbit happy

2: can do three or more activities in a single day

1: going clubbing!

[eruvadhril]

See also the Mental Health Pain Scale by Graceful Patient:

Mental Health Pain Scale transcription:

MILD

1 - Everything is a-okay! There is absolutely nothing wrong. You’re probably cuddling a fluffy kitten right now. Enjoy!

2 - You’re a bit frustrated or disappointed, but you’re easily distracted and cheered up with a little effort.

3 - Things are bothering you, but you’re coping. You might be overtired or hungry. The emotional equivalent of a headache.

MODERATE

4 - Today is a bad day (or a few bad days). You still have the skills to get through it, but be gentle with yourself. Use self-care strategies.

5 - Your mental health is starting to impact on your everyday life. Easy things are becoming difficult. You should talk to your doctor.

6 - You can’t do things the way you usually do them due to your mental health. Impulsive and compulsive thoughts may be hard to cope with.

SEVERE

7 - You’re avoiding things that make you more distressed, but that will make it worse. You should definitely seek help. This is serious.

8 - You can’t hide your struggles any more. You may have issues sleeping, eating, having fun, socialising, and work/study. Your mental health is affecting almost all parts of your life.

9 - You’re at a critical point. You aren’t functioning any more. You need urgent help. You may be a risk to yourself or others if left untreated.

10 - The worst mental and emotional distress possible. You can no longer care for yourself. You can’t imagine things getting any worse. Contact a crisis line immediately.

[kingspadedying]

These are so important! SO SO IMPORTANT SHARE THIS AND SAVE IT TO SHOW YOUR DOCTORS!

[barisaxnumbertwo]

Oof the mental health scale got to me

[albusplumbledor]

[sebilahpena]

Toxic parent

[red-rain-static-deactivated2023]

I can't believe my brain just decided to have it's biggest mental breakdown during a literal pandemic, the fucking audacity

[kitcoke2]

you ever just not text someone bc you’re sad and you expect a “hey are you okay” or even just a text in the next couple days but never get one,, ahaha pass the bottle mate.

[ijustkindalikebooks]

I hope this is a little bit useful. 

All the libraries where I live closed today and I felt this might be useful to you. 

Stay safe, wash your hands, be careful out there and pray governments can get it together and stomp this virus out as soon as possible. 

Take care of yourself, and each other. 

Vee xo.

[sebilahpena]

When ure dead but keep telling them to alive;)

[sebilahpena]

Masi butuh diingatkan soal mimpi?

Jadi, selama ini kamu berjalan sendiri?

Atau, teman2 mu tengah berlari, kau duduk meratapi sepi?

Hey, bangun.

Dunia jelas-jelas bukan untuk para pelamun

[icanseethedeadpain]

Like when you drown…

[sebilahpena]

Are these feelings even real?

[sebilahpena]

Hello.

I am 19 today. And really need hug to face the world.

Cheers.

[sebilahpena]

Why am i born?

[recovering-suggestions]

I’ve seen a lot of people talk about how they want to be okay, feel better, and I’m gonna drop some knowledge on you right now. Just the fact that you want to feel okay means you’re getting better. You saying ‘this isn’t where I want to be in life’ means you are looking forward, looking to get better. And just that little bit of motivation means that you are okay, because you’re still alive and still looking forward. You haven’t lost hope yet, and I’m sure that’s better compared to where you used to be. I believe in you. Keep getting better.

[amargedom]

Daily reminder!

[minuty]

[chibird]

You can feel terrible if your self worth is based solely on your productivity and success, and you’re not achieving as many things, as quickly as you wanted. I fall into this trap so often, but try to accept that you have value outside of your accomplishments! Productivity can be one of them, but there are also others, like how kind or caring you are, or your dedication to relationships, or whatever makes you feel fulfilled in your life.

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[sebilahpena]

<3

[poemswords]

“But I tried, didn’t I? Goddamnit, at least I did that.”

— Ken Kesey, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest (via books-n-quotes)

[sebilahpena]

It's 9374844783392 true.

[greatmindquotes]

One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful. - Sigmund Freud

[sebilahpena]

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