All I ever wanted is the world

Since I can remember I've been a liar and a manipulator. Leading a double life comes naturally. I'll never be able to say I didn't explore my life to its fullest capacity.

[thesugaringescort]

Two Lessons:

Lesson One: There’s always going to be someone who doesn’t like, understand, believe or support your reasons and your life’s story of the “how, why, when, with whom and where” that you became a Sex Worker.

Lesson Two: Fuck em.

[itsborderlinebitch]

note to self

- stop checking who’s watching your story compulsively, or at all - stop checking if theyve read your message - stop deleting posts and pictures when they dont get enough attention - who cares if they can hear your music blasting through your earphones, turn it up - stop comparing yourself to her. you are enough - stop apologizing for being sick - stop refreshing your notifications, my fingers are so sore - ignore the urge to conform to their expectations - stop talking, listen - do not let people tell you to calm down - stop trying to get them to want you , if they want you they will ask - stop making the same mistakes - stop feeling bad about thinking of his body against yours - stop refraining from appreciating yourself - stop explaining yourself - create. - you dont need people - stop feeling everything so damn much

[femininephilanthropist]

Sugaring 101: Upping your bedroom game with some sensuality and simple escort tricks.

*** Warning: Only try this with the sugardaddies you actually like and feel some attachment too. And definitely trust ***

Please heed the warning or you will crash and burn if you attempt the following.

PREPARE YOUR MEETING PLACE: If you’re regularly meeting at a hotel room, get daddy to get you a prepaid card so that you can go ahead and rent the room ahead of your visit. This will save him the trouble of doing it and allow you a chance to control your interaction. A lot of escorts do this for that very same reason: control.  For him, the businessman or exec who’s dealing with all kinds of shit this takes some pressure off him. What you have to understand about a successful man is that he’s always under pressure. He’s getting beat to shit daily from work, life, and home and he’s probably middle-aged meaning half of daddy’s life is already gone. Daunting. You need to be the calming voice in his life. When he gets there, of course be in your best lingerie, smelling good, etc, with the sheets pulled back on the bed. Or, answer the door naked, in a pair of red bottoms, etc. Or, ask to keep one of his ties for a souvenir on a previous date and when your next visit at the room arrived, have it on and nothing else.

If you host your visits at your residence, then ask daddy what kind of snack he likes. Fruit? Have some strawberries or grapes waiting for him when he comes over. He likes wine, etc.,? Have a glass poured. You can enjoy glass too. Its ok. If you have a problem drinking with daddy, refer to my warning above. :)

RELAX HIM: Give daddy a massage. Not an hour, just 10 minutes to break him down. This is a good time to ask for shit. If he has dry skin, bring some oil in your purse. First rub his back, making sure you’re getting in between those shoulder blades, etc. Skip the legs, lower torso etc. Unnecessary. He’s tense from meetings and conference calls all day. Turn him over and rub him briefly on his chest before you work your way down to his love zone. Rub his dick and don’t forget the boys. When he’s nice hard, start fellatio (if you do fellatio).  If he doesn’t want a massage or doesn’t have time that’s cool. You need to put it out there anyway. 

Time taken: 7 - 10 minutes

LAY YOUR HEAD ON HIS CHEST: After sex, cuddle up next to him and lay your head on his chest. If he has little or no hair this will be easy. If he’s a hairy bastard you might find another place to lay your head but the goal is to cuddle him. Use the hair to your advantage and play with it as you lie there. Twist it in your fingers or some shit. Make him feel like he just pleased you in every way possible. He probably didn’t, but it’s all about the fantasy. This is easy to do if you like him. Refer to my warning above! Say something meaningful like, “That was good daddy.”  If you have psychological hang-ups about calling him daddy then say “That was good baby..”  or “Mmmm I needed that.” All too often chicks are just lying there side by side with him in her own world. You can remain in your own world just do it cuddling him. This is also a good habit to have when you get married. :) 

Time taken: Not applicable

CLEAN HIM UP: Grab a warm damp warm towel, and remove the condom. Wipe up his penis and go put the condom in the toilet. If no condom was used, you can still clean him up if his penis is about stick to his leg. If  he’s caught off your guard, or ask what you’re doing, tell him “I’m just taking care of you daddy…” I got this one from several Escorts I’ve seen over the years. Trust me. You want some brownie points? Try it a few times. You can even be cute about it and say, “Gosh, you had a lot in there.” Or my FAVORITE “….I see you’ve been saving up for me. You had a lot!” The latter is perfect for you babies seeing daddy once a week. When you’re done cleaning him up, lay back on him. This is also another good time to ask for shit. 

Time taken: 30 - 45 seconds

TASTE IT: Now I might lose a few of you here but it’s my duty to put it out there anyway.  While you cleaning him up, put a forefinger in your mouth and say, “Mmm you taste good.” He might pass the hell out. If you’re good at this he won’t know you don’t actually have some cum on your finger. Hopefully, some of you catch what I mean on the latter. :) Or, if you swallow anyway then nothing is wrong with a little protein on your finger and tasting it.

Time taken:  2 seconds

PUT HIS SHIRT ON: If you’re going to be in the hotel room awhile, try this one out. This will kill him. If he wears good smelling cologne capitalize on it. With the shirt on, pull the collar up to your nose and say, “Mmm I love your smell daddy…” You won’t be lying if he wears good cologne. Chances are you already noticed his cologne but you were too much of a bitch to say you smell good. This is the sexiest shit EVER though. Nothing cuter than your 110, 120, 150 lbs ass in his big ass shirt. One of my previous sugarbabies used to do this. Drove me crazy.

Oh and congratulations!!!! Now he’s going to be thinking about you the rest of the day. You’ve inadvertently left your perfume on his shirt. Now he’s gonna be smelling your pretty little ass the rest of the day. Just don’t leave any lipstick!

Take a selfie with the shirt on. Send it to him days later in between your visits.

Time taken: 10 seconds to put on his shirt. Time elapsed before he wants to take it back off and fuck again: 60 seconds. Likelihood of you getting that Celine purse: High.

HELP HIM GET DRESSED: This one is especially important for the busy executive, businessman or man that works in a professional setting and he’s on his lunch break, or on his way home to his vanilla life. No, don’t help him pull his trousers up. But you can help with the belt as you kiss him on the chest. I’m saying as he buttons his shirt, go help him. Help him button the ones on his sleeves as well. And most important help put his tie back on and straighten it and his collar afterwards. Then finish it with a kiss. If you don’t get a chance to do all that, then collect his shoes and socks and bring them to him. Don’t’ try and put those on - that’s just corny. You’ll love his reaction I promise.

Time taken: 30 – 45 seconds

CUDDLE HIM: Recently, I learned something about myself. I read somewhere that one of the reasons why I cheat is because I as a man want to be cuddled and held. I thought this was bullshit but it’s quite true.  I know this is contrary to all the SD advice you’ve been getting but take it from a long standing member of the sugar community its true. I’ll explain this one better by giving a real life example. Now when I would first come over, Nebraska and I would sit on her bed and talk and she’d find some way to wrap her legs around and hug me like I was her long lost boyfriend. I was going through some things and it felt good for somebody in this world to seemingly take an interest in my plight. Then, she’d just sit there and stare at me like I was a big piece of steak. Staring at my mouth. When I’d talk too long she’d start taking off my clothes. While she was getting me undressed, she was always say one of these 3 things:  “ I know you didn’t’ come here to do all that talking…” or “You just gonna talk?” or my favorite “Or we gonna fuck or not daddy?” One day, after sex I was sitting on the bed and she climbed on the bed, sat down behind me so that I was in between her legs. As I was talking so she kissed me gingerly on my back and also laid her head on my back as we talked.  This shit made me feel like a king. When Nebraska and I ended our arrangement she said, “Well I was actually genuinely interested in you…” This is why I mentioned only try these techniques when you have some type of genuine attraction to daddy. Its easier to do and you won’t be faking which will speak volumes.

Time taken: none. You were going to be doing all this talking anyway, just on one side of the bed or side by side as you sat on the bed. The difference here is you’re cuddling him while you do it.  

Now, I’m about to drop half of you right here.

LET HIM CUM TWICE: You’re laying there in his arms, listening to his bullshit. Reach down and play with his love while he’s talking. After a moment ask, “You got another round in you daddy?” Regardless of his answer, go down and start blowing him again. It should be cleaned if you followed my advice earlier – clean him up. Anyway, if he said no, he’ll appreciate your dedication and let you try and revive him before he stops you. If he says yes, then its self explanatory.  Relax though. Your middle-aged daddy most likely won’t have a second round in him anyway. This METHOD is extremely effective with the sugarbabies that only see their daddy once a week.  But, for other arrangements its works quite well too.  

A lot of chicks are jumping up, cleaning up and rushing out the door, saying how you have so much to do today. Nothing kills a relationship like feeling like you’re being used (even though you actually are!). But remember, you want him around awhile. This is definitely a powerful tool to make that happen. Sends a clear signal that you’re all about pleasing him. (I hope the latter doesn’t get me in trouble). Trust me. An extra several minutes is cheap time to spend if you knew you’d be getting another 4 - 6 months out of daddy.

Time taken: 5 – 7 minutes

FINISHING TOUCHES: Put the finishing touches on it. When you’ve helped him finish getting dressed, and you know he’s on his way back to work or back to business, when he heads out the door say something encouraging like, “Go get’em baby.“ Or if he told you about some crap going on at work, take the opp to regurgitate it. “Fuck Bob. He’s an asshole. You should have got the promotion.” blah blah. You get the point. The latter can be applied even as you both do a last kiss before you head out the door. Again, it’s all about the finishing touches.

Time taken: 2 seconds

I know some of you are saying, “I ain’t doing all that shit.” But remember you are selling a fantasy. You’re giving the most precious part of your body away. Only to have your average sugardaddy relationship end in 2 to 3 months? All because he’s had his fill of your kitty. I assure you incorporating these techniques into your visits with daddy will go a long way and add months onto your relationship. This will help keep him coming back for more and more. Another way to put it, why not hook daddy for several months or even a few years and milk him dry (no pun intended) with just a few extra things?

I put the time on the end of these sections to show how long these little techniques actually take. Like I always say just a little extra goes a LONG way. These simple yet EXTREMELY effective techniques WILL prolong your sugar relationship. So why not incorporate them into your experience? I GUARANTEE daddy will respond to this stuff. I know because I’ve had it all done to me before and it blew me away then and it blows me away now as I type!

Damn I’m horny now. And my visit with sugarbaby isn’t for a few days.

Time to close the office door and get in a little pornhub and redtube.

[anshelinasholie]

me for 3 years straight: “sorry i haven’t been myself lately”

[nevver]

Common Phrases Correctly

[citrine8-deactivated20160610]

I Am A Sugar Baby

It is delusion at its finest. The men would like to think they are still desired, and the girls would like to think they aren’t whores. I want you to actually want me, they say. And you nod your head, pretending it’s not about the money – that you’d willingly let a balding, overweight, social inept man have his way with you. The moans that slip out of your mouth are genuinely for him, not for your ex-lover, whom you so dearly love. But somewhere in the midst of all the disgust and self-hatred, they do become for him. Somehow, you begin to desire it, and you can’t imagine a world outside of it. Maybe that’s why you can’t sleep with men you love.

Sex is foreign to you. Sex is work. Sex is money. Sex isn’t fun. And when you try to break free, you realize that it’s a poison that has seeped into every pore of your being. That no matter how far you try to get it from it, the chain is still there, clasped tight around your ankle. You want it to be a distant memory, but somehow it haunts you constantly. Run all you want, but it will take you back eventually. Let’s patent that. Hunt the whore. You pay for the things you do, by the person you will become.

I’ve become what every parent fears when they realize you’re a girl. Is my baby going to become a whore? And they do everything to protect you from it. No make-up until you’re sixteen. No dating until you’re married. You can’t wear short skirts, wear a cardigan. No one says it. But it’s there, unspoken. And is it the ultimate failure of parenthood? You always wonder, what if I had a mother and a father? What if I was loved more? And whose fault is it.

Someone didn’t teach you morals, someone didn’t teach you to be self-sufficient, I don’t know how to be an adult. Maybe that should be a class in middle school: How not to be a whore when you grow up. When your family says they’re always worried about you, this is why. Even if you don’t say it, it bleeds from the sadness in your eyes, your soft-spoken demeanor, the slices on your thighs. The vodka filled water bottles and extra glasses of red wine with dinner. We had a whole bottle, where did it go? The short dresses and flirtatious personality. Crying yourself to sleep at night. And your lovers they can tell too. A forty-minute blow job? Sure. I want to fuck you in the ass. Sure. I want to suck on your breasts until they bleed. Sure. Why? Anything for you. If you want it this badly, you should have it. Somewhere in all the perversion, you start to want it too. But you never really know if it’s you. You’re the epitome of dysfunction. What do you like? I don’t know. What turns on you? I don’t know. Does this feel good? Nothing feels good anymore.

You can sift through hundreds of pages of Google searches for reasons against being a sugar baby, an escort. Except for the possibility of rape and murder, you will not find a single article warning you about the consequences of such an action. Instead, you will find articles illustrating the sexually liberating, financial stability, ego-boosting opportunity. It’s a dark secret, but the minute you meet your first client, no one will tell you how it changes you forever.

You are no longer the bright-eyed, happy and hopeful black haired girl smiling back at you. You are now deceitful, you are now distrustful, hateful, suspicious, and selfish. And you wonder if your father does this. Your peach glow has suddenly turned into a mucky black. Pretend all you want it doesn’t exist, but a part of your soul has withered away forever. You’re writing this story, but you realize it’s not fiction, it’s your life. Suddenly it’s the most heartbreaking thing you’ve read. Is this really happening? I think I’m dreaming again. You forget who you are. And you forget what innocence felt like. Dream all you want, but you can never go back to nineteen again, the time when such things never existed. Haven’t eaten in a week? You beg your parents for money. Not the talent section of craigslist.

And yet, even though you know it destroys you, it lures you back in. This will be the last time you say, three thousand, that’s all I need. The cycle begins again. The cycle of whore-dom. You consider it. You do it. You loathe it. You fall apart. Hunt the whore. You’ve lost. Game over.

-anonymous via http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2013/04/i-am-sugar-baby/

[sugar4life]

Non-glamorous Sugaring Stuff

A list of things that you may not think about when entering the bowl but really should consider.  He will smell. Dog shit breath. Body odor. Stinky balls. Something will smell.

He is married even if he is single. 99% of good SDs are married. So don’t go into the bowl thinking you can get a good, single man to give you lots of money. It likely won’t happen that way. Even if they don’t come right out and say it; they are married. No ring? Married. Doesn’t talk about wife? Married. Seems to travel a lot? Married to a unlucky lady. I find that the unmarried ones tend to be the biggest womanizers, douchebags and assholes. They want a SB out of lazy-ass convenience or lack of social aptitude. Married men want a SB because they don’t get it enough at home or their marriage just isn’t working any longer OR because they do travel a lot and figure why not get some side chick action. Different area codes and such.

He will be old. Very old. And only mildly attractive (if you are lucky). He will be from a different generation. His looks will be fading. He will have at least a few wrinkles (face, balls, legs, back, hands, wherever). There may be a 2-4 generation gap between the two of you. The hot, young, nice, good-hearted, generous types just aren’t trolling the sugar sites regularly and likely aren’t going to be actively searching for an allowance based relationship. You may score a hot, young, rich guy by freestyling but expect to work even harder to get actual money out of him and he will be a boyfriend NOT a SD.

Body hair, everywhere. Older men tend to not be up on the grooming trends of younger men. They will have hairy chests, hairy backs, hairy butts, hairy knuckles, hairy toes, hairy ears, hairy nose holes and so much pubic hair that you won’t be able to see his balls. And don’t even think about suggesting he trim it down or shave. He can’t. His wife will wonder why he suddenly cares about his hairy balls and back. Then he will have to end the arrangement out of fear of his wife finding out.

He has problems. And you have to listen to them. Part Most of being a sugar baby is to be his escape. If he needs to vent about work, the wifey, his kids, his latest doctor visit then you need to sit there and at least pretend to listen/care. That’s the deal. 

You get have to travel with him. I have been to some amazing places with some of my SDs. I get to see the world, stay in beautiful hotels, eat delicious local cuisine and I get paid to do all of it. The only thing that would make it better is if my SD disappeared from the equation and a cute guy appeared or my friends or my family or even a coworker I don’t really like but could still chill on a beach with. Or hell, even if I was there alone it would be better than being stuck with him 24 hours a day, for 4 or 5 days straight PLUS travel time. But I still go because, you know, money and free trips and shit.

You aren’t allowed to have problems. Outside of gently suggesting that you don’t have money for rent or whatever, you don’t have problems. You don’t have friend drama. You don’t have coworkers you hate. You don’t have anxiety. You can only have a “problem” every once in a while and that problem better damn well be able to be fixed with money. He can fix money-based problems without batting an eye but your emotional shit needs to be checked at the door. (Note: When you have been with an SD for a substantial amount of time you can slowly share more of your non-money problems but you have to gauge how much interest he truly has in them to keep him from thinking of you as another wife-type)

He may be very boring. The longer you are around him the less interesting he will seem. There is usually a reason he has to pay women for company. 

He may be the opposite of boring. He will have insane energy and keep you entertained but you should expect to need a day or two to recover from your energy-draining SD.

THE MONEY WILL NEVER BE ENOUGH. Starting out you think $3k/mo is enough. After a year, $5k/mo is barely enough. In a few years you will KNOW that even 100k/day isn’t really enough to put up with these guys.

It will be a constant mental struggle between spend and save. Even those of us who save like crazy still have thoughts of “spend spend spend”. You have money. You save it. You have more money than you need to save. But if you keep saving you can buy better things later. But right now that awesome Chanel bag is calling your name. But, no, later is better. Later is a house.

Once you really do become a SB, leaving the life forever will be difficult. Once you get into the groove, the job gets easier because you learn to deal with the negatives and quitting a lucrative, easy job is never easy. Plus, you can technically do this job forever. This can be your career. You can be a kept woman and live a fancy life forever as long as you give up a few other dreams. But right now you must work hard for it.

Your schedule doesn’t REALLY matter. Sure, you schedule around your own activities as much as possible but when push comes to shove you WILL cancel movie night with the girls, call off work, or skip a pool party if it means you can keep your SD around longer.

Tired? Sick? Tough shit. You still need to smile, be flirty and “enjoy” his company. I guarantee HE will show up for dates with a runny nose and a sore back because he only gets a few chances to get away from the wife and there is no way in hell he is missing play time because of the flu. Expect them to expect the same commitment from you.

It is a full time job. I repeat, it is a FULL TIME JOB. Until you have a good number of proven/established/long-term SDs who are surpassing your minimum allowance needs and you are saving like a madwoman, then you can’t really sit back and relax. Since they can leave you at any time you have to keep going on those terrible dates and keep researching new guys. It takes a long time to truly be secure enough in current arrangements to be able to stop doing this completely. Don’t expect to be “that lucky girl” who found a sugar husband after a week of trying. 

The odds are not in your favor. My guess is for every 100 contacts you make on dating sites, 20 of them will actually turn into sugar-potential dates and only 2 of those will become POT material guys and maybe 1 of those will become an SD.

SDs are not built to last. You went on tons of dates, did the legwork, and now are getting your desired allowance from a nice SD. IF he lasts past two months, good. IF he lasts past 4 months, great. IF he actually lasts close to or beyond a year then he really is a good SD and you can consider yourself to be truly lucky. Being with him will be embarrassing, like, all the time. People will stare. They will wonder if he is your lover/boss/father/grandfather. Walking to hotel rooms with him will be awkward as fuck. Every. Single. Time. Oh, and just wait until he wants to hold your hand or kiss you in public. Be prepared to be the center of unwanted attention everywhere you go. But if you can get past all of these things and still manage to find and lockdown a few good SDs, save your money and maintain your sanity then you will be on your way to financial freedom. It takes hard work but so do most good things in life.

[botanicbaby-blog]

Tall sugar babiess, where are you? 💖 Reblog with your height if you’re 5'9" & up! I’m 5'10"😀

[londonstreat]

ULTIMATE SB TIP.

1. Always cross your t’s and dot your i’s. By this I mean always tie up every loose end. That POT that hasn’t text you in two weeks? Shoot him a simple message like “I always tie up my loose ends so I just wanted to confirm that you were no longer interested in an arrangement with me?”

Always a good thing to do. Some of these men are genuinely busy and it can be good to show your interest. If they said ‘no’, NEVER be rude, always say ‘Well all the best, I hope you find/found what you were looking for.

(Your SB name x)’

Or something along those lines.

2. You never know who you could need tomorrow or what the future holds. Some of these guys can be very douchy, yes, but always maintain your elegance. Even if you want to criticise, do it in a way where you are still kept together. Never degrade yourself in conversation, if he wants to argue you can end a conversation like: “I don’t think this will work/It’s a shame this won’t work but I genuinely wish you all the best. I hope you find what you’re looking for.”

These are wealthy and influential men, even if an arrangement isn’t on the cards, either it could be in the future or you never know, he could help you in something else. I recently got offered an amazing internship by a POT I had problems with. He could be annoying but I was never rude. Sugaring can be great for networking in general, these men you meet may help you or may know somebody that could help you also to become successful. There is no harm done in being polite.

3. Hardly lower your standards. I say this because hundreds of SB posts say you should only have one standard (let’s say we’re talking about allowance), and never stray from that. I both agree/disagree with this. But we have to be smart and pragmatic. For example if I was offered £6000 a month by a guy I DESPISED, I probably wouldn’t do it. Or if an SD I had more fun with or preferred his company but gave me a slightly lower allowance. I’d probably take him but that’s just me. There’s a reason why many posts tell you to have other sources of income. You are not indispensable to these men. You have to seize control and never let salts or just stingy POTs lowball you too much.

Men expect the SB to be the desperate ones. Many of them feel entitled. He gives you an allowance offer you don’t want? Surely after charming him (either through texting or more effectively, in person) send him a “I’m afraid I don’t think this arrangement would work. However, you’re a lovely guy and I’ve genuinely enjoyed your company. I wish you all the best and I hope you find what you’re looking for.”

This shows instantly you know your worth and you won’t take shit. If he says goodbye - so be it. There really is more fish in the sea but sometimes guys will be annoyed by the thought of losing you and the fact you didn’t bat an eyelid at ending your relationship with them. Many will compromise on your allowance.

OR

even better a lot of them will let you go and I PROMISE in a few hours, even weeks/months, they’ll send you a message wanting to rediscuss or meet or whatever.

I’m always having POTS come back to me 😘💅🏾💅🏾💅🏾

[secretconfessionsofasugarholic]

He snores, & I'm up thinking...

I hate that I’m such a light sleeper.

Ever since I ended my relationship with my long term boyfriend I’ve become even more of a sensitive sleeper. It’s kind of a beautiful thing being able to move however much you want until your sleeping position is EXACTLY perfect.

I knew tonight was going to be long as soon as he asked me to stay over with him. I wanted to say no, but the money was right lol it’s always worth it for the money. Although, it could be better. But it could always be better right? Lol.

So he snores, & I’m up thinking. I’m thinking about marriage (not that I want it lol but about the nature of marriage) & about how this “job” is mentally draining & about how my life is so full of lies.

Marriage: What does it mean anyway? What’s the point? I think every “SD” (ugh how I hate that word) I’ve had has been married. After hearing about the AM hack & how it has 37 million users I think “wow that’s a lot of unhappy people stuck in their relationships.” I mean is there really ONE person that’s complementary to your life…for all of your life? Or do several people come in to your life, throughout your life, to match you in your chapters as you go? I’ve come to think its the latter.

Despite the common misconception that this lifestyle is all glamour, being a “SB” is draining; It’s a lot of acting. All of these men look outside of their marriage because they lack some sort of connection within their marriages. As a SB you learn who they are as men, what makes them tick, what they enjoy in their partner & you try to be that person because the money makes it worth it! But it’s draining. Really really draining.

Time & experience have made me such an amazing liar. I literally have fictional characters that I have as my go-to explanations for dinners and whatever else. I’m running out of ways to explain how I meet men lol. I’ll NEVER be able to come clean about the financial relationships I’ve had & will have because you just never know how someone might view you once you’re truthful. Suddenly that person becomes a saint once you confess something that they think is wrong. I actually have one gf that I recently got back into contact with that will probably be the only person I ever tell, if I ever decide to tell her. I think she would enjoy hearing some of my stories. As I mentioned we only recently got back in to contact so I’ll need to give it more time before I can make myself vulnerable to judgement.

There’s something nice about being awake when the person you’re sharing a bed with is sleeping. It’s kind of like being in the room alone, you know?

Anyway, I guess I’ll play a couple more games of spider solitaire before I try to call it a night. Nighty night :) zzZZZ

[lazyyogi]

A quiet mind is all you need. All else will happen rightly, once your mind is quiet. As the sun on rising makes the world active, so does self-awareness affect changes in the mind. In the light of calm and steady self-awareness inner energies wake up and work miracles without effort on your part.

Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj (via lazyyogi)

[trophywhore-deactivated20151127]

“I am an attractive guy, I have lots of money and finding girls isn’t hard for me. What makes you so special?”

“I admire your self-confidence. I am a beautiful, young, woman with a long list of aspirations and goals to accomplish. Finding a wealthy generous gentleman for a woman like myself has never been a challenge. Although we met through unconventional means we are both searching for a conventional value that adds to the equation. What I find puzzling at the moment however is where you can add that value to my life. Finding somebody attractive doesn’t add much since I could seek a jock-fuck (insert high profile athlete), someone that has a lot money might add a little more value because they’re able to help the small things like bills but there’s already plenty of men willing to do that. So here I am wondering, what on earth can you add as a value to my fast-paced crazy life?”

Feel free to add:

“And, if you are wondering what a beautiful young woman like myself can add as value to your life… then you are asking the wrong questions and are clueless how to take care of a woman as special as myself.”

Ladies, if a man is *questioning* what value you can add to his life that means he’s already TRYING to calculate if he can afford you – which, I’ll be blunt to say that he CANNOT. The men that are wealthy never question what a beautiful young woman can add to their life because they already KNOW the value and COST to keep her happy and AGREE anyways.

[trophywhore-deactivated20151127]

I hope girls use this (or similar) to answer that question instead of sounding desperate listing how they are special and why they are special. The minute you do that you’ve already proved that you are seeking his approval and you are weak. This is how a lot of you get chewed up and spat out by the guys in the bowl – you have no ounce of confidence to set a man straight. Know your fucking worth!! Shit like this will be included in my memoir as this is the basics of literally running your own shit!

[sweetforeignsugar]

A Change of Allowance

Alright, a little trick of the trade here. It’s Ramadan and I’m trying to keep focused on my relationship with my creator, but I wanted to go ahead and write this before I forgot. 

I have, several times, garnered higher allowances from SDs over time. It happened in different ways and when I actively tried to do it, I used different tactics so I’ll share those.

First, I dated a guy who was super wealthy and kind of lowballed me at first. He offered me 6K/month which seemed low for the sort of guy he was, but he promised shopping and trips etc. I also genuinely liked him and he was pretty attractive so all in all it wasn’t a bad offer but not spectacular. Then, after the first month, he moved it up to 8K. Then up to 10K. And I think he would have kept raising it over time but I ended up moving across the country so I didn’t find out. But still, he raised the allowance significantly over time because he appreciated loyalty and building up the relationship. I had a similar, less dramatic, allowance increase with another SD as well.

Second, I had a SD who really became super infatuated with me. He was super sweet and paying a decent allowance, and very generous for his income bracket, but I felt like he liked me enough to give even more. So I started telling him about my expenses, just dropping hints here and there. I told him it was hard paying off my student loans (I didn’t have any but he didn’t need to know that) and helping take care of my family (that part was true) and he offered me more allowance money. But here’s what I did and it was a gamble: I told him no. I told him what he gave me was more than enough and that I appreciated how much he was helping me already. The next month, he put even more money in my account and insisted upon it, saying it was his pleasure to help take care of me. Sometimes taking a gamble pays off.

Third, and this was also a gamble, I showed him what other men would give me. I didn’t really expect it would go over well so I don’t exactly recommend this, but it worked out in my case. He refused to budge on giving me more allowance, so I went online, and found men who made me solid higher offers. I told him I wanted a man who appreciated me and respected my time, and to my surprise, he went for it and raised my allowance. 

I write this to just give you some hope. Allowances can be raised, not always, but it happens occasionally and if you work hard enough and build up enough of a relationship with a man, it can happen naturally and or easily. 

Best of luck sugaring everyone!

[calibrownsugarbaby]

I wanted to share some info on getting a DBA and how it’s helped me. A DBA stands for “doing business as.” So for example Katy Perry’s real name is Katy Hudson, but she does business as her stage name which is Katy Perry.

You can get a DBA from your county clerk’s office. Mine cost about $40. You put your sugar name as the name you wish to conduct business as. I’ve used this to check into hotels that were put under my sugar name. I’ve used this to open a bank account so that my SD can write me checks using my sugar name. I have yet to use it to fly with, but I’ve heard other girls say they’ve done it without a problem. Hope this helps!

[noloveallowedsugar-deactivated2]

Creative Writing

If you need help with your writing skills, please join my tiny chat right now, and I will show you the trick of the trade. 

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[howaboutsugar]

Sugar baby profile writing tips

Hello Y’all, Had a good day today (shopping!) so I decided to give you some tips on profile writing.

English is not my first language, hence I will not give you much ‘technical’ tips, but I’ll focus more on the content of your profile. 

The obvious

1. On SA there is a section “about me” and “what I’m looking for” -or something along those lines. Make sure that what you write under those headings is relevant. I see way too many saying under ‘what I’m looking for” ; ‘see the above’… there is a reason why SA has two headings. 

2. Write coherent and with correct grammar (no slang). If English is not your first language, check it multiple times and maybe just sleep and re-read it the day after. Using correct and appropriate language directly sets a more intelligent tone. 

Although I first didn’t want to include the above point, until I saw this profile: I’m fabulous…I’m an incredible dresser, I’ve got buckets of sexiness, I’m a hoot and a half and I got a killer……… lol I love to laugh & smile, A sassy socialista well known for her silver tongue. Oh & the genius behind, I’m a Straight Talkin’, Fun Lovin’, Ass Kickin’, Inspirin’ COACHin’ Chic, Conductin the 2 Thumbs Up POSSIBILITY Band! LIFE OF THIS PARTY…and yh, the obvious….. i love “it”!..YOU KNOW WHAT INNIT?. I’m really a giant cupcake. Afraid of roller coasters and dry ice. enough about me there!

(sorry if you are on tumblr, again these are just my opinions)

3. Write more than a paragraph. It is not inviting to say: If you want to find out more about me; just send an e-mail :). I saw this waaay to many times. Firstly if you don’t take time to write a decent profile, why should a guy bother to e-mail you? And secondly why would the guy e-mail you if he has no idea what you are all about? 

4. Don’t use the same word over and over again. Try to use specific vocabulary. Inspired by this profile: 

I am a very educated and very beautiful ebony princess.i have a very fit body and boundless energy.love fine dining,dancing,movies.i have some very unique ideas on how to have a great relationship with my daddie

very very nice, not? 

5. DON’T, absolute don’t use words such as ‘spoiling’ and ‘princess’ etc. it’s just a huge turn-off. 

My tips on writing a good profile

1. Be specific about yourself. I see way too many profiles saying “I love fine dining, shopping, travelling, cooking, masturbating, excersising”. OK, the masturbation was a joke, but you get what I mean right? A lot of girls put what they like without elaborating on it. A small explanation will better convey your personality than listing. It’s better to write about one thing in detail, than listing 10 things. 

Example. Travelling has always been a huge passion and a natural part of my life. When I was younger I developed a great interest in learning about people’s habits and language, since it’s truly fascinating to learn about other cultures. My favorite country is Thailand, I fell in love with the perfect beaches and the friendly people.. and would of course love to return some time ;) 

A profile should be about YOU, not what you want to do with your sugar daddy, or what you have on your shopping list. Write what you like, what you like to do what your future plan is. 

Topics to write about 

Education. Ladies, if you are studying; mention what you study and why you have chosen it/why you like it. 

Travel. Be specific, what countries do you like, or what countries would you like to visit. 

Music/Art/Drama. A lot of wealthy men love the arts. Do you dance? Great! Mention what style. Do you paint/draw/etc? Awesome! Write what art genre you love, and what your inspirations are. 

Future. What are your ambitions? SD’s love passionate Sugar babbies. Tell about your role models/inspirations as well. 

Any other hobby/important event in your life that reflects who you are.

BE UNIQUE!

2. Write three paragraphs on three different subjects each. Don’t put one big chunk of text, this doesn’t invite someone to read it. Mine is structured as; background, education, traveling. 

3. Don’t say anything negative about yourself. Not even if you want to make a joke that you are not such a good cook. You never now how a potential sugar daddy may intepret this, nor do you know if he gets the joke. 

4. Don’t be afraid to show your personality. Don’t think that you will attract more men by keeping your profile generic. You can never make EVERYONE like you. Therefore there will always be men who will like your profile and men who won’t like you. 

On ‘what I’m looking for’ 

1. Be honest. Say what you are looking for in a subtle manner. However exclude saying things such as; I’m a virgin or I’m looking for X $ a month. Don’t talk sex, don’t talk money. Just honestly say how you would imagine a perfect arrangement. 

Again be specific. Don’t list! 

Don’t: We could go together for dinner, cinema, spa, holiday, cooking, clubbing

Do: In a perfect arrangement we would do things together that we both enjoy. I love to go fine dining, and am a huge fan of the Italian cuisine, while at the same time I really like to explore local restaurants as well. For some change I always enjoy going to the beach and having an early lunch near the sea. 

2. Don’t be too demanding, and don’t be negative. Know what to include and exclude

I know you are looking for a men that will respect your time/body/ whatever, but what is the use of mentioning that? Unrespectful men will not be scared away by that. Similarly don’t begin with “Only wealthy men please!” this has the same effect as when men say “Only attractive people please!” it’s really inappropriate. Just don’t say any negative conditions. However you can say that for example you are only looking for an SD under 50 (if you definitely have an age limit). Just make it subtle. 

3. Use correct pronouns

Don’t; I would love to go with my SD on short trips during the weekend

Do: I would love to go with you on short trips during the weekend

I think that was it for now. I’ll probably edit it or post a part two, since I have so many more tips! But now I’m tired from typing ;) 

THESE ARE MY VIEWS! THIS IS NOT OBJECTIVE FACTUAL INFORMATION. Take from it what you like :)

Good luck!

[sugarbabydallas]

Vocal Tone Phone Ettiquette

Real and true Sugar Daddy’s are like unicorns. Rare, mystical and magical!

Make sure that you always speak to them in that same charming and powerful way. Inundate them with sexyness. The tone of Toni Braxton, Whitney Houston or even Ariana Grande. Soft, raspy, airy.

Speaking to men in this tone has always helped me stun and shock them into doing what I want.

Be alluring and engaging when you speak. After you’ve seamlessly worked talking about your desires into the conversation, NATURALLY. Bring up the item(s) wanted.

A secondary tone that I use to get what I want is the “bratty baby girl tone”. Imagine that you’re a super cute and adorable young girl, innocent and spoiled.

Example: OMG Baby/Daddy! I want this SOOO bad. It’s so amazing and adorable!! It would look so cute on me! Or “I would love to have this.”

*Try on item if at store or show/ share photo of item if not at a store* Then touch his hand, arm etc. Always seal the deal with physical touch.

*Tip*

Be sure to always communicate in a controlled, sophisticated and sexy way. The best tones in my experience are bratty/ childish or Sexy, light and raspy. Utilise a charming voice to woo your daddy when you do speak up. Make sure that you’re the sweetest sound that he’d want to hear.

Make that sugar fall babies!