Why can’t people just be friends?
A subtle thing I’ve noticed about alloromantic culture and how it’s bothered me is the constant need to ship people romantically, especially real life people.Â
The other day I saw a guy and girl, two friends, being close. Someone asked if their siblings, friends, or dating. When someone said they were friends, people were so quick to deny it and be disappointed. They know nothing about these real life people and are quick to assume that there has to be romantic paring. And I just don’t get why people are so invested.
People were quick to blame the girl for friend zoning the guy and make up all this stuff. People can’t seem to be close or do nice things for each other without it being assumed by strangers that they’re secretly in love.
I don’t like the culture around friend zoning either though. It makes it seem like being friends is a terrible thing and that romantic love is the one true thing everyone needs.Â
A lot of what these people have said that I’ve seen, are not directly aphobic, but they are very similar to things an aphobe would say.
This assuming that everything is inherently romantic does annoy me. I don’t know why it has to be all romantic and I’m a pretty favorable person for romance. In fiction I mind it less, but real people aren’t characters. You don’t know them. Stop assuming things and let them live their lives.Â












