[nfperspective]

Can we talk about  how the idea that "you'll never really heal unless you forgive them" is just another form of victim blaming?

[serotonin-trauma-blog]

hi guys just letting you know that I’ve recently started a trauma survivor positivity/recovery blog, that’ll also be filled with wholesome stuff and cute suggestion posts etc

@serotonin-angel :))

[positivepatton]

Shoutout to the victims of child abuse who don’t feel innocent.

Whether you threw tantrums, got in fights, broke expensive things, said means things, or caused any other type of trouble, you still never deserved to be abused. Children are at the disadvantage against adults, whether they feel like they are or not. Your abuse and trauma is valid and you deserve as much sympathy and recovery just as much as any other survivor.

[serotonin-trauma-blog]

it’s so much easier to fight against angry fists than a resentful tongue.

[serotonin-trauma-blog]

I’ll get out of here and I’ll never come back

[serotonin-trauma-blog]

I feel like I’m trapped inside

a burning house

and I’m breathing in

the thick smoke

that is your words.

[furiousgoldfish]

If your parents have made you feel incredibly guilty and selfish for wanting to move out, something is wrong there. It’s normal for children who want to move away, to move away. Parents should be aspiring for you to be independent and capable of living happily in a place of your choosing. Children of healthy and happy families move away all the time, and parents support and welcome it, and teach their children all possible skills they could use to have it good in life outside their home.

If just thinking about leaving your parents fills you up with dread, if you can imagine the guilt they would inflict upon you, how they would try to convince you that you’re selfish, cruel, abandoning them, or that you will never make it on your own, that you’re incompentent, dumb, and incapable of survival, this isn’t normal. Your parents should never emotionally manipulate you like this in order to get something out of you. Especially if that something would deny you the life you want, the opportunities you want, the environment you’d feel good in. That is taking your whole life and appropriating it for their own use. In this setting your life is worth nothing to them, nothing except what they’re getting out of you. That is not how parents are allowed to look at you, as something to manipulate and use and guilt into staying when you want to go. That is horrible for your entire perception of healthy relationships, if you’re taught to stay with someone out of guilt, it will be hard to leave relationships and friendships that are bad for you as well. It will teach you to make yourself small and that your only value is to be useful to someone else. That is not humane. This is abuse.

[enbieboy]

[not-my-fault-i-promise]

I feel like a broken, used up toy.

[serotonin-trauma-blog]

I have no empathy for those who hurt me.

[garden-of-growth]

I don’t actually remember anything about it

[iamfinallybreakingfree]

My home will be a home with no loud anger, no explosive rage, no slamming doors or breaking glass, no name calling, shaming or blackmail. My home will be gentle, it will be warm. It will keep my loved ones safe. No fear, no hurt and no worries. I may come from a broken and twisted place but I will build something whole and safe. I’ll sing in the shower again, cook with a smile and dance in all the rooms. I will heal.

[traumaeyed-deactivated20210519]

What it’s like to live with a terrifying parent

Mastering how to walk while making the least amount of noise

Refusing to leave your room in fear of being targeted or humiliated

Coming home from school not knowing what scene you’ll see when you open the door

Expecting to die within the near future, not expecting to live to be an adult

Starving yourself with the intent of never leaving your room

Urinating or defecating in cans or bottles in fear of leaving your room

 Making a habit of locking doors behind you

Finding more comfort in fictional characters than your peers

Feeling overwhelming fear when imagining asking them for anything, especially when thinking of asking them for help or emotional support

Refusing to speak up about the abuse in fear of being killed or injured

Listening to music to mask the sound of arguments or screaming in the other room

Agreeing with everything the parent says even if you disagree

Wondering years later how you’re still alive

Not knowing how to live, only knowing how to survive

Feeling an intense amount of mistrust towards other adults outside your home

Never feeling like you’re alone, feeling like you always have eyes watching you

Avoiding going home, doing everything you can to stay at school, go out with friends, or take the longest route home

Over-analyzing your every move in fear it might upset them if you do the wrong thing

Never having friends over

Never having a social life

Using your most treasured hobby to escape your reality

Not knowing what to expect. Ever.

[positivepatton]

Shoutout to the victims of child abuse who don’t feel innocent.

Whether you threw tantrums, got in fights, broke expensive things, said means things, or caused any other type of trouble, you still never deserved to be abused. Children are at the disadvantage against adults, whether they feel like they are or not. Your abuse and trauma is valid and you deserve as much sympathy and recovery just as much as any other survivor.

[serotonin-trauma-blog]

there was a time when I was pure, but I can’t remember it.

[serotonin-trauma-blog]

you are not your mental illness.

you are not your disability.

you are not your illness.

you are not your intrusive thoughts.

you are not your abuser.

[liz-cat-meow-deactivated2020011]