#physical abuse

[softgritspoonie]

[whump-queen]

captor hitting their pretty writhing victim with an open hand again and again until they just stop moving and go limp and stop struggling and give into whatever their captor wants because it’s better than getting hit again

[glitchback]

[a-sip-of-milo]

Things people label as abuse when it's done to a partner that parents somehow get away with

Hitting/spanking. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but fair discipline when it's a child.

No privacy (no privacy = going through their phone, tracking their location, attending therapy appointments, etc.). Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but good parenting when it's a teenager.

Emotional neglect. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but "not the parents' fault" when it's a child.

Overworking them. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but earning their keep when it's a child.

Doing things to purposely make them cry. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but hilarious when it's a kid.

Breaking their stuff/deleting video game progress. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but fair discipline when it's a child.

Forcing affection when they don't want to. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but teaching them good manners when it's a child.

Locking them in a room that they can't escape. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but "they've got to learn one way or another" if it's a child.

Expecting them to suppress their emotions. Abusive/toxic if it's a partner but teaching them to be mature if it's a child.

Getting angry when they ask a question/challenge your logic/need clarification. Abusive/toxic if it's a partner but teaching them to not talk back if it's a child.

Not letting them eat anything unless it's what you put in front of them (that includes not letting them get anything for themselves). Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but teaching them to be grateful if it's a child.

If you've ever labeled any of these things as abuse when an adult opens up about their experiences but will defend parents who do the same thing, you need to reevaluate yourself.

DNI: Narcissistic/Borderline/Anti-social/Histrionic abuse believers.

[yandere--stuck]

ppppim headcanons pllease i'm actually desperate (smiling friends)

🩷 Pim is a yandere whose behavior is shaped by how you act towards him. The best case scenario would be that you'd never even find out about any of his obsessive feelings for you at all. Pim is a romantic. He falls in love fast and deeply, and it isn't long before he's devoted himself to you entirely. You could be a friend, a former client, or just someone he met and hit it off with at a shop or party. He wants to know everything about you. He loves making you laugh, making you smile, and Pim wants nothing more to make you happy for the rest of your lives.

😊 It isn't long before Pim's losing himself in daydreams of you together. You'll have a spring wedding and retire to a cozy cottage somewhere in the woods where you'll toil on a small farm and have a great, big happy family together! So long as you reciprocate his feelings, you won't have to worry about any… Odd behavior. Sure, he might occasionally come across as jealous, but your loyalty and love would keep him stable. And a sweetheart like Pim would constantly go out of his way to express his love for you! Going out on dinner or picnic dates, getting little gifts for you, constantly kissing you and whispering sweet nothings and pet names. As long as you return his feelings, Pim will strive to be the best life partner possible, completely devoted to your and your happiness. To seeing that wonderful smile on your face.

🩷 If things don't go his way, however, Pim can be forced to use underhanded methods. Listen, he doesn't want to, but it's for your own good! You'll understand some day. Pim won't just abandon you just because you told him no. He's going to help you! And if that includes a little bending of the truth and pulling of strings, then that's the way it has to be. He'll “accidentally” bump into you out in the city or places you frequent. He'll stalk your social media profiles to get an even better understanding of what you like and purchase gifts for you matching your interests. Cost is no issue if it means winning your heart! He is constantly on your side in any situation, even in circumstances where he'd see anyone else as in the wrong, he'll push that to the side to defend you. He knows you're perfect. He's on your side. You can rely on him. There's no one else who cares about you like he does. Please. Please, just give him a chance. He needs you.

😊 The worst thing you could possibly do is ignore Pim or shut him out entirely. He doesn't talk about it much, but it's something that's affected him since childhood. The feeling of being discarded. Neglected. Especially by you, the most important person in the whole world. It makes him feel like he did something wrong. Did he hurt you? Did he say something to upset you? He's much like a loyal dog – no matter how hard you push him away, he'll keep coming back. And even worse, it'll lead him to spiral into obsession. He'll go in circles in his mind, ruminating over every previous interaction, every potential social blunder, and every message left on read. He can't stay focused at work and, some days, he can hardly get out of bed. He thinks about you until he's sick. He really can't understand what he's done wrong and it tears him up inside, breaks his heart. He doesn't get it. Is he not good enough? Why don't you love him!?

🩷 What starts out as sadness quickly morphs into anger. It always does when Pim is pushed aside to the point of breaking. He's angry. He's bitter. As much as he wants to hold back, as much as he wanted to play nice, you've forced him to this point. It's your fault. Because you hate him, don't you? Admit it. You know, you could at least have had the courtesy to tell him you wanted him dead. If he were lying dead on the street, you'd walk all over him. He dedicated himself to you and you treated him like he's nothing. Just say it. Say you hate him already. You've always hated him. But, that's okay. Because Pim can fix it. He can make you better. He can make you happy. You really shouldn't be surprised when you've left yourself all alone and vulnerable, for a little critter to sneak up on you and shove a rag into your face, breathing in the sweet chemical smell until the world goes dark.

🩷 Pim swore it was the last time he'd ever lay a hand on you, but… You were more docile after he first hit you. You started fighting back against him again not too long after and, well, you pushed him to his breaking point again. And he's so, so sorry! He didn't mean to! It's just– well, the way you're acting, Pim was all but forced to do this. He didn't want to. Look what you made him do! He smothers you in apologies and affection while you're too terrified to speak or move. It becomes a cycle. You feel comfortable or angry enough to lash out over and over until Pim can't stand it anymore. What's worse is when he starts hurting you not as a punishment but as routine. Hitting you, breaking your bones with something lying around the house, tying you up and pushing you down the stairs. It's not out of anger, Pim just likes it. It gives him a little thrill to see you in pain, to be the one to inflict it, and then so gently nurse you back to health. He likes it when you're vulnerable to him. Too weak and in too much pain to fight back. Just letting him take care of you like you should be. Dressing your wounds, giving you massages, making you soup, reading to you, cuddling with you... This all could have been so much easier if you just loved him back. But it's okay, Pim gets the feeling you're starting to understand. That you're coming around. That so long as you fight back, he'll keep finding ways for you to depend on him. Might as well skip all the pain and heartache and get straight to the good stuff, right? Oh yes, Pim will finally get his happily ever after with you. He can't wait to see your smile again.

😊 Sometimes, Pim really, genuinely wants to hurt you. He leaves it all to fantasy. Mostly. Choking you, hitting you, stabbing you. He can't help it when you make such a fuss about him trying to take care of you! He's just trying to show you how good of a partner he can be! But you keep trying to scream for help or untie your binds. And you hardly eat the meals he's cooked! When you do act cooperative and he feeds you, sometimes you spit it back out and–... He just couldn't control himself. He didn't mean it! He didn't mean to hit you. He's instantly apologetic, shushing you and kissing the spot where his palm is imprinted onto your cheek as you cry and grit your teeth. He whispers frantic apologies, petting your hair. He's even extra sweet to you, afterwards.

[this-is-adultism]

My dad beating the shit out of me when I was 16 then telling me he does so because he loves me &did nothing wrong

This is adultism and physical abuse.

[whump-queen]

tw: domestic whump, bruises, physical abuse

“Stop—! You, you can’t just keep hitting me whenever you want.”

Whumper smiled.

“Oh yeah, I bet that hurts you, doesn’t it.”

“Could you be serious for just one fucking second? You seriously can’t keep doing this anymore. People are starting to notice!”

Whumper scoffed. “Please. Whose ‘people’?”

“My coworkers—yesterday somebody asked me if I was ‘okay’— I told you that concealer wasn’t doing shit for the black eye.”

“I don’t give a shit what your coworkers think.”

“But I do. My job could be on the line here!”

Whumper’s face twisted.

“So? That stupid job is the only reason I don’t have you completely to myself.”

Whumper advanced, forcing whumpee to back away.

“Seems like if you lost it you’d have more time on your hands for more important things.”

“Like being your fucking punching bag??”

Whumpee let out a tiny gasp as their back hit the wall. Whumper hummed, amused.

“Well for starters, yeah.“