Being an asexual with food sensitivities is one of the worst crimes you can commit in social situations. Every interaction is like no I don't like it. No I haven't tried it like that, but I think I get the idea. No I'm not saying there's something wrong with it, I just don't like it. Seriously, me not liking it doesn't stop you from liking it. I'm not trying to criticize your enjoyment. Like, this really doesn't affect you. No I don't think I should just try it. I think being pressured to try it makes it worse actually...Yeah I've survived without it so far but thanks for the concern.
In honour of pride month, some ponderings on this overlap:
I think that people get very attached to parts of life, like food and sex, that are embodied and sensual and linked to sense memories. Over time, these things start to become synonymous with what it means To Be Human for them. And, to be fair, I don't really know if I could accurately pin down what it means To Be Human for me either, but it definitely wouldn't be, like...eating food...
Which I know is not the case for everyone! I am well aware that for many people food is tied to family and culture and ethnicity and childhood and joy and stuff. Which is why you get so mad when I don't eat your food! Because it means something to you! It is tied to your identity! But for me, the process of eating food is something I do for my own survival, full stop. It has no sentimental meaning. It is not typically enjoyable. It is fulfilling a bodily need, just like going to the bathroom. And, because I have ARFID, the experience of eating food becomes significantly more anxiety inducing when I'm in a public place, when there is pressure to eat placed upon me by other people or by the social setting, and especially when it's something I haven't eaten before. The amount of mental and emotional energy it takes for me to eat something that I'm unsure about is astronomical. And so, sometimes, I make the decision to refuse food in a social setting. This is my decision, about my own life and my own body! But it can make others confused or uncomfortable. It is not a personal attack! It has nothing to do with you!!
In a similar way, I think people are very sensitive about sex and sexuality, because again, it is linked to some nebulous idea about what Humanity Is and Does. You are supposed to act a certain way in social settings in certain contexts with certain end goals in mind. You are supposed to, eventually, find a partner and be having regular sex with them. Maybe you don't like sex now, but eventually you're gonna have to get on board, otherwise how will you live a normal life? This is the path you're supposed to take, and when we deviate from that, people get very uncomfortable, I guess because it threatens their worldview. Or sometimes it causes concern, just like if you never saw your friend eat and were concerned for their health. How can you stomach being alone, they wonder.
And yeah, loneliness sucks sometimes. So does waiting for the social event to be over before eating. But trust me, if I forced myself to eat in a situation I wasn't comfortable eating in, it would be much, much worse.
Just like with food, my sexuality and my reasons for not wanting to have sex are personal and have to do with my body and my experience and my tastes. It has nothing to do with you.
So, for allos--you don't need to prove that sex can be good if you just have it with the right person, or the right gender. Just like you don't have to convince me that I'm crazy for not liking your favourite food. As always, the message is that people can be different from you, and that doesn't mean that your way of living is any less or more valid.
And please, I'm begging you, stop trying to give me food
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Common Bonds is a series of anthologies that focus on aromantic representation and publishes short stories and poems!
My story is Bond of Choice, about a mage/witch and a mermaid finding what works for them ^^
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Im listening to a podcast ep about AI usage and the guest is saying he completely understands why people refuse to use it out of fear because he shares the same fears, and it's just so weird to me that it's never ever acknowledged that some people don't use it not because they're afraid but because it just holds no appeal. There are things I'm sure learning models are very useful for but none of them have anything to do with me. Yes I'm a bit of a ludite but I completely failed to resist the lure of the phone, or social media, I've never used chatgpt because I have just never wanted to. I feel like the entire debate is instantly reframed once you acknowledge that it's not a necessary service that people either work to resist or avoid out of fear. For most people it's just an online tool, and for me and I know for lots of others too it's just not that important.
It's not that interesting or useful to me, it's holds no appeal, I am resisting nothing. I could already do everything I wanted I don't need a new tool. It really is that simple and I would feel this way even if it wasn't worrying and evil in various ways. We HAVE to resist this narrative that AI is everywhere because people want it, because it's necessary, because it's an improvement, because people can't live without it. AI is everywhere because tech CEOs and investors want to make something from their massive investments. It is incredibly resistable to me. Just don't have an interest in it. This needs to be part of the AI conversation if we have any hope of saving ourselves from the data mining clutches of big tech (AI specifics aside)
I write this post with a heart filled with both pain and hope. I live in the Gaza Strip, where the simple details of daily life have turned into a real battle for survival.
The situation here has become unbearable: Food crisis: We are suffering from a severe shortage of food and clean water. Food contamination: Due to displacement and destruction, rodents and insects attack what little food we have left, rendering it contaminated and unfit for human consumption, but we sometimes find ourselves with no other options. Health situation: The lack of hygiene and the spread of pests threaten us with diseases and epidemics every day. Insecurity: We live in constant fear and lack the most basic necessities of human life.
I desperately need your support to provide clean food and water for my family. Any donation, no matter how small, will make a huge difference in saving my life and the lives of my family. Please share this post so it reaches as many kind hearts as possible. Please don't let me down. All I ask of you is to get food for my family. Donate 💔😭
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I am Khuloud from Gaza, a mother of two sick children suffering from a skin disease called ichthyosis. I have no source of income to provide them with treatment. We are displaced and living in a dilapidated tent. My children are suffering from both illness and hunger. Please donate so I can provide my children with relief, treatment, and food. I am pleading with you from the heart of a grieving mother. I am appealing to your humanity and conscience. Please don't let me and my children perish. Be the reason for our survival 😭😭
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My name is Hussam. I am a father, a husband… and I am trying to keep my family alive. 💔
Before the war, we lived a simple, peaceful life in Gaza. My wife and I were raising our six children—four boys, one girl, and our baby daughter who had not yet turned one. Our home was small, but it was full of laughter, warmth, and love. 🏡❤️
Then, in a single moment, everything was gone.
Airstrikes destroyed our home. The walls that once protected my children turned into rubble. I still remember the sound… the fear in their eyes… the way they held onto me as we ran for our lives. I couldn’t take anything with me—only my family. 😢💥
Now, we live in a fragile tent in a refugee camp. ⛺
The cold does not wait. The wind enters from every side. At night, my children cannot sleep—not because of noise, but because of hunger. My baby daughter cries in my arms, and I have nothing to give her. No milk. No warmth. Only empty hands and a broken heart. 🥶👶💔
As a father, this is the deepest pain—to see your children suffer and feel helpless.
Every day is a battle. I search for food. I try to keep our tent standing. I try to protect my children from sickness, fear, and despair. I am doing everything I can… but it is not enough. 😔
I need your help.
I want to be honest with you: during my last fundraising campaign, I was scammed. At a time when we had nothing, we lost even more. It broke me—but I refused to give up on my children. ⚠️💔
Now, I have created a new campaign with the help of a trusted friend, so your support can safely reach my family. I am asking you from my heart—please give us another chance. 🤝
Your help can save my children. 🙏
Even a small donation can mean: 🍞 Food for my hungry children
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Hussam is a father, a husband and a survivor.
From a father who is trying not to lose everything
MY EYES ARE SWOLLEN FROM CRYING. I CAN'T SAVE MY WIFE.
Every day I watch her struggle without the urgent treatment she needs. Fear and helplessness overwhelm me, and I don’t know how much longer we can endure this.
My daughters, Alma, Lama, and Lina, ask about their mother and cling to me in fear. I try to stay strong for them, but it gets harder every day.
At the same time, we struggle to meet our basic needs. Food, clean water, medicine, and daily essentials cost more than $200 every day, and we cannot afford this on our own.
Every day donations stop, my fear grows even more. Without your support, we cannot survive, and my family’s future becomes more at risk.
Please, if you are able, donate today. Even the smallest amount can make a real difference for my wife and my children.
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We're in the middle of the school. Guys, we're done building the classrooms. School thanks to your donations, this is a very wonderful thing Thank you to everyone who donated and participated But we still have a lot of lacking
Hey guys, let's be snug. Why don't we complete donations quickly? Why don't you help us spread this out for fundraising? This is considered an institution. Why doesn't anyone care about her? I'm overloading my energy. Please create posts everywhere. Everything is available in Gaza, but education is still not available please help with posting We're doing a good job, please share and donate now.
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We're in the middle of the school. Guys, we're done building the classrooms. School thanks to your donations, this is a very wonderful thing Thank you to everyone who donated and participated But we still have a lot of lacking
Hey guys, let's be snug. Why don't we complete donations quickly? Why don't you help us spread this out for fundraising? This is considered an institution. Why doesn't anyone care about her? I'm overloading my energy. Please create posts everywhere. Everything is available in Gaza, but education is still not available please help with posting We're doing a good job, please share and donate now.
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Oh my God, my wife has completely lost consciousness. Her health is deteriorating due to lack of treatment. We are living through catastrophic conditions due to the war and the blockade.
We are suffering from a severe shortage of food and medicine; we are suffering from acute malnutrition.
My wife is four months pregnant. Due to lack of food and medicine, she has completely lost consciousness. Her life and the baby's are in danger, and I am helpless to do anything for her. I feel like I am going to die. We are living in hell because of the war. I don't want to lose my wife.
My wife needs treatment as soon as possible to save her life and the life of her unborn child. Please help me, don't leave me alone in this cruel world.
I ask for your help with a heart filled with sorrow, loss, and pain. I lost my mother and older brother in this war.
Therefore, I am asking for your help and compassion to save my wife's life. Is there anyone who can save my wife? We urgently need a course of treatment costing 450 euros to improve her condition.
If you can’t donate, please share my story so it can reach the hearts and eyes of kind donors. 🙏💔
My son Mohammed had surgery just a week ago, and we are living in a tent. My child is suffering from rodents and biting insects such as mosquitoes, stinging ants, and even rats crawling around his feet while he sleeps. 😔🐀🦟
Please help us protect my child from these rodents and insects and help us buy the treatment he needs so he can live in peace. 🥺💊
I profoundly dislike this woman, but I think it is disingenuous to present a paraphrase as a quote. The closest I found to her actually saying that is:
"When peace comes we will perhaps in time be able to forgive the Arabs for killing our sons, but it will be harder for us to forgive them for having forced us to kill their sons. Peace will come when the Arabs will love their children more than they hate us." Golda Meir - A land of Our Own, an ora autobiography (1973) That's how it's gonna be a little worse.
For two years, we have suffered from illness, death, war, and loss, and we continue to suffer. Yesterday, I was walking safely down the street when suddenly, about 700 meters away, a station full of people was bombed, and many were killed. It was incredibly difficult. I ran there, but all I found was blood.
In recent days, the bombings have intensified considerably. They are devastating, and many have been killed recently. My father's health is also in critical condition; he suffers from high blood pressure and a serious cancerous tumor in his bladder. This tumor is malignant and spreading rapidly. Please help me buy his medication to help him survive. Please donate and share this post. Please help please
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the “sexy lamp test” but for disabled folks: if you can replace your disabled character with a beloved pet dog that needs an expensive surgery to survive then you have to throw out your manuscript
Regardless of our religion, our colors, our thoughts, or our beliefs, in the end we all share one thing in common: humanity.
Please, show your humanity to kids.
I am a mother of three children. We lost everything in the war on Gaza. My husband is disabled and unable to move, and all I want is to be able to buy a meal for my kids.
Food prices here are unbearably expensive — even a simple meal costs around $20, while a proper filling meal can cost $50.
The type of food does not matter anymore… all that matters is seeing my children eat and sleep without hunger. Please
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