Some people might tell you this.
But what does being yourself mean?
In my way of thinking, being myself is being liked by the people I care about.
Getting liked for my qualities and being forgiven for my defects.
I know some of my qualities, which I am proud to have, and I also know some of my defects, that I work on to get removed from my personality. Nobody’s perfect, but why shouldn’t someone try to remove defects and add qualities to themselves? We have the power of change in our hands and we should abuse the shit out of it. Humans survived so long because they adapted. They changed themselves to be better suited for their environment. So why aren’t us using this skill to make us better people? Because of the comfort zone in which we live in and the fear of leaving it.
First of all what are qualities? “A distinctive attribute or characteristic possessed by someone or something.”
Creativity. I know I can be very imaginative with things and put them in a manner that works, looks good and gives a unique aspect to it. I did it in the past and I’m proud of it. This is not my main trait, but is one of many which makes up the image of who I am.
And defects? “A shortcoming, imperfection, or lack. ”
Oh boy...Seeking approval. I want people who I like to like me back. I know the story about “some people prefer apples and some oranges”.But sometimes I just fear of being rejected, which makes me in a way to adapt to the people who surround me.
I don’t consider myself a hypocrite, this is just the way I am. I like being liked. I don’t show off a fake personality. I just try to live up to someones expectations. I know that I’m able to, but sometimes I can get lost while doing that and this is a reason of which I find it being a bad thing.
So, in my opinion, getting to know your true self, is by being honest about who you are. Get to know what you like, what you dislike, what are you good at, what not.
Try to change bad habits into good ones because in the end, what you like is what you are, in most cases at least. Don’t let others control you. You need to trust yourself, because there is no one exactly like you and you should feel so damn proud about it.
With this, there comes courage. A beautiful, strong and sexy quality to have that can easily be misinterpreted with arrogance, which by definition is “an insulting way of thinking or behaving that comes from believing that you are better, smarter, or more important than other people“, and it no longer represents a quality, but a defect.
So, honesty should be the key to knowing your inner self.
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